I am freaking out! My wedding is in 10 days and I'm having a BAD case of nerves! Not about being married (I absolutely can't wait to marry to my fabulous fiance), but rather about how the whole party is going to come together.
There are so many moving pieces. We've hired fabulous vendors/people for all aspects of the wedding, but I am worrying that everything isn't going to come together in the way I envision.
Did anyone else worry about how it was all going to flow? How did it turn out? Please help put my nerves to rest!
I haven't married my mister right yet, but one thing I've kept in mind during this whole process is that it is all about getting married. If the cake is wrong, or if someone is late, you will still be married and I will promise you that that is all you will be worrying about once it happens. I have friends who cried and cried at their reception because the bartender was late and NO ONE, not even the groom noticed. Everyone was too busy having fun and enjoying the opportunity to come together that she got stressed over nothing at all. If you spent even half the time she did planning (which was only 4 months) you should be fine. Keep your eyes on your man and I promise it will be the happiest time of your life.
Lists of what you have already accomplished, (go you! :) )
Lists of what you need to accomplish,
and lists of what OTHER PEOPLE can do for you/the wedding over the next 10 days!
Get those lists in their hands as soon as possible! Let as much go out of your hands as you can right now and find some people you trust. Like Scheer said - it's all about getting married at this point ... you've got to let some things go!
Maybe I'm just lucky, but everything pretty much happened without me even paying attention. All the vendors showed up on time or even early, everything got set up beautifully, our banquet coordinator took care of all the details, and my fantastic mom (DH calls her *The General*) marshalled a few friends to handle things like the gift table and guest book... Hopefully you hired professional vendors, and hopefully they know their jobs. I really didn't have to do anything, which was good, as I was busy (and distracted) enough!
"I am worrying that everything isn't going to come together in the way I envision."
It won't come together in the way you envision. You should really embrace this before the event. It will probably be close, but there will be things that just don't end up the way you wanted. And it would be a shame if it ruined your experience.
Figure out a couple of things that are absolutely critical and concentrate on making sure they happen just right, but for the rest, just let it go. You and your guests won't remember if the favors weren't laid out just so or if the appetizers are different than what you ordered. You *will* remember if you're miserable the whole day because of worry.
So do what you can to prepare, then smile take a deep breath and just enjoy.
I am freaking out! My wedding is in 10 days and I'm having a BAD case of nerves! Not about being married (I absolutely can't wait to marry to my fabulous fiance), but rather about how the whole party is going to come together.
There are so many moving pieces. We've hired fabulous vendors/people for all aspects of the wedding, but I am worrying that everything isn't going to come together in the way I envision.
Did anyone else worry about how it was all going to flow? How did it turn out? Please help put my nerves to rest!
posted by gspear 11 posts 3 months agoI haven't married my mister right yet, but one thing I've kept in mind during this whole process is that it is all about getting married. If the cake is wrong, or if someone is late, you will still be married and I will promise you that that is all you will be worrying about once it happens. I have friends who cried and cried at their reception because the bartender was late and NO ONE, not even the groom noticed. Everyone was too busy having fun and enjoying the opportunity to come together that she got stressed over nothing at all. If you spent even half the time she did planning (which was only 4 months) you should be fine. Keep your eyes on your man and I promise it will be the happiest time of your life.
posted by scheerintraining 22 posts 3 months agoLists, lists, lists!
Lists of what you have already accomplished, (go you! :) )
Lists of what you need to accomplish,
and lists of what OTHER PEOPLE can do for you/the wedding over the next 10 days!
Get those lists in their hands as soon as possible! Let as much go out of your hands as you can right now and find some people you trust. Like Scheer said - it's all about getting married at this point ... you've got to let some things go!
Good luck and have so much fun!
posted by HumarockBride 182 posts 3 months agoMaybe I'm just lucky, but everything pretty much happened without me even paying attention. All the vendors showed up on time or even early, everything got set up beautifully, our banquet coordinator took care of all the details, and my fantastic mom (DH calls her *The General*) marshalled a few friends to handle things like the gift table and guest book... Hopefully you hired professional vendors, and hopefully they know their jobs. I really didn't have to do anything, which was good, as I was busy (and distracted) enough!
posted by suzanno 1,978 posts 3 months ago"I am worrying that everything isn't going to come together in the way I envision."
It won't come together in the way you envision. You should really embrace this before the event. It will probably be close, but there will be things that just don't end up the way you wanted. And it would be a shame if it ruined your experience.
Figure out a couple of things that are absolutely critical and concentrate on making sure they happen just right, but for the rest, just let it go. You and your guests won't remember if the favors weren't laid out just so or if the appetizers are different than what you ordered. You *will* remember if you're miserable the whole day because of worry.
So do what you can to prepare, then smile take a deep breath and just enjoy.
posted by MissBanana 84 posts 3 months ago