Post # 1
I just moved in about 2 months ago to the new house…Teddy was out of town on a business trip for the annual HOA meeting…and I was too chicken to go by myself to meet a whole bunch of strangers! I wave to my neighbors every time I see them…I have met one of my neighbors and chatted for a few minutes but thats about it…do you think its really important to know your neighbors?
Post # 3
I do about the same as you… I feel like where I live, people are mostly polite but no one goes out of their way to get to know each other. Maybe it’s different when you live in a house? (We’re currently in an apt building).
Post # 4
If you live in a house, I think it’s definitely important to know your neighbors. You may end up not liking them very much (personality clashes, etc.) but as long as you maintain a friendly acquaintanceship with them you will live more peacefully, should any problems arise.
Most people on my street get along, but there are some that don’t, and it is very annoying to hear their bickering about each other. For example, they complain about their neighbor’s kids walking on their grass, them cutting the grass and going over the “halfway” point, a bit of snow ending up on their driveway from their neighbor’s driveway, and the list goes on. If you have a friendly relationship with your neighbors, those won’t be “problems” to either party because you respect each other. As well, my dad and our neighbor alternate who mows the lawn (since our lawn is “shared”), and it works out great for both of them since neither of them have to mow the lawn every single week! It is also a pain to find that “middle line” when you’re mowing the lawn, and then the lawn looks silly if it’s not all the same length.
Very long opinion, sorry, but I think it is definitely a GOOD idea!
Post # 5
I definitely think it’s nice to know your neighbors, which is unfortunate as I’m practically pathologically shy when it comes to approaching random people and getting to know them. A few months back, our house was burglarized, and I can’t help but wonder – had we been on friendly terms with our neighbors, would one of them have called the police? Plus, from just a community-building perspective, I think it would be cool to throw a dinner party and have the people next door come on over.
Post # 6
We know our neighbors that are in the couple houses on either side of us, but not everyone on the street. I think its important to walk a fine line because its good to know them a little (so they can keep an eye on your house if you go out of town), but not so much that everyone is in eveyones business. When I was growing up we had a neighbor who always asked where we were going or where we had been- and we were like “we live on the same street, we don’t need to know eachothers every move!”
Post # 7
@karina-haha…I think that is a good idea about getting know some of the neighbors so that you dont have so much bickering…I actually witnessed a 10 yr old kid letting his dog poop in my front yard…and I can actually see directly outside from my dining room…as soon as I opened the blinds and caught him in the act and then watched as the kid walked away…the kids dad (who saw me watching from across the street) realized that I was looking and came over and cleaned up the mess. I then waved at him and he waved back…but I was kind of angry that if he hadnt seen me he wouldnt have come over. Maybe if I knew him he would have been a little more courteous.
@jduck84-I think that Teddy and I are one of the only younger couples without kids on our street…so I always feel a little weird when everyone is hanging out out with their kids and others’ kids on the front lawn of their houses. I havent gone out of my way to get to know anyone…BUT then again they haven’t gone out of their way to get to know me either…
@redherring-I think being painfully shy around strangers is my big issue. I am extremely social with people I know..but when it comes to strangers i am quite the introvert. I think the reason why I would like to know them is so if i leave the garage door open they can call or alert me…or like you said…if something fishy is going on at my house would they call the cops for me…that kind of thing. I think Teddy is a bit more social then I am…and I think the next time we see one of them out then I will make him take me out there so we can both talk to them. lol.
Im beginning to think that missing the HOA meeting was a huge mistake…maybe they were waiting to meet me and I never showed up? So maybe they thought I didnt care to know them? I HATE being so shy 🙁
Post # 8
I don’t really think that it’s that important. We didn’t know our neighbors at our house and it didn’t cause any problems.
Post # 9
We live in a townhouse so it’s kind of impossible not to get to know the neighbors! But growing up my parents were never friendly with their neighbors, so I don’t think it’s necessarily important.
Post # 10
We also live in a townhouse and we only ever speak to our neighbors on the one side. On the other side the guy is a total jerk! Plays his music really loud, lets trash pile up on his front lawn..its gross! Some neighbors you just don’t want to deal with!
Post # 11
We live on a culd-a-sac and know all of our neighbors. In the summer we have fires in our firepits and sit and talk while the kids play. While the weather is nice we are outside with our neighbors just about all the time.
It’s nice becuase if there were ever an emergency we would feel comfortable going to them and asking for help. We also borrow/share tools with the neighbors so we don’t have to buy stuff all the time.
Post # 12
I added a poll I think it may help! 🙂
Post # 13
I have lived in the same house since I was 2 years old and we’ve always known all of the neighbors. I can only think of 3 houses on either side of the street that I don’t “know” who lives there even though I know what they look like/what kind of car they drive. I love that our block has a very neighborly feel to it. When I was in 6th grade on neighor’s house caught on fire and the entire neighboor hood pitched in and rebuilt the house. I have grown up playing with the kids and we’ve all attended each other’s graduations, weddings, baby showers, etc. Now that I’m starting to make a new home with FI in a new town 45 minutes away it’s important for me to get to know the neighbors. It’s a slow process but we bake each other goodies at Christmas time, stop and talk when we’re all working in the yard, watch each other’s houses when we’re gone, etc. It’s nice to know that there’s someone else looking out for you when you’re gone.
Post # 14
i think it depends on where you live and how permanent it is. i rent in a large city. i know NONE of my neighbors. most folks are kinda stand offish- and we all work odd and long hours. Back when i was at home, we lived in a regular subdivision, so we knew folks in the neighborhood. itw as more permanent. and when i was young and lived in the country, we knew our neighbors even though they were 3 miles a way at least!
so definately depends on where you live and if you intend on staying there long….
Post # 15
i like knowing our neighbors. it’s convenient for different things, like if we need someone to get our mail (we always get theirs too), and when we go out of town we know they’re looking after our house. plus, if anything ever happened we know that we could count on them to do things for us, like walk the dog if we were in the hospital or something. plus, i’ve learned around here it’s best to be on people’s good sides. oh, and biggest bonus, we get christmas cookies from the little girl neighbors every year!
Post # 16
It just really depends on where you live. We live waaaay out in the country on 5 1/2 acres and our neighbors are not exactly close and honestly only have 2 other house on our road for about 1 mile. Right now, honestly we dont want to know anyone. Enjoying the seclusion.