(Closed) how late is too late to send out invites?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

my rule has been 1 week for it to get to them, one week for them to waste time not sending it and one week to get it back to you. So in theory you should be fine, but people might wonder why its so late. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it may depend on who. Some people will catch onto these things (e.g. me) and I will know I’m B-list because it is so late and you just asked me for my address. Then there are some totally easygoing people who would be like “Cool, I wanna go!” and it won’t bother them (e.g. my FI). Since you are in high season, waiting that late may mean they might already have plans (other weddings/vacations) anyway. Did you get any ideas of who may decline based on what they said when you got their addresses? Conversely, if you are close to some of the A-list people, you can “jokingly” ask them where their RSVPs are. I did that to a few of my friends and discovered that two SOs couldn’t come (work schedule/kids) and a few other SOs were maybes (same reasons).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think you need to send them out at least 6 weeks, with a deadline 2 weeks before. Then you can ring round those you neglect to RSVP. I think this is even more crucial if you have a B list (perhaps 8 weeks) since it’ll not give them much time to respond it you do get declines.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jd51:  Oh sorry! Significant Others (or in our world, +1s.)

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jd51:  when does your venue need approximate and final numbers??  you should give yourself at least a week or two before that for your rsvp deadline so you can follow up on any non-responses.   invites should be mailed at least 4 weeks prior to rsvp due date.   if there are no out of town guests, 3 weeks may be enough time before rsvp due date.

looking at your wedding date, you should be getting them out now.  are they ready??

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jd51:  Honestly, at this point, I would just do what I did and start gently joking with some people to see if you can get the RSVPs to come in a little faster, especially with the people who you don’t know are going to come or not. I had some actually say they were purposely waiting until the last minute to drive us crazy and some straight up said they forgot. We’ve had a B list going and invites ready and as soon as I got two spots cleared I asked for addresses and got them out the next business day. One person who knew her husband had to stay home with the kids just hadn’t gotten around to sending in her RSVP yet, so I wouldn’t necessarily assume the Nos are waiting until the end to say no.

Honestly, looking back, I should’ve made the RSVP date a little sooner. Currently, they are 2.5 weeks before our wedding and the final headcount is due a week before.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Depends.  I would know I was a B Lister if I got the invite at the 4 week mark, and it would feel a little “mehhhh” to know for a fact I was B List.  However, plenty of people wouldn’t realize/wouldn’t care. As with many other things – just know your audience.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jd51:  when is the rsvp date for your A list?  i found a lot came in the last week.  will you have enough time to send out B list invites?  will you be able to change the rsvp date?  how many B list guests do you have? a lot?  i suppose you can prioritize your B list and send them out individually as your regrets come in.  (hoping your regrets don’t all of a sudden change to yes’s)

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mypinkshoes:  OMG, regrets can turn into Yes(s)??? I never thought of that.

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