Post # 1
Hi Bees, I’m doing a formal seated dinner for my black tie wedding. I am also offering a choice of meat or fish or veggie for the entree on my RSVP cards. Now how in the world does this work logistically? Do I…
a. create escort cards with table number in the cocktail area with a matching card on the plate in the dining room?
b. create a seating chart in the cocktail area with a matching card on the plate in the dining room?
c. do both?
I need to make sure my caterer knows which option each person is getting and make sure that my guests know where they need to sit. How exactly does a seated dinner work?
Post # 3
At the ones I’ve been to, you picked up your escort card in the cocktail area. The card had your name, table number, and your meal designation on them (some were color coded, some just said it on there).
The flaw with this is if someone doesn’t put the card out on their table once they arrive there.
Your venue may have a preferred method.
My personal way of doing it would be a table assignment chart in the cocktail area, and then placecards with the meal designation on them already placed at the table.
Post # 4
Talk to your caterer. Generally, they prefer a color coded system of some sort to ID who gets what plate. Some people do stickers (not black tie, I know) or stamp a different colored flower on the corner of the card, or just do different colored names. It’s in your best interest to make this as easy as possible on the caterer, so everyone gets the right dish as quickly as possible.
Post # 5
Usually the waiter just asks what your ordered.
Post # 6
@NAvery: Thanks, I guess I’m just going to do the card in the cocktail area with the table #. And then a separate card with their name/meal choice so they know what seat they’re at at the table. And then a seating chart for the caterer so they know who is sitting where and what meal option they have.
@MariContrary: I putting a symbol for the option on my RSVP (william arthur has cute little cow and fish symbols), so I guess I’ll just order the seating cards from them and just do the same symbols. Might be a nice way to tie everything together. Thanks!
@MrsTVLover: We’re trying to avoid having the waiter ask unless there’s no other option left. In My Humble Opinion, it just doesn’t look professional when the waiter is asking folks, I want it to be seamless, like magically the caterer just knows who got what.
Post # 7
@atlbride2013: Oh that’ll look nice! And even though most people won’t notice, the weird nitpicky ones like me will totally see that think “Oh, just like the invitations!”.
Post # 8
Ive been to weddings where they just ask you what you had ordered, or like fo rmine, I did the choice on the name card. One thing I wish I would have done, though it wasnt a large issue, was that I should have left a space on the rsvp for people to write their name on what they wanted. Ultimately if I had a couple, a mr and mrs with one of each, like one chicken and one beef, I always gave the man the beef and the female the chicken. I figured they could swap plates if they had to. It all worked out that way.