Post # 1
One thing I’ve noticed since moving in with FI is that sometimes, work, exhaustion, stress and frustration build up and cause arguments. I realised this after I realised we were arguing over the best way to dry the washing up – and I realised that it was stupid and just our stresses talking.
So this weekend we’re going to a Bonfire and firework display. For the first time in about a month we’re going to stick on our jeans and spend a night out, doing things, being silly and laughing – and I can guarantee that the stress will melt away and we’ll be closer than ever by the end of the night.
It got me thinking, though – constant stress causes arguments, and a bit of laughter and silliness is a must for any relationship (at least I think so)… but how important is that time to you? How often do you and your SO go out of your way to do something to get rid of your stresses and just enjoy each other’s company? Have you noticed that when you just stay in your rut of work, sleep, wake up, work, sleep, wake up that you argue more?
Post # 3
@ZebraPrintMe: I would say almost every week we try to get out and do something just for us, even if it is just eating out, catching a movie or going for a walk. I totally find that if we stick to nothing but work, sleep, wake up we will both be a little edgy. I would say 3 days a week FI and I have completely opposing schedules, so we dont get to eat even one meal together- its days like those that make me sad. I notice I will bring up something he was “supposed to do” and didnt – and make it into a mini-argument just to have him stay a BIT longer 🙂 FI 9/10x leaves for work too early (as in will be 20 or more minutes early) and some days I just want some extra minutes!!!
Post # 4
Sometimes when we’re both stressed/edgy one of us will say to the other “meet me at ‘insert name of a favorite spot'” and it’s guaranteed to be a better night soon after.
Post # 5
I think it’s very important. SO and I aren’t married yet, we don’t live together, and we have no kids, so our interactions are always fairly light-hearted. But I hope we both remember the importance of a sense of humour once we have kids to take care of, maybe a mortgage, and we’re both tired after a long day of work!
Post # 6
I think life would be so boring without having a sense of humor about it. The random silliness and random goofing off are what make our relationship spontaneously funny.
Post # 7
Together my FI and I are ridiculous goofs. It is a rare day that goes by without one of us cracking a joke that makes the other one laugh. Pretty much anytime we spend together is a good time and we rarely if ever argue.
Post # 8
I’m a big goof. My brain sometimes lacks a filter and the most random crap spills out. FI is amazing and totally loves that about me. He’s equally goofy and I love that about him.
Post # 9
Absolutely vital. We would not survive without silliness.
Post # 10
We both have silly moments together! Even if it’s something totally stupid, like when I’m cooking he’ll come into the kitchen and do something absolutely ridiculous and make me laugh. At least once a day, one of us will do something to make the other giggle. Without having a sense of fun and humor, there’s no enjoyment in life!
Post # 11
For us its very important. I have to be someone that can be both silly and serious and each at the appropriate times. I couldn’t be in a relationship that was all seriousness all the time, just like I couldn’t be with someone that made every.single.thing a joke and didn’t take anything seriously.
I leave my work stress (though I hardly have any) at work and so does my DH.
Post # 12
Depends on your personalities I’d say. My husband and I are both gone for 10+ hours a day. It is a fact of our lives right now and doesn’t stress us. We enjoy the little things during the week, like making dinner together and taking our puppy for a walk.
We spend weekends together and a lot is taken up by errands but even grocery shopping is fun with him. We enjoy each other every day and don’t need time set aside to do that. Weekends allow for some getaways and provide time for things we can’t do during the week but it isn’t like we wait for Saturdays not to be stressed. That sounds awful and when I’m stressed I feel unhealthy.
Post # 13
@adoc86: +1. Leaving work at work is critical. It may take up my 9-5 (well, 8-6) but it sure as shit isn’t taking up my spare time too.
Post # 14
It is super important for us, so long as we can laugh and goof around, everything seems okay 🙂
Post # 15
considering I met him by sneaking up behind him at a bar and grabbing the F out of his ass.. very important. we can be ourselves around each other and we have the same sense of humor!
Post # 16
My bf and I are ridiculous together! We literally play like five year olds, chasing each other, all kinds of goofiness. We’ve also NEVER had an argument.