- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
This past NYE weekend I found myself questioning one of my best friendships. FI and I got to talking and this prompted my question: How important is loyalty to you?
I’m the type of person that only has a handful of great friends. All of my “best friends” have been in my circle since I was basically a kid (13) and I only have four of them. Last year FI and I moved to a new city far away from home for work. In one year time I’ve only made one good girlfriend in our new city. The rest of the time I hang out with FI’s friends or his brothers who live here now too. I think I must have a really hard time committing to friendships because trust and loyalty are really important to me. I just don’t feel like sharing my life with anyone who isn’t meaningful to me. FI on the other hand has a million friends and will hang with random people all the time.
This past weekend my one good girlfriend from here in my new city really disappointed me. To make a long story short, she got me involved in drama that I wanted no part in. She made me look like a real bitch for repeating something I said out of context. After a lot of thinking I’ve decided I don’t want to be friends with her anymore. This decision means I will once again be friendless here. All of my other girlfriends live hours away.
Would you do the same? FI thinks that I’m doing the right thing, but he’s also worried that I’ll loose my one friendship here over one incident and I might regret that. I just can’t over look this disloyalty. I’m so loyal to the people in my life that I can’t accept anyone not treating me the same. How heavily do you weigh loyalty?