How is this offensive?!?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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2103 posts
Buzzing bee

I know exactly what you meant. When we are uncomfortable we are tense and probably grimacing. It’s just a comment on human nature and how the entire body might tense up without you even realizing it.

I’m not sure how you get “crybaby” from that… 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Eh… It was sweet what you did, and I think what you had said to him was fine until the last part… IMO the “giving a baby a bottle” was the thing he likely took offense at. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Erm, he needs pull his superman training pants out of his toosh and get over it.

O.o 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeesh. If he reacts this badly to nothing at all, then what the hell is he going to do when real problems occur?

I admit I can sometimes be hypersensitive to things (and the weirdest things), but I don’t shut down and not talk it out.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Yea, he needs to get over it.  It’s really not that serious.  Both of you should agree that there was a miscommunication and let it go.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is pretty intensely sensitive. What on earth is there to be offended about?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow…you need to talk with him about your worries about communication issues.  If he takes offense to that I fear that you’re doomed. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

“I’m a man! A real man! A manly man! I’m no baby man! How dare you! I don’t drink bottles! I don’t spitup…. I’m a man… *sob*….love me….”

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@BruinBeeMPH:  I think what he heard sounds like the truth – he is a big baby. Seriously, people get offended over the stupidest things. I would be concerned about his ability to communicate like a grown up too.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  I admit I can be a bit sensitive at times, so I could see how he’d be sensitive to this, but I totally agree it’s not something to not speak to someone over 2 days (or at all!) for.  I’d get offended then be laughing five minutes later.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds like someone is on his manstrual cycle. Lol.

Just try to calmly ask him why he feels like you’re attacking him. That you’re not attacking him, you’re just trying to figure out exactly what is making him mad. Try to use words like “mad” instead of “upset”, etc. That way he won’t feel like you’re babying him or making him feel emotional (woman-like, if you will). If he continues to get mad and act like a 3 year old, then you just need to let it go for awhile.

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