How important is your SO's input on the wedding band?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How important is your FI's opinion on your wedding ring?
    My FI chose my wedding band/I would let them choose it without me. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    I would never buy something FI didn't also love. : (27 votes)
    31 %
    I would take their opinion into account but ultimately it's my decision. : (39 votes)
    44 %
    I have to wear it, so I'm picking it! : (18 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I say go for what you like, because it’s your finger! Are you getting to choose/veto his ring choice? My husband chose a ring for himself that was definitely not my favorite out of all the ones we looked at, but I figured its HIS damn ring, why on earth would I have the right to say “No, honey, *I* don’t like that one, let’s choose another one.” The last thing I want to be in a marriage is controlling, so I bit my tongue and now 7 months later it has grown on me 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    650 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016

    @Zesty:  we went to the store and I picked out 3 that I really liked and he picked one and bought. Since I loved all three that I got to pick, I didn’t care which he chose!

    Post # 6
    Member
    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    my SO could’ve cared less. he knows he knows nothing about women rings so he liked whatever i liked. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    811 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @Zesty:  I agree about the double standard. I like what @Kafrine did. It is a nice way to compromise, but still ensure you get something you love

    Post # 8
    Member
    2368 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We both have input into the other’s ring choice.  We picked the engagement ring together, don’t see why the bands would be any different.  We’re both going to see the rings every day, might as well pick something we both like seeing! In all fairness, it does help that we have pretty similar tastes and likes/dislikes.  If we were on opposite ends of the spectrum there, I think we might go a different route.

    Post # 9
    Member
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Honestly, this may sound a bit selfish, but my FI’s opinion on what ring I wear matters exactly zero to me. Not at all. None of the matters. lol.

    I feel like my personal style is part of me. It’s part of the things FI enjoys about me. So if I’m gonig to wear a ring for the rest of ever, it better be a reflection of my style. What you’ve picked is classic and beautiful. He loves you for who you are, including your style and taste. He’ll love it eventually, and if he doesn’t, he can just ignore that one finger from now on.

    Post # 10
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Zesty:  funny. I misread the title at first and thought you meant does my opinion count on his ring and intended to answer “no” because it’s HIS ring and he has to wear it. But when I realized you were asking about his opinion on my ring I answered “I wouldn’t buy something he didn’t also love”. Odd. 

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Fi doesn’t have a strong opinion about my band, he just wanted me to be happy.

    Post # 12
    Member
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t have wanted something my husband hated, but ultimately if I loved one he didn’t like, I would have chosen it anyway.

    My husband was the same way. I wanted a plain high shine domed platinum band, and he wanted a beveled edge tungsten band. We ended up finding a really nice compromise in a beveled edge white tungsten band, but if we couldn’t have found a compromise, he would have gotten his way. He though the band I chose was “okay..” but he wasn’t crazy about it. I got it anyways though, and love it.

    I loveee the ring set you have chosen & I hope you get it 🙂

     

    Post # 15
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    2738 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That scalloped band is gorgeous!!

    I firmly side with the fact that the person should love their ring (male or female). It’s great if their partner likes it too, but if not, tough luck. I picked my engagement ring and had my band custom-made. SO and I paid half and half for all wedding-related costs, including rings. I picked my rings and he picked his. We respected each other’s choices. Simple as that 😉 

    Post # 16
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    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think you should get what you like since you’ll be wearing it!

    …that said, my husband never asks for anything and he asked for us to have matching plain yg bands, so that’s what we have and I love them 🙂

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