(Closed) How involved is your FI in the wedding planning process?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How involved is your FI in the wedding planning process?
    Not involved, I'll be lucky if he even shows up to the ceremony. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Not involved really. I'm doing all of the work. : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Somewhat involved. He helps out and provides opinions about the wedding planning process. : (23 votes)
    68 %
    Very involved!! I can't even get a word in edge wise. He's my little wedding planner! : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My FI is involved with the things he cares about. We discuss budget, food, location and his suit. Just about everything else he can care less about including guest list which can be frustrating because there is some in fighting in his family.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Basically, from day one, he said ‘whatever makes you happy’! 

    Well, that has bitten me in the butt a few times where he springs up with random opinions regarding vendors that are already booked, the invitations that are pretty much printed, and now he wants a videographer. So now, I bug him with every little detail so he can’t spring his opinion in at the last moment!

    Post # 5
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had to do everything, because he was busy with work and school.  He would have loved to help though, and was involved with everything every time I needed help or a decision.

    Post # 6
    Member
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Before he proposed he was all about “just tell me where to show up” now he wants input in EVERY detail even flowers, I like it though our wedding is all aboutus so I want it to be something he created too!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am doing everything, but that is by choice. My FI would be more involved if I let him. I do ask for his opinions on things, but I only give him choices that I know would make us both happy. 99% of the time, he just says that I should just do what will make me happy because he has been happy with every decision that I have made. I don’t spend a ton of money without going over whatever it is with him first though. He feels as long as we can fit it in the budget, I should just go ahead with whatever I want.

    Post # 8
    Member
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    He’s been surprisingly great. He doesn’t care too much about the aesthetics (though he has shot down some decor ideas I had) but he’s been very involved as far as planning all the major stuff. The only vendor he won’t be involved in is the florist and thats just because he doesn’t really care about flowers.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1267 posts
    Bumble bee

    My ex hubby and my bf now are total partners in every sense of the word and that included/includes wedding planning!  I wouldn’t have it any other way, either, as I’m not interested in planning a day about us all by myself.  it’s like having a child with someone that is never home and basically being a single parent.  I want this wedding to reflect US not just me or me guessing at what is ‘us’….

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    23640 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I was surprised how much input my FI had in the wedding!  It’s gotten to the point where everyone calls him the “big girl” behind his back!  I’ve never been the kind of girl that dreamed about my wedding day, and it seems that FI has a vision!  Lucky for us, since only one of us is a dreamer, we’re able to plan out his dream! Haha!

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