Post # 1
DH is good for me.
When I was younger, I loved to work out, but eventually stopped when my ex would laugh at me for doing so – long story which I will not get into.
DH loves sports and we work out together (at least we did before having the baby, now we have to split time). Being with him, I accomplished things that I would have never done if he hadn’t been in my life, like completing a half-marathon this past September.
There are so many more examples, but now it’s your turn! How is your influencing you in a good way?
Post # 3
Hmmm… same! Almost the only time I go to the gym is to work out with FI.
I think he also helps me to put my crap into perspective. Sometimes when I get irritated, I get a little ‘ranty’ and overexaggerate how ‘annoying’ something is. I think he helps remind me that no, it’s really not that big a deal lol.
He is also my BIGGEST cheerleader. Any time I want to try something, he is always there encouraging me to go for it. He tells me all the time how smart I am and has no problem telling me when he thinks I’m better at something than he is. He NEVER tells me he doesn’t think I’d be good at something. (Okay, except maybe singing, but… in his defense, I’m awful!)
Lastly, we both encourage each other and keep each other really grounded in our faith. We talk about our spirituality a lot and it leads us to examine our beliefs much further than we naturally would on our own- sometimes I’ll ask him a question he’s never thought about, sometimes he’ll put a new spin on an issue that I’ve never thought about before. It’s wonderful. <3
Post # 4
He taught me that I don’t have to keep living in the past – I was sexually assualted as a child, and he has been a great support for me working through that. He’s also taught me a lot about responsibility and given me a lot of support around university, finances, work, etc.
For my part, I think I’ve helped him loosen up a lot – he’s from quite a traditional family and has a dad with OCD, so fiance used to be very anal and everything he did had to be ‘just right.’ I like to think I’ve helped him be able to relax and not be such a control freak, as well as open him up to new experiences. I’ve also helped him with his spirituality. He was raised a Catholic, but does not really ‘believe’ so me being an atheist has, I think, given him the permission to find his own middle ground with his beliefs.
Post # 5
Honestly, he is a nicer person than I am. I am very judgey by nature and he keeps me in balance, not by reprimanding me but just by seeing things differently and in less harsh terms.
Post # 6
Mine has brought out the best in me in so many ways. He is an amazing man. He donates to every charity and orders from every fundraiser that he can. I used to think twice about donating to everything and now I give more freely. He is so open to everyone he meets. I don’t think he has ever met a stranger. I try to be more open to people because of him. When I first met him I came from a bad relationship and he helped to regain my trust in men and to help me realized they are not all bad. Love my man!
Post # 7
@azure: I can relate to this completely. I come from a very judgy family so it’s in my up bringing to judge harshly. I try so hard not to be that way and my SO always tells me when I’m being catty and gives me a different point of view on things.
My SO also gives me so much confidence in myself. He is very supportive and it makes me take chances in things I am passionate about with out being scared of being judge for my choices.
Post # 8
He is ambitious and pushes me to be a better person every single day. He encouraged me to go back to school for my master’s, and helped encourage me through the rough job search that led to the job I’m in now.
Post # 9
Oh boy, he has helped me a lot… i used to feel so small, i liked to pretend i was amazing, but deep down i didnt feel so good because of a lot of things that were happening at home (i lived your my parents till i got married).
He helped me to be more independent and to realize that im not a kid anymore and that i deserve to do whatever i want (not in an immature way, as in with responsability)
Post # 10
My FI has taught me to stand up for myself and not allow people to take advantage of me. He has also taught me to express my feelings right away instead of bottling it up which usually leads to me getting mad and/or emotional. He will always speak up for what he feels is right and I admire that about him.
He is also hilarious and will find the funny side to any situation, even if it’s facetious. This reminds me to not take life so seriously and live to enjoy each and every moment.
Post # 11
My FI taught me not to be so high-strung and stressed. I used to get severly ill when I stressed myself out but ever since I started dating FI and I haven’t been sick from stress once 🙂
Post # 12
He keeps me strong in my faith, encourages me to keep fit, active and busy. But best of all he tells me off when I’m being selfish and unkind. I’m so lucky to have someone who wants to see me grow into a person with a beautiful heart.