(Closed) How is everyone handling there stress?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not planning a wedding anymore but that doesn’t mean I don’t have stress.  We are tight on money and I’m trying to find a job.  Because of those things, I barely go out of the house.  Stress is driving me crazy and actually hurting my relationship a bit.

Post # 4
Member
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh gosh, that’s a lot to deal with.  I think you deserve to snap a time or two… or more!  I’m sorry you’re handling so much, you’ll undoubtedly be stronger in the end. 

I’d been handling my stress pretty well until this past weekend.  I realized that all the things I’d be ‘letting go’, were still very much present in my mind.  I lost it.  I freaked out on my FI for not helping enough and then I let loose all the fury I’d been feeling about my selfish BM’s and my Mother who has been very helpful until lately when she’d rather go to my brothers baseball practice than my dress fitting, etc.  I felt better getting it out, temporarily.  Now I get nervous easily, my eye twitches… its not pretty! 

I have other stressors too, unrelated to the wedding.  I think they’re pretty characteristic of the times though, so I TRY to keep that stress at bay.  Lack of money, lack of job alternatives (I hate my job but I’m grateful to have one), trying to fathom getting a house, we need a new car.  Oh, and I will be moving to my FI’s parents house, in his home town, where I know no one and he has all of his friends and family.  But we need to save money… scary stuff.

Post # 5
Member
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh Ella, I’m so sorry.

The best thing we do to relieve stress is to take a night off from everything. We just stay in, make dinner together, pop in a movie we want to watch, drag all the blankets and pillows out into the living room and snuggle up together with our puppy and just be bums all day.
Whenever one of us feels particularly stress for any reason whatsoever the other always suggests that. It really helps to recharge our batteries.

Post # 7
Member
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

HUGS. i agree with @jennifer, you have every excuse to have a lil cathartic moment here and there and more!

i’ve gone through the roller coaster of handling stress… the past few months were quite easy… until the last couple of weeks, i am dealing with unexpected relationship stress, stress of starting law school in a week!, and of course, trying to get all of the bills paid and on time is a constant battle during this planning.

today after work, i’m going to workout… and try to be productive with every minute of time i have in order to feel accomplished and also getting out the last details of wedding planning out of the way before school takes up 4 nights a week after work!

good luck and things WILL get better!

Post # 10
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe getting some exercise?  Exercise is a really good stress reliever.

Post # 12
Member
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve really too, just blocked out the world. Right now my dad did not let his friend who is our dj know the wedding date was changed (Note our wedding is in 3 weeks!) Our photographer might not come to the reception. (another one of my dads friends) We have yet to pay for our venue (This is the SECOND venue we’ve had because my dad was lazy about paying anyone so our other venue bailed on us, 3 weeks ago) and I found out my dress that I ordered back in January that was due April 15 was NEVER MADE! And I have really no idea when I will be here.

 So the rest of the world can kiss my butt for the next few weeks! LOL! All I want is to be married to my guy. No matter what I’m wearing and where its at. I JUST WANT TO BE MARRIED ALREADY!

 Dont let things get to you! I’ve had to let go of that one a long time ago! Everything will be fine. Just breathe. =)

Post # 13
Member
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That IS a lot of things going on for one persone regardless of financial status! There’s only so many hours in a day. I find talking to my FI and blowing off some steam and snapping at him for a few good minutes helps me since he talks it out and lets me vent.

Post # 15
Member
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

How am I handling my stress?  Not well, my friend, not well.  I have been using a combination of self indulging stress-reduction techniques, including (but not limited to): chocolate, mini-tantrums, vodka, pedicures, xanax, and yoga (yay! A healthy method)

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