(Closed) How is the cost of a bachelorette party figured out before splitting

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That is quite a bit! I would think $700 would be a VACATION! LOL!!!!

Post # 4
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

figure out the total cost for the limo, invites, etc. and divide by the number of bridesmaids. at the party, 2 people can split her dinner check, and then the others can take turns buying her drinks, for example.

Post # 5
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would chip in up front for the cost that have a definite number, (limo, decorations, invitations, etc).  Then one or two people can pay for dinner and drinks and everyone can reimburse them.

Post # 6
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s best to figure out the cost before hand so everyone knows what to expect.  I also think that in that cost there should be a cushion for the brides drinks and dinner.  If there happens to be any left over funds that can be used to offset the bridal parties dinner or drinks.

Post # 8
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I think that you should ballpark how much it will cost beforehand and then split things evenly afterward. 

Post # 9
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think its hard to guesstimate most of those costs. How is the Maid/Matron of Honor supposed to know how much the bride’s dinner and drinks are supposed to cost? I think she is probably being overly cautious because its a lot easier to over estimate how much it will cost and get the $ upfront than to chase people down for it later if say, she only said $50, and it ended up costing more which she had to front herself. I actually don’t think $100 is that unreasonable considering you are getting a limo. The wedding I am in, we are each chipping in $60 to just cover the costs of the dinner (take out not at a restaurant) , decorations, snacks and the limo. We’ll all chip in more to cover the bride’s drinks etc. when we are out. I assume that I’ll spend about $100 total. The big difference between this party and yours is that you are going out to dinner. If you are concerned about costs, maybe you can suggest an alternative, like ordering pizza, chinese, etc. and relaxing at someone’s house before you go out. You can buy beer and wine much cheaper than it would cost you at a restaurant. 

Maybe just ask the Maid/Matron of Honor how any leftover money will be split up. I don’t think thats an unreasonable question. If you are really concerned about budget, maybe you can take your own transportation instead of going in the limo, and just chip in for the bride’s dinner and limo costs but not your own limo costs. 


Post # 10
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Is it just the bridesmaids or are more girls coming?  For every party I’ve been to, it’s been split more or less evenly amongst everyone but the bride – the Maid/Matron of Honor makes an estimate and then collects the checks ahead of time.  But I’ve never been to one w/ decorations and invites.

Post # 11
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

With the exception of the one that I hosted, the others had a base cost that was split among the ladies, regardless of whether or not they were in the bridal party with a few extra bucks kicked in for the brides drinks.  It’s entirely possible that you may get the extra back at the end of the night or it may be kicked in for a gift. I would double check the figure and ask the person in charge for an estimated breakdown so you can see where your money goes. 


Limo for 4 hours: $400 (don’t forget driver tip!) 

Invites: $30

Decor & accessories: $50 (sashes, crown, favors)

Bride’s dinner & drinks for the night: $75-100 (depending on dinner location and what she drinks… if she drinks martinis those are 8-10 a piece.) 


right there you’re at $600. If you’re not going out after, my guess is that the extra $100 is just a buffer and any left over shoudl go back to the person or be tossed in for a gift remembering the night. 

for cost comparason: 

1) Vineyard tour, all day party… 12 total, 11 split cost. 3 vineyard tours, samples, lunch, bride’s cost, and then dinner were about $100 bucks each. Whatever we didn’t use went to the impromptu dinner party and a bottle of wine from each vineyard we hit for the bride. 

2) Dinner and dancing… probably about 50/each.. no limo, about 6 of us I think. Dinner was a pizza place (a nice one) with apps and drinks, divied by 5.. about $20-30 each. Club entry was free.. and everyone took turns buying rounds at about 20-30 each round. 

Post # 14
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would figure out what you want to do, ask the girls what they can afford to spend and then find something to do within that price point.  Split the cost evenly if possible.  If one girl can only afford $100 and everyone else can afford $300 then you might want to pick up her tab so she can join in. 

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