How is your relationship with his parents?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

I haven’t seen his mother in almost 4 years, but neither has he. My relationship with my FFIL is alright. It could certainly be better, but it could also be much, much worse. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I get along well with his parents. They like me and I like them. I don’t call them on the phone or meet up with them or anything though. However, I’m still a bit quiet around them, but that has steadily been improving over the 6+ years we have been dating. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Pretty awesome.  They are amazing, warm, loving, FUN people and I totally love them.  Luckily they seem to feel the same way about me.  My husband and I both lucked out in the in-law category, really.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I talk to his Mom on the phone at least once a week.  I frequently go to our home state to see family and will go see her while I’m there so I also see her more than he does because he only goes home every two or three years.  I have no relationship with his Dad because he doesn’t have much of one himself.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@his_sweet_girl:  awesome 🙂

I love his mom and I adore her husband 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@his_sweet_girl:  I get on really well with FIs family. I used to live with FI, his mum, dad and brother… For about 4 years!! His mum is definitely my second mum, she really looked after me when I lived there and loves mummying me still. Before FIs dad passed away, we were close too. Just before he died, we had a heart-to-heart. He told be about his relationship with FIs mum, his regrets and gave me some advice. He was a truly wonderful man. I love FIs brother like my own brother. I’m very lucky 🙂 and I’m looking forward to making it all official in October

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I adore his parents! The are honestly wonderful people. However, my FI and I were raised VERY differently. My parents set very strict rules for me, while his were a lot more relaxed, and I don’t think I want to raise kids the way he was raised (e.g. allowed to swear, throw parties with alcohol when they are underage, stay out as late as they want, etc.) – FI and I definitely need to find a happy medium between our parents’ styles when we have kids.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Love my future in-laws!! They are so nice and kind and generous and chill. His siblings are absolutely perfect–I’m an only child, so it’s so fun to have little siblings suddenly. 🙂

Honestly, his family is way easier to get along with than mine!!

On the other hand, it’s a little difficult for me sometimes because my family is constantly saying really blunt things, making fun of people, basically just being ridiculous New Yorkers. His family is made up of very nonconfrontational Midwesterners, so sometimes I have to bite my tongue pretty hard and remember that they won’t like it if I start a fuss over politics or start making fun of people, haha.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I get along swimingly with his parents. I wish we lived closer to them because they’re such sweet people. I’m actually looking forward to our big move and only being an hour drive from them instead of a cross country flight. DH loves my parents as well.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel blessed to say that I have a great relationship with my husband’s family, and he has a great relationship with my family! 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Warm and friendly, if not terribly close!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

His mom loved me until about 6 years ago when we bought our house and moved in together, around that time they decided to move back to NY and somehow I became evil..around 4 years ago I was told I was no longer welcome and it’s whatever. At first it was a huge issue but he has constantly defended me and is now not even going there as much because she is so controlling/crazy. She wanted him there for four days over Thanksgiving and he said no so she said don’t come at all and he didn’t. She has this weird insane obsession with him coming every weekend which is ricdiculous for someone who is 33 years old, lives on their own, and has their own life. Their relationship has really been destroyed over all this sadly it also affects his relationship with his father and two younger brother (none of them have the balls to stand up to her)..

I have firmly put my foot down regarding when we have kids that she is not going to see them unless I’m there and he can’t take them without me. If she allows that then there will NEVER be over night visits. She is certifiable. Sent me a “no return address” letter this past June that sounded and looked like a Ransom note, lol. She did not realize that she is the only 1 in the 5 boroughs that would do something like that.

I wish it was better but I did nothing to her and I am not willing to be subjected to her constant abuse/power struggle.

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