Post # 1
I learned when I was looking at engagement rings that FI is very particular about jewelry. Now that we’re on to the next step, I’m in love with a scalloped type wedding band and he hates it! When I showed a picture to FH he said that it was “bumpy.” He preferred a channel set band with sapphires. I was hoping I would hate the style on but I tried on bands yesterday and it was my favorite one! (This is probably going to be hugenormous, I’m sorry in advance.)
I was just wondering if other bees felt pressured to choose a wedding band that their FI liked. Did you ask his/her opinion or did you just choose what you liked without worrying about agreeing on it? I’m torn because I feel like a symbol of our love and commitment should be something we agree on, but at the same time I just LOVE this style!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I say go for what you like, because it’s your finger! Are you getting to choose/veto his ring choice? My husband chose a ring for himself that was definitely not my favorite out of all the ones we looked at, but I figured its HIS damn ring, why on earth would I have the right to say “No, honey, *I* don’t like that one, let’s choose another one.” The last thing I want to be in a marriage is controlling, so I bit my tongue and now 7 months later it has grown on me 🙂
Post # 4
@aggie2010: That’s a good point. I might bring that up if I don’t fall in love with something he likes better, because it is a bit of a double standard. I just want him to be happy with what he gets, and I’ve been showing him things to get a feel for what he likes, but I would never dream of telling him I didn’t like something he likes. It’s weird, because he is SO not like this with anything else. He couldn’t care less about my clothes and other jewelry, but my engagement ring and wedding band he is super picky about.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016
@Zesty: we went to the store and I picked out 3 that I really liked and he picked one and bought. Since I loved all three that I got to pick, I didn’t care which he chose!
Post # 6
my SO could’ve cared less. he knows he knows nothing about women rings so he liked whatever i liked.
Post # 7
@Zesty: I agree about the double standard. I like what @Kafrine did. It is a nice way to compromise, but still ensure you get something you love
Post # 8
We both have input into the other’s ring choice. We picked the engagement ring together, don’t see why the bands would be any different. We’re both going to see the rings every day, might as well pick something we both like seeing! In all fairness, it does help that we have pretty similar tastes and likes/dislikes. If we were on opposite ends of the spectrum there, I think we might go a different route.
Post # 9
Honestly, this may sound a bit selfish, but my FI’s opinion on what ring I wear matters exactly zero to me. Not at all. None of the matters. lol.
I feel like my personal style is part of me. It’s part of the things FI enjoys about me. So if I’m gonig to wear a ring for the rest of ever, it better be a reflection of my style. What you’ve picked is classic and beautiful. He loves you for who you are, including your style and taste. He’ll love it eventually, and if he doesn’t, he can just ignore that one finger from now on.
Post # 10
@Zesty: funny. I misread the title at first and thought you meant does my opinion count on his ring and intended to answer “no” because it’s HIS ring and he has to wear it. But when I realized you were asking about his opinion on my ring I answered “I wouldn’t buy something he didn’t also love”. Odd.
Post # 11
Fi doesn’t have a strong opinion about my band, he just wanted me to be happy.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t have wanted something my husband hated, but ultimately if I loved one he didn’t like, I would have chosen it anyway.
My husband was the same way. I wanted a plain high shine domed platinum band, and he wanted a beveled edge tungsten band. We ended up finding a really nice compromise in a beveled edge white tungsten band, but if we couldn’t have found a compromise, he would have gotten his way. He though the band I chose was “okay..” but he wasn’t crazy about it. I got it anyways though, and love it.
I loveee the ring set you have chosen & I hope you get it 🙂
Post # 13
@MariContrary: Yeah, the problem is that it turns out we like very different things lol. I like vintage-y detail and dainty feminine rings, and he likes relatively plain bands with clean lines and modern, masculine touches. We originally wanted matching bands, but he doesn’t like super plain bands, so I quickly realized that there was no way that was happening. He picked my engagement ring and I absolutely love it, but it’s much more towards his style on the spectrum than what I would have picked for myself.
Maybe it would help to think of my completed wedding set as “marrying” (ha) the two styles.
@Kafrine: We tried this with my engagement ring and it drive me crazy because I always had a favorite! Lol. I can pick one but if I have to pick three I’ll be secretly hoping he’ll pick the one I like.
Post # 14
@MrsSkeletonKey: Thank you for the compliment! I’ve really fallen in love with the style, and it seems to work with my e ring, so FI might be out of luck…
Post # 15
That scalloped band is gorgeous!!
I firmly side with the fact that the person should love their ring (male or female). It’s great if their partner likes it too, but if not, tough luck. I picked my engagement ring and had my band custom-made. SO and I paid half and half for all wedding-related costs, including rings. I picked my rings and he picked his. We respected each other’s choices. Simple as that 😉
Post # 16
I think you should get what you like since you’ll be wearing it!
…that said, my husband never asks for anything and he asked for us to have matching plain yg bands, so that’s what we have and I love them 🙂