How involved is YOUR Fi?! –POLL–

posted 2 years ago in Decor
  • poll: Is your Fi interested in the "details" (decor, colors, invitations, cake, etc)
    He's a groomzilla : (13 votes)
    10 %
    He likes to be involved with a few things : (82 votes)
    65 %
    He Is not at all interested : (31 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1473 posts
    Bumble bee

    DH liked to be a part of the decisions, but I don’t know if he overly cared about everything. He wouldn’t want me to decide on the cake or colours without talking to him first, but usually he was okay with everything. I think he just didn’t want to sit back and have it all planned. If he didn’t like something, he’d tell me.

    Post # 3
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    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    He has some opinions, but is generally a laid back guy. I have also taken into account his preferences and tastes when picking on my own. For example, our card box will be a CARDIS, inspired by Dr. Who, and our favor boxes are Lego, both my ideas but very much approved by him.

    Post # 4
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    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    mrsdevries:  my FI is very involve with the whole wedding. He went every where with me from bridal show to florist, DJ, photographer everything that’s is wedding related he was there to help me make decisions. I love the fact that he is very involved with me planning our wedding. However he is not a groomzilla, the only thing he is not involved is helping me finding the perfect dress. 

    Post # 5
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    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    mrsdevries:  my fiance has been involved. We went to the venue together and to meet with the officiant. I know it sounds like he should be going to these things but he is in his first year of residency as a doctor so his schedule is insane. I pretty much find ideas and run them past him to see his opinions and make sure everything matches up. I did get pissed at the hotel for not responding to me so he stepped up and reserved the block of rooms for the guests. The only thing he has been adament about is that we must provide a free shuttle for our guests from the hotel.  

    Post # 6
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    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My FI would rate under whatever falls even lower than the “not involved at all” poll.

    In fairness to him he is in his clerkship year and is rotating through medical specialties all over the Province. However, he also just couldn’t care less about any of the details of the wedding.

    I have had moments of wishing he was a bit more involved but at the end of the day I have enjoyed all the planning and been able to make sure everything is exactly how I want it. I know he will just show up and have a great time on the day of, so we’re both happy!

    Post # 8
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    716 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re not really decorating a space together, so we have fewer details to consider, but my fiance has been 100% involved in choosing the church, venue, and photographer and everything else will be a shared decision.  The only thing he isn’t involved in is the dress.

    Post # 9
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    8009 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My guy just trusts whatever I pick and likes to hear about it but he doesn’t have any strong opinions about anything and just responds with “sounds great babe, whatever you want”. He is excited about the wedding though but my mom and I are the ones planning it.

    The only thing he cares about is that there will be absolutely no Journey played by band. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    He occasionally watches as I endlessly scroll Pinterest for wedding ideas 

    Post # 11
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    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I run ideas past him and let him know what I am considering. If he Hasan opinion on it, he will let me know. For a lot of things he is fine with whatever I picked. The parts that he cares the most about so far are the food, cake, suits and boutonnieres. 

    Post # 12
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Details: he couldn’t care less.  Venue, food, & prices: he cared a lot.

    Post # 13
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    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    mrsdevries:  When it comes to picking the big things like date, venue, caterer, photographer, etc. FI and I had a system. He trusts me enough to narrow down our choices to three: three venues, three caterers, three photographers, etc. From there, we met with them, searched their websites, and really narrowed down our vision together. When it comes to the details, though, FI is pretty much leaving it up to me. He knows that I will care about the little details more than he does. Take the cake for example, he has some pretty strong opinions on flavors, but when it comes to what it looks like, his exact words were, “What the hell? I’m here to eat it, not stare at it” and he let me pick the design. When I opted to begin to search for mismatched china, he seemed moderately interested, but when he realized it would involve going to every yard sale, Goodwill, and Salvation Army with me every Saturday until the wedding, his interest faded. He does like helping me put together place settings. And he gets excited as the ideas come together, but he’s more content to let me narrow everything down to one or two choices. The invitations were the same way. I designed them myself, but as I agonize over what color paper to print them on, what color envlopes to stuff them in, whether to do vintage stamps or forget it–he just gets this disgruntled look on his face and picks colors at random and reminds me people will be throwing these away when all is said and done. Luckily, he gives me the freedom to plan my dream wedding, but still keeps my grounded and reminds me this is supposed to be fun. 

    Post # 14
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    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

    I think with most grooms there are things they are excited about (Food and cake) and things they are things that “maybe you should get your girls together and do that” LOL. My FI has been a real trooper and has helped pick a lot of things out and some things like centerpieces where I know he really doesn’t care he’s say whatever you want….. I’ll narrow it down to 3 centerpieces and say which one do you like best (he’s kinda like my tie breaker and still makes him feel like he has a say so) and he keeps asking me when can we go pick out the tuxes….we are a good 8 months out. SO there are things he really wants to do and his dad made me laugh the other night I was talking about going to a wine tasting (I’m not much of a drinker) to help select the wines pairings for our meal and for the open bar and my FFIL said oh we can leave him at home and I’ll go with you on that one lol. We lucked out on not having to worry about decorations the venue wedding planner (owner) takes care of all decorations herself so we are only responsible for the centerpieces.

    Post # 15
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Lacuna Artist Lofts

    My FI did the big picture things. He cared a lot about the reception venue in paticular. The details and decor is what I am better at. We are distributing the labor on the invite design, Save the Dates, and wedding website.

    Truth be told, I don’t particularly enjoy wedding planning so it is good my FI contributes so much, otherwise a wedding would never end up happening.

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