Post # 1
We are going to a NYE wedding in our hometown and we are strapped for cash. I moved to a new city to be with my fiance and I have been struggling to find a job. We are slowly getting behind on payments, and eating lots of spaghetti. It’s embarassing but it won’t last forever. The couple that is getting married have said they do not want gifts…however IF we feel we want to, they want a gift card for Home Depot or money to go towards their basement renovations.
Having said we are strapped for cash, is $50 too little to give to them? FI is usually very generous for gifts and gives $100 minimum. I will have to try to convince him that we are not obligated to break the bank to give them a gift. What should I do?
Post # 3
$50 is fine. Anyone who complains or judges you for that is just an a-hole.
Post # 4
@MissBabeski: I think it is fine. I would be happy to receive that.
Post # 5
I don’t think $50 is too little; maybe you could get them a gift card and offer to come help them with their renovations one weekend?
Post # 6
That is plenty. I know when I was in college I actually went in together with someone for a $50 gift card so I don’t think its terrible. Plus you are traveling to see them to be at their wedding!
Post # 7
For a couple that asked for no gifts I think thats fine. If you still feel uncomfortable what about the $50.00 gift card and then put something in the card about in leiu of a gift you’d like to help them with their basement such as painting or moving furniture.
Post # 8
I want you to know that we have struggled financially too and you will get past it ! That said, $ 50 is more than enough. A family of 5 gave us 5 bucks each for a total of $25 at our wedding. I still can’t get past that.
DISCLAIMER: I said that I still can’t get past that and I am not interested in what the etiquette police have to say about gift giving. My hubby is godfather to the child of one of the members of this family and even when we were eating spaghetti, bought him a $ 70 first year birthday present.
Post # 10
Whew! Thanks you so much! Now I won’t feel so bad thinking $50 is too little!
@gloss: Oooh good idea!
Post # 11
Nothing wrong at all with $50! We have had some people give us $25 gift cards and gifts that are less then that and either it is the thought that matters.
Post # 12
@MissBabeski: You give the gift you can afford whether that’s just a congratulatory card, $50.00 or somethng else.
We got several checks for $50 and several gifts that probably cost that or less and they were all wonderful and appreciated.
Any bridal couple that thinks you “owe” them a certain amount (don’t get me started on couples who think guests are obligated to “cover their plate” *shudder*) are wrong and rude.
Post # 13
@lisa105: Give it up already ! WOW ! I think you are the one who is wrong and rude !
Wedding bee has become awful lately because of you !
Giving enough to cover one’s plate (and then some) is our tradition. I expected the same at my wedding. I guess I am wrong and rude ! YAY FOR ME !
Post # 15
I think it’s a wonderful gift.
Post # 16
Actually, I have to agree with @lisa105: for once.