Post # 1
Just curious how long you ladies think you’ll stay at your reception. I’ve been to weddings were the bride and groom stayed all night, and others where they mingled with everyone, and left an hour or so after dinner was finished. Part of me feels like this is probably the ONE time I will have all of the people I care about most, and should stay all night. But then I love the idea of the sendoff and also know I’ll be exhausted and happy for some alone time before our early morning flight.
Party all night & sleep on the plane? Or make an early exit for some QT?
Post # 3
Sleep on the plane!! That’s our plan at least. Our reception is going until 9, then we can rent out the bar at the hotel where everyone is staying. Our flight is at 8 the next morning!!! We have a whole week of QT after the wedding!
Post # 4
I was surprised at how early I was ready to leave. Pretty much after the ceremony was over. I enjoyed the ceremony but was so tired from all the preparations and had spent so much time the two days before the wedding with all my girlfriends that I was ready to spend time with my husband. I’m not saying that’s the way everyone should be but if possible allow yourself to be flexable. Good luck!
Post # 5
your guests came to celebrate with you, not attend a party. i’m going to sleep on the plane.
Post # 6
I’m undecided on this one as well, although I guess in my situation I don’t have an early flight the next morning as I’m having a destination wedding. If it’s at all possible, maybe you could change your flight time to later or even a couple days after so you can have some RR and if you decide to stay until late you will be alright as well. Otherwise, I would see how the whole day goes and follow your feelings on it. Hope this helps!
Post # 7
We are spending lots of time in the couple of days before the wedding with the guests from out of town, all of whom are coming in way earlier than I would have expected. We are going to leave about 10, as we have about an hour drive to the hotel where we are spending the weekend, and want to get there while still awake enough to enjoy some time together. Like bonniebelle, I expect it to be a pretty tiring week. If we were flying somewhere in the morning, it might be different, because I know I would be too worked up to sleep well anyway. But we have a fabulous honeymoon suite waiting for us, and I know I will want to get there.
I’m sure it also depends on your friends, and your own personality. We just are not stay up all night party people, even though we have friends who are. Although actually those friends will probably take advantage of their hotel room and the absence of their kids to have a little romance of their own, and so won’t miss us all that much!
Post # 8
I don’t plan on staying at the reception all night. The party will probably go till about 11-12, but I think we’ll be leaving around 10:30. Neither FI nor I are night owls anyway and it will truely be a "wedding night" for us, so I know we’ll be anxious to begin those festivities.
Post # 9
I plan on staying for the whole reception and making a short appearance at the after party but I am still a bit of a party animal and will be spending time with lots of people that I rarely get to see. I also would worry that something would go wrong if I left the reception early. Have I mentioned before that I am a control freak? 😉
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA
We were the last to leave the ballroom… since our room was just 1 floor down. We were dancing with all of our friends until the clock struck midnight…. then we lingered and had some nice moments to ourselves as the crews came to clean up.
It goes by much too fast… and we barely got to see anyone anyhow! I couldn’t imagine leaving before the party really began!
Post # 11
Personally, I have never been to a wedding where the Bride and Groom didn’t stay through the end of the reception. It seems really odd to me to leave before your guests – they came to celebrate with you – if you don’t want to stay up late, then an earlier wedding might have been better?
I think you will risk offending people (like me) if you left early. And I don’t think I am easily offended! But you know your guests the best, so maybe this is more common in other places and everyone will think it is the most normal thing.
Post # 12
I think we’ll stay at least until after 11pm. I don’t know, it’s the biggest party we’ll probably ever have, I don’t want to miss it because I was tired. It depends on what kind of people you are, everyone is different but I know that I would personally feel like I missed out if I left any earlier.
Post # 13
Ours goes till midnight. we’ll be there till then! We go to bed by 10 every night, sadly to say….this is our one and only party just for us, and all our guests are there for us – why on earth would we leave??? I mean, for a sendoff? You could always do a sendoff 15 minutes before the end of the party…..I have just never seen anyone leave so much earlier than their guests. I woudl think it rude.
Post # 14
Our wedding is early (the Catholic church only gives us 2 options) and because of the proximity of venues we are doing the reception immediately following. It’ll probably wrap up around 7:30 so we are thinking of doing an after party. It’s going to make it tricky to do the departure and send off and what not. Anyone got any good suggestions? Should we do the send off from our after party? Or do the send off and go to our hotel, maybe change into a short dress and then go to the after party? Anyway, we’ll be staying at our reception the entire time. I agree that the guests came to party with you and celebrate WITH you.