(Closed) How important is money. . .

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Is he not able to pay his bills? Does he save and plan for the future? $225K is a pretty good amount even for your area as long as he  is responsible.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

Hmm… DH and I have a much lower combined salary than what your boyfriend makes alone. We live in NYC and are doing just fine. Are you able to support yourself on your income? Does he make bad decisions with his money? I guess I just don’t understand what exactly you are concerned about?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Naomi21:  Do you have an income?  What are you expecting his income to “cut,” exactly?  With 225K — plus whatever salary you presumably make, you can do well in NYC as a couple.  If you are used to being with guys that make a million plus dollars a year, I can see how maybe this is a change of lifestyle for you?  Need more details.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What specifically are you looking for that he could not provide or you can not provide for yourself or on your incomes combined?

Or is it just that comparatively he makes less?

Post # 7
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5985 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@Naomi21:  You do sound shallow.  Money does not equal happiness.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Financial security is important to me, but that’s different than money. DH had just started a job when we got married, and I paid off his student loans even though I had no income at the time.  I’m not done school yet, and we’re doing just fine for now on his salary.  We can both live within our means.

What’s your income?  225k is well above average.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Naomi21:  i personally think thats a lot of money.. my DH doesnt make that(less) and we live fine. i mean we are not driving around in expensive cars, going on shopping sprees. but we are def not living without. i think you could get passed it..

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Is this real life?

Post # 12
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5985 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@Boston Bee:  Seriously!  I’m thinking “troll”?!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

@AB Bride:  “Financial security is important to me, but that’s different than money” What she said is what I was trying to say. Does he do anything that makes you think you 2 wont be secure? Or is this just a general internally based fear?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

This should go in the first world problems thread!

225k is a LOT. I cannot imagine being broke with that much of an annual income, unless you were HEAVILY in debt. FI makes in the 6 figures (about 50% of what you say your guy makes), and there is no reason to be financially unsatisfied. My fiance could make minimum wage, as long as he was completely happy with what he was doing. 

Are you financially participating in this relationship?

ETA: sorry, I saw you posted that you do in fact.

Post # 15
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832 posts
Busy bee

Totally depends on what kind of lifestyle you are used to and are looking for.  Are you going to be jetting off to Monaco every weekend, no, but if you’re smart with your money you’re not going to be going hungry either.  If money is a concern for you, I would recommend that you build your own fortune. It is a huge concern of mine so I have built my own wealth. Money does not bring happiness but lack of money can cause a lot of stress. Be honest about what you need and go make it! Best wishes!

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m wondering how you would feel if he thought this about you?

I think that yes, money is a huge issue, as it can be reflective of values, and how they choose to earn it/spend it/save it can tell you a lot about someone. 

But really, assuming he doesn’t have any addictions, or extremely poor spending habits, that income should be more than liveable, even in NYC. 

If income is really that important to you, by all means, find yourself someone who makes more money, but you know what they say about that “If you marry for money, you’ll earn every penny”. 

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