Post # 1
Mine’s fine, it seems like anyway. Sometimes I wonder if she REALLY likes me, but I guess I’ll never know unless something BIG happens. I’ve heard stories about a mother’s sons SO & the mother not getting along at ALL, do you get along with your FMIL?
I guess when I think about having my OWN son…I can def. see myself not liking a girl he’s not in a relationship with, LOL kind of mean but hey that’s MY little boy!! I think it’d probably be that way with his first few girlfriends, but when it comes to marrying someone..I’ll have to like her then 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I actually do get along my fiance’s mother, but things have gotten a little more difficult in the last few months. I know that she likes me, and is happy that I am marrying her son, but I also understand how much emotion is wrapped up in weddings, and the implications of her first son (middle child) getting married, so we’re trying to work through that!
Post # 4
We’re homies =]
No really, we aren’t besties, but I think I totally lucked out with a cool MIL. She’s so normal about everything!
Post # 5
we get along great! i think i have a good advatage… she’s not too fond of his brothers wife for numerous reasons, so if i was nicer than her i was pretty much in. and i’m “a nice jewish girl.” what every jewish mil dreams of!
Post # 6
My MIL is really kicka$$. She really, really is. I’m super lucky.
Post # 7
i guess we get along, not close at all but friendly with one another. FI and I started dating when we were 16/17 so i’ve known her for over a decade but through that time she’s said some things that were hurtful ( prob because she didn’t think we’d stay together, and also just a protective “mamma bear”) but i try not to conjure up any bad feelings towards her because of the past.
i do wonder if she really likes me. FI says so, but our families are wayyyyyyyyyy different in the way we show emotion ( they are not demonstrative people, no hugs, loves yous.. ) and my family is the exact opposite, so that may be a factor. So far, so good. 🙂
Post # 8
My husband’s mother died before I met him, but his grandmothers and aunt are all more than willing to fill the MIL void. Sometimes it feels like I’ve got multiple MILs! Things are usually fine, although I know my husband gets lots of comments about not visiting enough. I’m pretty sure my tongue is a few inches shorter from all the biting I do when I hear that – we see them much more than we see my family, and it’s easier for them to come visit us than the other way around!
Post # 9
My FMIL is overwhelming. She was a very young mom so she’s in her 40’s and FI is 28. She’s self-absorbed, thinks she’s cool, REALLY defensive about her new lesbian life (when in reality, everyone is supportive and loves her partner, but she plays the “ITS BECAUSE I’M GAY I KNOW IT” card A LOT) She also has NO friends and since her partner is away most of the time for work, she calls her kids ALL. THE. TIME. which includes me. She’s really overbearing and gossips HORRIBLY. She is embarassing in restaurants (rude to waitstaff) and throws scenes all the time.
Oh and she decided to rescind her offer to help pay for the wedding causing us to cancel our reception.
So yea, I really dislike her, but I put up with her. Everything is an issue and she’s horribly wearing. FI feels mostly the same but I think he endures it more because, well, she’s his mom!
We plan to move out of state (hopefully this year!) to get away. She’s just WAY too much for us to handle.
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I like her a lot, and we get along fine, as long as I don’t have to spend extended amounts of time with her. Then she starts to drive me a little nuts, loll
Post # 11
I heart my MIL. I miss her since we moved!
Post # 12
We get along fine but like you, I sometimes wonder what she REALLY thinks. But she is the mother of 3 sons and has a domineering husband so she is just one of the sweet types, trying to please everyone. I guess that’s good b/c we otherwise don’t have much in common outside of my FI.
Post # 13
I love that lady, she is always thinking of me.. on my side and is so easy to talk to. I am one lucky bee… My In Laws rock
Post # 14
We get along, and have lots of fun chit-chatting about FH when he was a kid. She lives out of state though so I never see her.
Post # 15
I get two MILs…. lucky me? heh.
No really… my FI’s step-mom I’ve met quite a few times and she is nice enough. I mean, I can’t really ever see us having a deep conversation or anything, but I would say my relationship with her is as good or better than FI’s relationship with her (which has always been strained).
FI’s mom I have actually only met once because she lives pretty far away. She came and stayed with FI for a weekend last year and she was really nice. I think if she lived closer we would be a lot closer.
Overall I think I’m extremely lucky in that FI’s family really stays out of his life entirely. Since we got engaged in October, his parents haven’t called him at all (he has called them occasionally). I do wish that he was a little closer to his family sometimes because I’m close to mine, but it is better than the alternative (which would be for him to be super close to a crazy family)
Post # 16
I really love mine, but she intimidates me sometimes! I always go out of my way to make her happy because I’m a little scared of her, and I think that actually keeps us from being super close. Hopefully my irrational fear of her will die down after we’re married!