Post # 1
FI and I have been….joking…..that he better not get plastered at our reception. I trust him 100% to act appropriately if it were just me and him, but when he’s around his friends they all act like they’re back in college. Which is to say…they get a little sloppy. Thank goodness they’re all scattered around the country and only see each other a couple times a year because that’s not really behavior becoming of almost 30 year old career men. Ha!
FI and I decided – sober for the ceremony (a beer/glass of champagne or two or a shot of whiskey – okay. Slurring = not okay), buzzed for the reception, then the after party is the time to get a little sloppy. Personally I just don’t want to wake up the morning after my wedding with that paranoid “OMG what did I DO last night” feeling.
Anyway, I was reading the “how long until you consumated the marriage” thread last night and noticed so many women said that their husbands were skunk drunk. I’m just wondering where yours fell in my super scientific scale above.
Post # 3
My husband was drunk, but so was I. With all the stress leading up the wedding, it was only natural that we wanted to unwind, lol. My grandma said something to my husband about laying off the alcohol. But, that was only after my husband lost his wedding ring at the reception (it was too big for him, so I knew he would lose it). I didn’t have an issue with him (err us) being drunk, because our reception was the most fun I had in a long time. I worked so hard on the reception that I wanted us to enjoy it. Did we plan on being drunk…nope…but that is where the night took us.
Post # 4
DH and I each had a glass of champagne, and a glass of wine with dinner. That’s it. (Our wedding was on a beach with only 2 guests. We had a champagne/cake reception with dancing and then a private dinner on the beach. It may have been different than yours)
When we got back from our wedding, we had a wine tasting at a local winery/tasting room with all our friends and family to celebrate. We each had the tasting, which included 5 wines, and the glass of wine after the tasting.
Post # 5
We were barely buzzed during our reception (we agreed about this beforehand). Neither of us wanted to wake up hung over and we also wanted to be able to remember absolutely everything and not do anything stupid in front of our family and friends.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@StL.Ashley: You have the same agreement that we had. My DH and I love to have a few drinks and get a bit sloppy at parties so we decided to agree on what we felt was appropriate for the wedding. These rules also applied to the bridal party.
Ceremony – not allowed to be buzzed or drunk; one shot or drink with the guys beforehand is okay; one or two mimosas with the girls is okay
Cocktail Hour through Dinner – can be a little buzzed but keep it under control; I have family that are teetotalers for religious reasons so I didn’t want people to get too drunk before dinner; plus I knew that those family members would leave after dinner ended and the party started (which they did)
After Dinner – party as hard you like which we did and there are pictures to prove it even though I don’t remember half of them (so glad I sent my photographer home after dinner!)
We did not consumate that night or for a few nights afterwards because we were hungover the next day and then I had a sinus infection the day after that.
Post # 7
@StL.Ashley: My Fi was drunk. I wasn’t. But he wasn’t sloppy, making a fool of himself, tripping drunk. He’s kinda a classy drunk. You can’t really tell. I didn’t until we got home and he was like…”Wow, I am waaaaaaaasteeeeeeedddd.” LMAO
I wanted him to relax and have a good time. For us the reception was a party. However there was one of the groomsmen who got TOO drunk and grabbed my neck pretty hard on two occasions and told me “to never hurt DH” so I was pretty FURIOUS at one point but DH got wind of it and handled it for me. Needless to say that guy got politely asked to leave.
Post # 8
My husband doesn’t drink, so he was sober. I will drink, but I’ve only been drunk a handful of times in my life. But at the wedding I had no appetite/will to drink that night. I had half a glass of wine and half a glass of champagne. I think all the nerves of the day just got to my system and I didn’t feel like eating or drinking. I had a blast though and I wasn’t sick, I just felt like drinking water the whole night.
Post # 9
I think we both had about one drink. Maaaaybe two, but I think it was just one. We were just way too busy to drink very much! 🙂
Post # 10
@StL.Ashley: MY DH was pretty drunk, but not sloppy. He was most definitely hurting the next morning though LOL. We had brunch at my Dad’s with my family and he just sat silently in the chair, not speaking to anyone and staring into space… they commented that they had never seen him like that, and made him a bagel with cream cheese while we were waiting for the big breakfast to be ready, because they could tell he needed something in his system.
Post # 11
Not married yet, but I already know he will be sober because we are having an alcohol free wedding ! (:
If we did have alcohol and FH was a drinker (which is isn’t really) I would hate it if he got drunk.
Post # 12
My DH was drunk… very drunk. Though he didn’t pass out or puke drunk. But pretty close which pissed me off. Because I was at the time 16 weeks pregnant so I couldn’t drink. I know at the hotel I was pretty pissed off at him, because we had talked about this and had agreed he wasn’t suppsed to get that drunk.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I was buzzed, and he was definitely a bit drunk! But in a good way, not like, super sloppy embarrassing way.
And it was definitely his friends who encouraged the drunkness. Our bartenders were not supposed to give out shots, but his two army buddies somehow kept telling the bartenders the shots of tequila were for the groom, and they complied! So he ended up being drunk. Funnily enough, about a half hour before the reception truly ended, he just took himself off to bed. He said later he knew he was going to get sloppy and he didn’t want to be “that groom” so he took himself to bed! haha. (Our wedding was at a B&B, so we were right outside in the tent so he didn’t have far to go.)
I ended up going to the after party without him, had a great time, and when I came back he was very much sobered up and we had no problem with the rest of our night 😉
Post # 14
I’d say neither of us were really that buzzed. Did we have quite a few drinks? Yeah, but they were spaced out between 6pm and 2am. We had a blast on the dancefloor, but by the time the whole shebang ended, we were sober (still didn’t drive, though).
Post # 15
My FI doesn’t drink at all, but I do. I plan on drinking a good amount…not too much and not too little. I am sure I’ll need it to get me down the aisle in front of all those people and then I’ll be letting loose at the reception, but I am a lightweight so that’ll be like 2 glasses of wine.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
He was definitely drunk,,,tie undone, singing at the top of his lungs drunk. He was fun, though! I was not sober myself (not sure anyone was heh) so it was all good. We went back to the room and slept it off.