Post # 1
We’ve started planning our wedding and at first, it was kind of a no brainer that we would have the ceremony at a church, then go somewhere else for the reception.
But since we’ve been looking into reception venues, we’ve found some beautiful places where it would make more sense to have the ceremony there. Now I’m not sure what I want to do anymore!
Post # 3
@nomnom: It was important to us, but honestly if you find a beautiful venue by all means have it there 🙂 Just make sure to talk to your Pastor about it. I know some pastors are very particular about performing a ceremony somewhere other than a church.
Post # 4
@nomnom: I had ALWAYS pictured myself walking down a church aisle, but I’m not getting married in a church! I think churches are beautiful, but we ran into a few things we didn’t like:
First, our parents aren’t members of the same church. Instead of making one family uncomfortable, or both for that matter, we figured a neutral location might be best.
Second, the church we looked at made me nervous about securing the date. They basically said, “the date is yours unless something more important comes up.” Not cool.
Lastly, and though this may sound bad, I know I’m going to want to drink a little bit the day of to take the edge off, and you can’t bring bottles of liquor to pass around in the church, obviously.
All of that brought us to getting married on the third story of a historic building (that is normally used for receptions), and I could NOT be happier. It is something totally new that isn’t done all the time. Churches are naturally beautiful so often they are a little bit less expensive, but if you have a little bit of extra money to play up an awesome venue- I recommend it!
Post # 5
For me it was the opposite. I was dead set against having the ceremony at a church. And I’m a christian. It was just too “traditional” for me and a church is just a building. I really wanted the ceremony outdoors and God was so present at my ceremony that it was just unmistakable. Our pastor had no problem driving to do the ceremony.
Post # 6
I feel like these days, everyone is having an outdoor wedding or non-church wedding. It’s up to you what you want to do, but personally I’m 200% positive I’m having mine in a church. I grew up in a faith based family and it just feels wrong for me not to.
Post # 7
No church for us – we definitely didn’t want that as our wedding is more artsy/quirky. 🙂
Post # 8
Having the wedding a church is non-negotiable. It is my second home, and I could not even imagine not getting married there.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I had always thought I would be married in a church and never outside, but of course here I am now planning my outdoor garden wedding!
Our church is just not an ideal setting to me. I love attending services there, but it is a huge church…it would look so empty with just our guests. Plus, it’s kind of dark, no windows anywhere in the sanctuary, and would be very diffifcult to decorate to change that kind of giant auditorium feel that it has…it just didn’t seem personal at all…we wanted to get married someplace beautiful and that was personal to us. We spent a lot of time early in our relationship walking through the gardens we are getting married in so it just made more sense.
Post # 10
@nomnom: My DH and I are very strong Christians (my husband is even a senior pastor of a church himself), and we decided to have our “church wedding” outdoors at our beautiful venue. In addition to our exchange of vows and rings, we had everything else that a wedding in my church would have included: Scripture readings, a time of praise and worship, a unity ceremony/symbol, Holy Communion for my DH and me as our first act as husband and wife, and a prayer of blessing over us as a couple.
I know that there are some churches (Catholic being one) that do not allow ceremonies to take place outside of their own formal houses of worship. However, this was not an issue for our churches/denominations.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@nomnom: I’m Christian but we had an outdoor ceremony (and had our reception at the same place). I don’t think it makes you any less of a Christian to hold your wedding ceremony outside of a church – our pastor officiated the ceremony, we recited traditional Protestant vows, included some readings from the Bible, etc. DH and I both love the outdoors – I think it’s an incredible part of creation – so getting married somewhere beautiful that represented what we care about was what made up our decision. I think the whole ceremony was very spiritual, and it felt amazing to experience our ceremony in the outdoors in God’s beautiful creation (our ceremony was under a huge, beautiful old oak tree). Know what I mean?
Post # 12
I have been a Christian as since I was a child and still have always known that I wouldn’t get married in a church. So, I got married on the beach a couple months ago. God is everywhere, He cannot be contained by a building. Our wedding still had prayer and a reading from the Bible.
Post # 13
I originally wanted a wedding in my church and then I saw outdoor weddings, destination venues etc but now I’m doing it at a church…it was easier in my case.
Post # 14
Personally I agree with several of you, I think that God is in the beauty of nature.
I was set on outdoor at first, but my fiancee wanted to get married in a church and I think our families would be disapointed if we didn’t have a church wedding. So I sucked it up for their sakes and now I am going crazy dealing with all the regulations and preparation, especially since we are not getting married in our own parish (getting married 3 hours away). It’s definitely not the easiest route!
Post # 15
+1 My church is my second home & my FI is senior pastor of a church, so for us, it just makes sense to get married in a church…besides the fact that I think my church is beautiful & it’s one less thing we have to worry about paying for. Also, after we are married, I will be relocating out of state to where my then husband lives. So for me it’s also very sentimental for me to be married in my home church.
Post # 16
@nomnom: It wasn’t important to me but it was important to my gran.
The first time she was married she had deliberatly gotten pregnant with my mam because her good catholic parents didn’t entirely approve of my grandad.
The second time she was married because she had been divorced she could not marry in a church.
So for her i’m marrying in a church.