Post # 1
Just curious about how much time you and your SO spend together! My husband and I are literally sewn at the hip and spend little to no time apart. How about everyone else?
We usually try “joint” goals like going to the gym but I’ve noticed my darling husband isn’t into it nearly as much as I need to be. It can make my going very difficult. Anyone in the same boat?!
Post # 3
@nskillet: My Darling Husband and I have had a weekly schedule for awhile now that gives us time apart and time together. For almost five years now, I go to open knitting on Wednesday nights. For him, it’s his time to have the place to himself while I kvetch with friends, knit, and have fun. In the past year, he’s been doing salsa with some friends on Weds or Thursday nights. So, I have a day to myself as well. This week, we’re both busy tonight. Our weekends are generally planned together with stuff to do with friends, chores, or errands. It’s worked well for us for some time. When we have a baby, we’ll have to figure out how to balance this even further, but we’re game for that challenge.
Post # 4
I think it’s healthy to have some shared interests and some separate interests. Works for us, anyway.
Post # 5
We work together, so we’re literally together like 24/7 (and we LOVE it, honestly). I totally agree that it can be hard to do stuff unless both of you are committed/interested, though. My husband picked up running at the beginning of the year, and I am so not into it, so I just cheer him on instead. Lol, literally, I stand next to the treadmill or sit on the bed, and every time I notcie he’s struggling a little bit or it’s getting tough, I tell him he’s doing a good job, keep it up, etc… It sounds weird, I guess, but that way we’re still together, but I don’t have to do something I don’t want to (i.e. run!).
Post # 6
We’re usually together. We do some things apart, but not much. Especially now that he hasn’t been feeling well so he’s working from home and I’m unemployed. I love having him home though!
Post # 7
Outside of work, I would say we are about 80% together 20% apart – once a week he has band practice with the guys and I have my girls night – this balance of being able to spend time with friends and have our own hobbies is very healthy for us.
Post # 8
This is great bees!!
@Mrs. Spring this is pretty much us! We work for the same company, and used to car pool in and home, and also eat lunch together and have always loved it!! He recently transferred to another location in the company so no more car pooling or lunch but we IM all day at work.
You’re right! Its harder to get into that routine without the other person being 100% into it. I’ve gotta keep motivated!!
Post # 9
I work first shift and Darling Husband works second shift. So during the week we only see eachother for about 2 hours at night. On the weekends we are attached at the hip, because we don’t get to do anything really during the week. I like the schedule. I don’t ever feel guilty for getting stuck late at work or wanting to go get a drink with friends, or have dinner with my sister. I like our schedule. It lets us miss each other.
Post # 10
We spend a lot of time together but also have no problem being apart. Darling Husband goes to the gym every day after work while Im at home or maybe out at the store. We usually do something with our own friends at least once a week or weekend.
Post # 11
@nskillet: I’m google chatting with my husband right now… 🙂
Post # 12
we do most things together but I wouldnt say we are attached at the hip either
Post # 13
@Mrs. Spring: I’m FB chatting with mine!
We are pretty much inseparable. While we don’t work together, we do almost everything else together.
To be honest, I never thought I’d like this much togetherness. I was married before and we both pretty much did our own thing most of the time…and I preferred it that way. Even with previous boyfriends, I required a lot of me time. But my husband and I spend every possible minute we can together now…and I love it.
I totally get how some people feel you have to have your own life and each of you need time to yourselves. Rationally, that makes sense to me. But we both like the extreme togetherness and it works for us.
Post # 14
We have our own lives and our “couple” life. We do do a lot of stuff together, but there are definitely things that we don’t. I don’t think I could imagine being “attached at the hip”. I feel like us functioning as individuals within our relationship keeps us from getting bored with each other and . Our biggest fear is becoming one of “those couples”. The ones that do everything the same, talk the same, look the same, act the same. I like having my own identity, as does Darling Husband.
Post # 15
We are together a lot but like being on our own too. We’re definitely together a lot more than apart, though so none of the poll options really fit us. We live together and do a lot of things together, but I think it’s good for us to have some separate friends and interests. I think being apart sometimes gives us time to miss each other and not get sick of one another!
Post # 16
we pretty much do everything together – besides work obvi. I wish we each had a group of friends that we could do girl and guy stuff with but right now all our friends are joint.