- Mrs. DG
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
I’ve been grappling with how much to share with you about the birth of little Miss Cecilia Jo… aka Lemon aka our amazing baby 🙂 Suffice it to say, I wanted to post something because each birth is so different and unique and it’s probably better to have more perspectives than less.
Before babies though, I was one of those people who was like… Ewww… all that stuff is Too Much Information… So I’ll probably try to stay vague. I’m happy to answer any questions either on this thread or by PM.
Like Mighty, I went into labor on Sunday. We went to the Japanese garden at the UW arboretum to see a bonzai exhibit that day and had been hiking the day before, so lots of walking probably started things off.
9 pm mild contractions. I thought, “Bah I scoff at these things. This isn’t so bad!” They were variable all night. The rule our doctor’s office told us was to come in when contractions were 5 min apart lasting 1 min. They should be intense enough that you can’t talk through them.
Slept well Sunday night and kept Mr. DG home from work on Monday just in case. I still didn’t know if this was the real deal since everything was so variable. Called the doc on Monday and her nurse said it sounded like I had more time but “not to be a hero”. Wasn’t sure what that meant or if it was even very helpful to my situation, but we went for a walk, went to the garden store, and worked on making a bonzai tree out of one of the Japanese maples in our yard.
Monday night I was getting annoyed. No change in contractions except a little more intense. I was still hanging out on Weddingbee, and still not in a ton of pain. The closest contractions were still 7-10 minutes apart. I was starting to think things would never happen.
I called our doula (Mr. DG’s cousin) and she said she’d come over. Right before she got here, I panicked and decided to go into the hospital. I can’t really explain it, but I just felt I needed to be there.
I got there and they wanted to start augmenting and rupturing and it felt like things were moving too fast, so we opted to walk the halls… I had 3 really intense contractions (who is scoffing now… not me!) and knew that after 2 days of active labor, that unmedicated birth wasn’t for us.
But we had the birth of our dreams. Once I relaxed (I was really scared of the unknown), things progressed really fast. I got the world’s best epidural. Seriously. The best. I did need augmentation with pitocin, because contractions were still 7-10 min apart. It was weird. All day Monday I thought nothing was happening, but that was really active labor for me. I just had nothing to compare it to 🙂 But I bring that up to say that pitocin isn’t the evil horrible thing that it can be made out to be. In my case it was wonderful and necessary, since contractions were never going to get closer together, and no better or worse than the unaugmented labor I was having before it.
I labored over Monday night and had her at 12:44 on Tuesday morning. (Sheesh long labor- 39 hours!) She was only 6 lb 4 oz and was out in 3 pushes. My OB went off call at 7 am, but she was so great that she came back for our delivery after her morning workout!
She did something called “laboring down” where the baby is ready to deliver but you just wait and let them settle for a little while before pushing. (you can’t do this without an epidural). It made everything “down there” really ready for the birth so that there was no tearing, minimal swelling and obviously a very quick easy delivery. I loved my OB!
Things got crazy when Cecilia came out. The placenta was tiny, the cord was tiny, the cord had a rupture in it, and was “membranous”. Membranous cords are far more serious than what we had previously thought the cord problem was. These are cords that freak OBs out! She hadn’t grown at all since our 36 week ultrasound! If we had known in foresight what we knew in hindsight, she would have been a mandatory C-section. I’m so glad I had the birth experience of my dreams, but it was chilling to know how close to disaster we could have been.
Oh, and I forgot about me. My Blood Pressure shot up to 140/110 after delivery. It was pretty clear at this point that I had indeed had mild pre-eclampsia, and might have needed more intervention.
It’s really nice to know that those great interventions were right there for us if we needed them and it highlights exactly why I’m a big fan of planning for what you want your birth to be, but also making sure that you have all things needed just in case you are dealt a different hand.
If that cord had been completely ruptured and we were not in the birthing suite with our nurses and doctors… even if we were right outside the hospital doors, we could have had a tragic outcome. Instead, we had the most amazing miracle that we could have ever dreamed of!
Perhaps for people who have a completely uncomplicated pregnancy, home would be fine, but otherwise just consider that seemingly benign things can end up being much more serious than previously thought!
Epidural was amazing! In my case, it really helped me relax and embrace the process… which I needed because, like it or not, I was scared.
Pitocin- not evil, and with an epidural no worse than unaugmented labor. In my case, necessary because I never would have progressed without it.
Find a practitioner that you would trust your life with… because your life and the baby’s life are literally in their hands.
Labor and delivery were not scary (and I thought they would be).
There are techniques to decrease swelling and tearing. (I can be more specific in PM :)) For me, that meant a dream recovery.
Anyway, I hope that wasn’t Too Much Information. I’m happy to share the nitty gritty details privately… and I’m happy to answer any questions in this thread.
Things I’m glad I had: My support system! Mr. DG and his cousin were amazing and our OB was more than I ever dreamed. I was also specific in what I needed from my L&D nurses, and oh my goodness, they were FABULOUS!!!! I’m going back with treats for them!!!
Things I wished I had with me: Sootheze nursing pads. These are amazing soothing gel pads for when the nipples get really tender (which happens really quickly). They are worth their weight in gold!
Also second skin moist burn pads for the same reason. I’m allergic to lanolin so I should have had some olive oil on hand.
My “Hotpockets” back rice pillow which I’ve talked about before. It was a must for L&D!
More protein containing snacks.
I also wished I had considered what was going on at home as “labor” because that’s when all the visualization stuff, lollipops and massage stuff might have come in handy. By the time we were at the hospital, we were already in the home stretch and really didn’t care about those things.
A list, B list and C list- We made a list of people we called or texted at the beginning of labor (A list), mid-labor progress reports (B list) and delivery list (C list). We made sure that all these people knew that the phone only worked one way in this case and that calls and texts were NOT welcome.
Things I didn’t need: All those music playlists, DVDs, reading materials etc… This was about one thing only and it didn’t involve TV or stuff. It was me vs. my mind and that was it!
Multiple clothes. They have everything you need post-partum in the mother baby unit! Including some important items that I didn’t know about… They’ll have them, but I’m happy to tell you about them…
Ok, so ask away if you have any questions 🙂