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    million    October 24, 2009   Cape Town

    My FI and I are not planning on taking a honeymoon. We agreed it's not a priority because we work as expats and get to do a fair amount of fun travel throughout the year when we have our breaks. Also, when we're working we're stuck in a pretty remote area and get a lot of time together.

    Then today I came across a special: $2,000 for flights and 7-days accommodation and meals in Zanzibar (we're getting married in South Africa so it's not so far to travel). I've always wanted to go to Zanzibar and this deal seems too good to pass up!

    Married Bees: Will we regret it if we stick to our original plan and skip the honeymoon? How important was it for you and your husband following the wedding?

    The downside is if we take a honeymoon we'll miss family time before we head back to China. Right now I'm blinded by the promise of white sand and blue sea so I can't see things clearly.

     
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    FlipFlopBride       Virginia

    We're probably not going to be able to honeymoon immediately after the wedding, but plan to take a trip later. This is a tough one. How often do you get to see your family? Perhaps there is a similar deal out there for a slightly shorter Zanzibar excursion? That way you will still have the option to see the family and go on a honeymoon? Get in touch with a travel agent, you'll have more options.

     
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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    For us, the honeymoon is really important -- a chance to just relax and cocoon as husband and wife, and to explore a country neither of us has previously visited!  Maybe you could just do a mini-moon, like an extended weekend to a spot a few hours away?  My sister and her husband drove to Niagara Falls for a mini-moon right after their wedding, and then waited a few months to do the "real" honeymoon in Hawaii.

     
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    Newport Nuptials    Fall 2010   Rhode Island / Massachusetts

    We go back and forth on this, if we have the money we'll go, but if the wedding goes over our budget, we'd prefer a nice wedding over the honeymoon. You can take a trip or be-lated honeymoon, but I plan to only have one wedding. That's what I think when we talk about the honeymoon, which we probably won't take.

     
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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    We are going away but we're also inviting friends and family to come with us.  I guess it's technically our honeymoon since it's right after the wedding but we're planning a much larger vacation to Australia or Africa in 2011 which we would consider our honeymoon.

     
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    Miss Disney    November 9, 2009   Dallas Texas

    My Fi and I are in the same type of a what do we do type thing!

    We are doing a destination wedding and will already be gone about 10-11 days for the travel to Orlando for some fun then the wedding cruise and then we are spending a couple of extra days at the parks at disney as a "mini moon" if you will....

    Then we hope to take a cruise to alaska in the summer of 2010...about 6 months later.

    With the economy in such a state and us paying 100% of everything its been hard to plan what we can and can not afford and still try to want to save for a house!  Reguardless of what you choose I think that you will have an amazing time as long as its what you and your fiance want in the end!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    We didn't skip our honeymoon. It was SO precious to us, definitely a must. For us, it was crucial. It was just him and I for a week, no phones, no emails, no wedding boxes begging to be opened, and the atmosphere was just incredibly romantic with that "we just got married" aura.

    Everyone kept telling us how important it was, and looking back, I can't imagine not having had that wonderful week together! It was just magical, totally unlike anything else.

    If you can afford it, definitely do it! I dunno, family time is stressful right after a wedding (all those questions and "omg omg omg" this and that) and it was so great to just check out of reality 100% for 8 days

     
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    Miss Hot Sauce    3/13/2010   Cypress, TX

    FI told me the other day we should wait to take a honeymoon during the summer since we are getting married right around spring break and he didn't want to deal with college kids at a beach (we'd like to go to a beach for our honeymoon). I have to admit I was disappointed. Really disappointed. He wants to take a mini moon around here (somewhere in Texas) which I guess is ok. I think the honeymoon is supposed to be a time to connect and spend just the two of you as husband and wife. I feel like it is important. FI and I have been together for 6 years but in those 6 years never have we ever gone away together just us not even for a weekend. Its always been going out of town with friends or to visit family. Never just me and him time. Perhaps if our situation was more like yours I'd be more open to the idea. Especially if you don't see your family too often. I'm thinking of arranging a small brunch Sunday morning for just our families since there will be a few out of towners.  

     
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    budgetbeautiful    9/26/09   Fredericksburg, VA

    It's very important to us. We're pretty stressed right now with a little more than one month to go, and what keeps us grounded is knowing we're getting on a plane the Monday after our wedding for a week of fun!

     
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    FutureFisher    March 13, 2010   Gresham, WI

    I think a honeymoon is important, it gives you time to relax (because planning is hard!) and spend some quality time with your new husband! It doesn't have to be thousands of miles away, you can take a short minimoon just to get some together time in!

     

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