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Just curious about how much time you and your SO spend together! My husband and I are literally sewn at the hip and spend little to no time apart. How about everyone else?
We usually try "joint" goals like going to the gym but I've noticed my darling husband isn't into it nearly as much as I need to be. It can make my going very difficult. Anyone in the same boat?!
Let's share!
@nskillet: My DH and I have had a weekly schedule for awhile now that gives us time apart and time together. For almost five years now, I go to open knitting on Wednesday nights. For him, it's his time to have the place to himself while I kvetch with friends, knit, and have fun. In the past year, he's been doing salsa with some friends on Weds or Thursday nights. So, I have a day to myself as well. This week, we're both busy tonight. Our weekends are generally planned together with stuff to do with friends, chores, or errands. It's worked well for us for some time. When we have a baby, we'll have to figure out how to balance this even further, but we're game for that challenge.
I think it's healthy to have some shared interests and some separate interests. Works for us, anyway.
We work together, so we're literally together like 24/7 (and we LOVE it, honestly). I totally agree that it can be hard to do stuff unless both of you are committed/interested, though. My husband picked up running at the beginning of the year, and I am so not into it, so I just cheer him on instead. Lol, literally, I stand next to the treadmill or sit on the bed, and every time I notcie he's struggling a little bit or it's getting tough, I tell him he's doing a good job, keep it up, etc... It sounds weird, I guess, but that way we're still together, but I don't have to do something I don't want to (i.e. run!).
We're usually together. We do some things apart, but not much. Especially now that he hasn't been feeling well so he's working from home and I'm unemployed. I love having him home though!
Outside of work, I would say we are about 80% together 20% apart - once a week he has band practice with the guys and I have my girls night - this balance of being able to spend time with friends and have our own hobbies is very healthy for us.
This is great bees!!
@Mrs. Spring this is pretty much us! We work for the same company, and used to car pool in and home, and also eat lunch together and have always loved it!! He recently transferred to another location in the company so no more car pooling or lunch but we IM all day at work.
You're right! Its harder to get into that routine without the other person being 100% into it. I've gotta keep motivated!!
I work first shift and DH works second shift. So during the week we only see eachother for about 2 hours at night. On the weekends we are attached at the hip, because we don't get to do anything really during the week. I like the schedule. I don't ever feel guilty for getting stuck late at work or wanting to go get a drink with friends, or have dinner with my sister. I like our schedule. It lets us miss each other.
We spend a lot of time together but also have no problem being apart. DH goes to the gym every day after work while Im at home or maybe out at the store. We usually do something with our own friends at least once a week or weekend.
@Mrs. Spring: I'm FB chatting with mine!
We are pretty much inseparable. While we don't work together, we do almost everything else together.
To be honest, I never thought I'd like this much togetherness. I was married before and we both pretty much did our own thing most of the time...and I preferred it that way. Even with previous boyfriends, I required a lot of me time. But my husband and I spend every possible minute we can together now...and I love it.
I totally get how some people feel you have to have your own life and each of you need time to yourselves. Rationally, that makes sense to me. But we both like the extreme togetherness and it works for us.
We have our own lives and our "couple" life. We do do a lot of stuff together, but there are definitely things that we don't. I don't think I could imagine being "attached at the hip". I feel like us functioning as individuals within our relationship keeps us from getting bored with each other and . Our biggest fear is becoming one of "those couples". The ones that do everything the same, talk the same, look the same, act the same. I like having my own identity, as does DH.
We are together a lot but like being on our own too. We're definitely together a lot more than apart, though so none of the poll options really fit us. We live together and do a lot of things together, but I think it's good for us to have some separate friends and interests. I think being apart sometimes gives us time to miss each other and not get sick of one another!
we pretty much do everything together - besides work obvi. I wish we each had a group of friends that we could do girl and guy stuff with but right now all our friends are joint.
FI and I do pretty much everything together, including work. Luckily we don't actually do any work together, we just work for the same company and sit about 50 feet from each other. We also have mostly the same friends.
We always wonder how normal this is, and he even has a friend who gets mad at me because she hates that she can't hang out with him 1:1 like she used to before we were together.
We spend about 80% of our time together (outside of work hours). He's also got card nights, game nights, etc. when he's out with the boys, and I use that time to recharge my batteries and do things I enjoy that he doesn't. We're both kind of clingy I guess, but it works well for us.
We've recently come to the conclusion that it would probably be healthier for our relationship if we started more activities on our own. So far we've only made it as far as DH going for hockey night with the boys though. We have so many of the same interests and same friends that it has always just come natural for us to spend so much time together. We genuinely enjoy being attached at the hip when my man is home because sometimes he can be gone anywhere between 2-8 weeks for work, so we try to jam pack our time in together. We recognize the importance of having independent time too though so I've recently joined a yoga class and have been trying to get more involved at my gym :)
We do a lot together, but between school and both of us working, there is a lot of time we don't get to see each other. Last summer we ran together and went to the gym together, but he has a knee injury which is probably going to keep him from running this summer and he hasn't been as motivated as I have been. I do believe it is more motivating to have joint goals because sometimes I find it hard to leave and go for a run or to the gym when he is hanging out at the house.
Its difficult to say for us. When we are able to be together we are inseprable but that has a lot to do with the fact that because of our crazy schedules right now we never get to see eachother.
I would say we are inseparable, but that is mostly because FI is in the Navy, so he goes away for weeks at a time very often. We spend whatever time together that we can when he's in port. Once he gets off the boat though, I'm sure we will have our own activities.
I think we have a good mix of togetherness and seperateness. We don't chat a lot during the day because my DH's job is generally too busy. During the week we always eat dinner together but after dinner maybe 2 nights/week or so we retire to separate areas (me in the great room or sewing room, him in the man cave). I like a lot of shows he doesn't and vice versa so we tend to DVR and watch them separately. Weekends we mostly spend together unless there is sports on he wants to watch. I really like that we have the freedom to be together and not together sometimes and its all ok :)
It's kind of sickening, but we spend a lot of time together. We work in different offices at the same location, so we can meet up for lunch most days.
As for apart time, usually it's like him playing computer games on one end of the room and me watching TV at the other end. Sometimes he runs with me, but (shh!) I enjoy my solo runs more than I enjoy running with him. Having him there stresses me out because I'm not a very good runner, but I don't like him to hear me wheezing and hacking away while I run! :)
Once a week. Know im mad ! i was the ONe who voted were mostly apart people ! Emagin my face after i seen every piked the two other choices and i was the only one who picked the last choice... How lovely
he works 7-5 m-f so i see him after work on those days, on the weekends we are inseperable. I like throwing others into the mix, too, like have a bbq of just a get together with other friends. Just to keep stuff fresh and fun. most nights afer work its just me him and the kitten relaxing. :)
I voted 'always apart' because FI works out of town M-F every week, and I work all day Saturday ... so the only time we get together is late Fri and Sat, and all day Sunday. We both have separate interests and hobbies, but when we're together we're like white on rice. Very close, always holding hands or something, it's sweet. :)
We love to be together, but we each have our own interests and hobbies. DH also has Navy meetings every Thursday, class on Tuesday (which is done next week YAY!), and goes to guy wing nights every other Wednesday... although I tag along a lot to hang out with some girlfriends. He plays paintball, I scrapbook with my sister... we do lots of stuff separately I guess.
For me, I love DH, and we could be together 24/7, but I love that we each have unique interests, groups of friends, and that we can be apart. It gives us more to talk about when we are together!!
We spent a long time very attached at the hip. While I looove being with him, we do not share many common interests AT ALL. We are working on the time apart doing our own thing. His hobbies take him out of town and its hard sometimes because I am very uncomfortable being alone at night. But we are trying!
FH and I like a lot of the same things, but we like our time apart. Of course, we don't live together, so we get plenty of time apart but when we do start living together I imagine we'll continue enjoying some time apart.
We often work in the same building, but not directly together, so we try to meet for a couple minutes each day. When we're home, we're in the same place but often not interacting. We also frequently make plans with other people. I'd say we are together very frequently, but there's a difference between quality couple-time and just being in the same place. We definitely each have our own interests and don't need the other person to be able to do an activity.
We spend a lot of time together. Sometimes we're spending time both together and apart...like we're both home but he's watching Ultimate Fighter with his brother and I'm running on the treadmill. We have our perspective girl/guy nights once every 2 weeks. On the weekends we usually spend time with family but if we're at his dad's house FI is outside or in the garage working on a project with his Dad and I'm inside with my sister and brother in law baking or something.
We do make sure to make time for "us" time too though and a lot of it!
I think we're about even. DH works afternoons Wed-Sat and I work days Mon-Fri so we only have Sunday off together, and Monday/Tuesday evening. Other than that, I'm in bed by the time he gets home, so I'm used to doing things by myself.
We also don't have too many shared hobbies, so we're pretty used to doing things by ourselves.
When we get to be together all the time, like when we were in college together, we're pretty much inseperable :) But since we're not in school and don't live together we're not as attached at the hip as we used to be, but we still do some things together despite our busy schedules. Can't wait for the day when we can be around each other more again.
We're not a clingy couple and are always sure to give each other space and let the other person have their independence, but we don't really need it. 24/7 times are the best! It's just better when we're together because we're each other's favorite person to be around :)
For the most part we're pretty much joined at the hip. I work nights and he's on days so it can be a little hard for any QT during the week. So when the weekend comes, it's hard for me to want to be with anyone else. Although we do on occasion go out and have a girls or guys night without each other. But even when I do that I always miss him.
So basically we spend time doing things we both enjoy together, spending time with family, riding the motorcycle, hanging out with other couples, going out to eat, skiing (when the weather is right for it) etc, etc. What can I say? He really is my best friend.
I'm such a sappy sucker.
It's like that comic strip, where the kids are KimAndBob!
I don't think FI and I are like that, though it's usually assumed that if one of us is going somewhere, the other will probably be there as well.
We've been referred to as FI/me, so I guess that's close enough to KimAndBob.
We are together most all the time. We are alot alike though so it works well for us. I joke that if we were anymore alike we would be the same person.
I couldn't vote. We spend a lot of time together, but also have our own interests too. He gets out more than me (volunteer firefighter, tae kwon do, church stuff, etc) but it works really well for us!
We do almost everything together during the week (although we get breaks from each other at school). In the summer though we go back to our parents' houses and are 20 minutes apart. We love to be together and try to do as many things as we can together, but we're also fine with (and used to) being apart.
We work apart, and we have some of the same interests, but also different. Sometimes we are together more than others. Sometimes during the week, I have to work til up to 9pm, so we basically only sleep together that day, and maybe talk for a few minutes, cuz by then he is ready for bed. We rarely do anything during the week fun wise, and if we do, its usually together. On weekends, sometimes we are together the whole time, sometimes one of both ofu us work. Our schedules change a lot with different activities, so it just really depends.
We do prefer to spend our free time with each other over anyone else...
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