Post # 1
Okay, I mean beyond the obvious stuff – dates, phone calls, missing each other. What else is different, stuff that people don’t always realize?
For us, the biggest thing that people seem to not ‘get’ is that timing is so important because of the distance. J is buying my ring today. [Eeeee!!! Exciting!!!!] ~ why do I know that? Because he asked for my ring size and finally gave up on getting it from me today. My proposal won’t be a total surprise – I mean, we don’t exactly have a lot of opportunities to see each other!
I know when it’s coming, in a general sense – we’ve got 7 weeks together, and we need to be together to get engaged. People seem surprised that I know when it’ll be (ish).
Post # 3
he’s getting your ring today? that’s awesome dd!
for us, it’s that we’re not engaged already. we’ve been together for almost 5 years and know this is it for us [we’ve been discussion marriage since our 2nd month together] and everyone keeps asking when we’re getting engaged or even why we’re not engaged right now. it’s simply because we’re not together in the same area yet. for us, we wanted to be in the same place before we got engaged but no one is really getting that point. not sure how to make it any more simple than that!
Post # 4
My engagement wasn’t really a surprise either… people thought it was strange & unromantic and I was like, yeah well in order to be together we have certain steps we need to take (immigration) and it requires a lot of planning. We set a timeline & people thought it was strange. Haha I knew when he bought it & from the time he asked for photos of rings until I got it, I was flying there every month waiting for it. lol
Post # 5
Mine wasn’t a surprise. I already knew exactly when it was happening because we only see each other about 1 weekend every 3-4 months. People just dont understand that, for me, it was just as special and romantic as a regular proposal. I even picked out my own engagement ring on the internet.
Post # 6
People are often surprised by how in tune my FI and I are with each other. I try to explain to them that after hearing this man’s voice in my ear every day for the past 3 year and almost 2 months, I know his moods just by the inflection in his voice.
Post # 7
Mine will be a surprise. He won’t even give me a rough idea how long it will be. So I asked him if it would be within the next 3 years “yes”. I also asked him when he visioned us getting married, and he said it would be in the next 2 yrs. so it should be coming soon!
In answer to the question, very little is different. Some times we try and do stuff so it feels as though we’re not ‘wasting’ our time together. This weekend we were both so tired we just ‘flumped’ sat and watched TV cuddled up, visited my grandma and cousins. I like to think we’d do that anyway when we get to be together properly. We were both students when we were together before so with us now working full time that would be different. I cant wait to cook with him again, I really miss that.
Post # 8
agreed, what is “unromantic” to everyone else (the shock, the horror!) was “practically timed out in the most logical manner” because, well, the military has its own mind when it comes to demands of its soldiers =]. They say unromantic, i say practical. That’s how it is =]
Or how could I ever possibly in a million years be 100% totally okay with just hanging out BY MYSELF on a Friday night?!?!?!? Hard to imagine if you don’t have to do it i guess….=].They’d pity me, but realy there was no reason to. I was perfectly ok with it. Hard to get unless you’re in my shoes i guess?