Post # 1
I’m really scared of having a cookie cutter wedding. My reception is at a big catering hall that does a ton of weddings, and I’m afraid I won’t be able to add enough personal touches to make it mine.
That worry has also carried over to my dress. I love lace, vintage-y looking dresses. I found one I really like and it actually looks good on me. BUT it’s also a very common dress. On here, a ton of brides have worn it. It’s not really unique.
that makes me feel insecure I guess. Does it matter?
Post # 3
I doubt all of your guests go on the Bee, so the dress will be new to them. It’s special because it’s YOUR wedding gown. Plenty of Bees wore my dress, but it was unique in my circle of friends and family.
You’re probably just stressed because of wedding planning. You will look beautiful. If you love your gown that is all that matters!
Post # 4
i understand, thas the struggle im having as well, the dress that is unique i love but its more than i want to spend. another dress i like is beautiful but it looks like what everyone else is wearing. its a struggle, do i stay in a good price range and look alike, or stand out and spend more. so i understand exactly how you feel. i dont think it matters at the end of the day as long as you feel good and beautiful. i dont think there are many unique things in weddings anymore. we will all have some similarities.
Post # 5
@MrsCreeToBe: I too have the same fear so its completely understandable. My friends have said, like the first responder on here, that no one else will be at your wedding in a wedding dress let alone YOUR wedding dress but its the point of seeing so many other women in the SAME dress. Yea, I get it BUT if you love the dress then nothing should stop you from getting it. No matter how many other women you have seen in the dress its still not YOU! Besides you can always make alterations and additions to it to make it completely your own.
Also, you dont have to reveal the designer of the dress. It can be your little secret.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Get a dress that makes you feel like royalty. If it happens to be a “common” dress, then so be it. I mean, really, how “common” is a wedding dress? It’s somthing you typically wear once in your entire life. To me, there is nothing “common” about that experience.
Post # 7
I know everyone wants a unique this or unique that, but honestly, there is nothing new under the sun. That’s the thing about weddings, they are rooted in tradition which is just necessarily not going to be that different than what other people have done. That’s really ok!!! I think the most important thing is what you feel beautiful in. No one has seen YOU in a wedding dress, and that will be unique and special no matter what you decide.
Post # 8
I agree with others. Most people aren’t going to scour the internet before your wedding to make sure your dress isn’t “cookie cutter”. Get a dress that you love, no matter who else has worn it here on the bee!
As for the personal touches, sometimes less is more. Stick with a singular theme, keep it simple, and it will all come together. Our only decorations were centerpieces, small silver elephant place card holders, and a hand made “just married” sign over the cake. I was also very blessed to receive a copy of my invitation matted and framed that we put on the cake table for extra color. 🙂
Post # 9
@MrsCreeToBe: It’s not important. What is most important is that you LOVE the dress and it flatters your body. So what if a ton of people have worn it before? The way you accessorize it (shoes, jewellery, etc) and how you style your hair and makeup will be completely unique.
I think a lot of people are caught up in the whole “I want my wedding to be unique” mindset. Weddings are pretty routine by nature – ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, speeches, dancing. That’s what people are going to expect. As long as you have good food, not a ton of downtime, and a good DJ, I don’t really think guests care if a wedding is unique or not.
Don’t worry about it – just enjoy your day!
Post # 10
@MrsCreeToBe: Just get what you love. If it happens to be over the top and “out there” or even (gasp!) “tacky”, awesome….and if it’s something you see 10x on here, so be it. The point is that it makes YOU happy.
Post # 11
@mgol25: + a million. from a guests perspective weddings are all basically the same. whenever brides focus on details or are concerned about things being unique or different…i think ‘the guests are neeeeeeever going to notice that’
OP wear a dress that makes you feel beautiful. chances are a few months later no one will remember much above “it was white and long”. i certainly dont remember any wedding dresses from weddings ive been to (except when i was planning my wedding majorly and suddenly paid attention. but normal guests? naaaaaaaah)
Post # 12
It doesn’t matter. I don’t think this craze to be “unique” matters! No one is taking your wedding and lining it up against everyone else to compare. Your wedding is special cause its simply your day and the people who are all there to celebrate, not cause you had a dress no one wore, or the fancy shoes that no one sees, ….
Post # 13
@MrsCreeToBe: This is a completely understandable worry. When I tried on dresses at DB, I was miserable. I felt like I was settling.
I ended up finding a gorgeous and unique dress on Etsy that really gave me that “this is the one!” moment even without trying it on. It is unique and lacy… very vintage looking. Very me.
My mom kinda took the reigns with my wedding at first. I am not very girly and the whole wedding thing wasn’t really something I thought much about (other than random pinning on pinterest) until like, three months AFTER I was engaged. All I did was book a photographer. My mother started making phone calls and ended up booking my reception at a somewhat rustic-y venue that decorates for you and charged $15/plate.
I finally had a moment where I was like this is not what I want. I canceled the banquet hall and now we are having our reception in a barn (ceremony is private and will either take place at the barn too or in the empty top floor of an antique mall/old factory). I am serving sack lunches with barbecue and lemonaide. I am making my decorations from thrift store finds. I finally feel like it is “me”.
Post # 14
Slightly off topic, but oh my good – you have just described exactly the situation with me and my Mum. I didn’t start thinking about wedding planning till a few months after we were engaged either. My mum has gone crazy with the wedding planning and is trying to make it this really sophisticated, beautiful reserved wedding. That is not me and we have had so many heated discussions because I know her ideas are more classy than mine, but I want my wedding to be mine (and FI’s). So thanks, glad to know I’m not the only one.
I have a similar issue, I thought my dress was lovely and unique until I joined the Bee and realised that it is hugely popular and loads of people have worn it (and sadly loads of people with better figures than me!) However as said earlier, it’s highly unlikely that your guests are aware of this season’s wedding dresses so it will almost certainly be unique to them. If you love it, it’s the right dress.
Post # 15
I think only us brides notice these things. The overwhelming majority of your guests probably don’t have a clue what’s popular in the wedding world these days. As long as you love your dress and own it while wearing it, that’s all that counts!
Post # 16
It doesn’t matter if you have the most unique, designer dress in the state. If you don’t love it and it doesn’t look good on you, then what’s the point? People won’t remember the dress details, but they’ll remember how YOU look. I remember that my cousin’s wife looked absolutely amazing, her dress fit her perfectly, but I can’t remember a single detail about the actual dress.