How late would you be willing to have your last child?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What is the oldest you would be okay with when having your last child?
    Under 30 : (21 votes)
    4 %
    31 : (19 votes)
    4 %
    32 : (28 votes)
    6 %
    33 : (16 votes)
    3 %
    34 : (19 votes)
    4 %
    35 : (131 votes)
    28 %
    36 : (49 votes)
    10 %
    37 : (32 votes)
    7 %
    38 : (41 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I want to be done having kids by my 30th birthday.

    Post # 4
    Member
    703 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    my mom had my youngest sibling at 40, a few of my friends mothers were right around the 38-41 year mark when they were born.. i think this would probably be the oldest i would go, but i would definitely do some more research to check up on risks, etc.

    Post # 5
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We want 3 or 4 kids by 30

    Post # 6
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    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t have a self-imposed deadline before menopause (which is not fully under my control, though I am careful not to mess with hormone disruptors which may cause, among other problems, early menopause). What would be the reason to set a deadline earlier than that? Very poor health?

    Post # 8
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    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    We’re hoping to be done by 30, but if it’s hard for us to get pregnant than I think we’d increase the cutoff to 35.

    Post # 9
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    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Just a warning, these threads never seem to end well 🙂 

    im 39 and almost 16 weeks pregnant with outpr first child. Did I want to wait this long, not really, but it didn’t even meet DH until a month before my 36th birthday. So entires, these things are out of your control. 

    Post # 10
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    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would prefer 35 max,  i think, but we only want 2 and our first is due in October (i’ll be 28)

     

    Post # 11
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    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @joya_aspera:  one reason is the increased risk of problems for mom/baby after age 35

     

    ETA: another reason for me personally is that I dont’ want to be like 60 and still have kids in college, but that’s just me.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    877 posts
    Busy bee

    Since a lady in my town is having twins at 52, I think your time frame is cutting it short!  

    Post # 13
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    7084 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think I’d be okay with being an older mom. Ideally I’d like to be done by 35 just for health reasons, but if for some reason we weren’t able to conceive until I was much older I think I’d be fine with it.

    Post # 14
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    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’d like to be pregnant with my last child at 29, to have him or her at 30. I want 3 kids. I want to be a young mom and be young enough to enjoy my life with my husband after the kids are all grown and out. Plus I don’t want to deal with all the troubles that come with having children later in life.

    Post # 15
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    1802 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have a few different numbers in mind for our personal situations. I would prefer to be 30 by the time we finish having children. We want two. I would like the first one at 24-25 and the second to be born by the time I’m 29 (SO would be 31). If, for some reason, we choose to wait longer my cut off would probably be around 33 years old. I just can’t imagine being 40 and having a toddler running around. 

    Post # 16
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We only want one child and I’d really like to have them by 30-31. My mom had me at 20, and while that would have been way too early for me, I think its great that now shes in her 40s and “free” to live life (maybe that sounds weird haha). Her and my stepfather are still young enough to travel and have their own lives outside of their children.

    I work with two women that had their first (and only) children at age 41 and 42. Both kids are healthy, but man the women are completely exhausted and run down. I know that comes with all new parents, but there is a huge difference between them and the younger new moms in my office.

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