Post # 1
So, I’m pretty new around these parts (I was on the wedding boards for years!)… and my husband and I have been TTC for about 3 months. I know many of you have been trying for a lot longer but I’m just wondering- how long do you wait until you go see a doctor to find out if everything is ok with the two of you.
Neither of us wants this too feel like a science experiment so I’m not waking up at 6 am to take my temp or anything liek that- we just had Sex at least once a day during the two weeks I could be ovulating…
So for those of you who are more educated in all of this than me, when do you go see a doctor to check if anything is wrong?
Post # 3
@Jenbee: I seriously recommend charting, though! Its not like a science experiment at all, its more like a powerful awareness tool! If you don’t want to chart your temps, you could try to pay attention to when you have really fertile cervical fluid or check your cervical position, but you can still have these things occur even if you are not ovulating. Temping is really the only way to see if you are actually ovulating. I bought the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility per recommendations from other bees, read most of it, and have now been charting for my first month. It is awesome to be so in tune with what’s going on with my body!
Are your cycles regular? How long are they?
Could be a problem on DH’s end too, like low sperm count.
I would wait a little longer before you seek medical help, but if you are seriously wanting to conceive, I seriously recommend charting! There’s all sorts of phone apps and internet websites you can use so you don’t have to write it all down. It takes less than a minute to take your temp right when you wake up in the morning.
I know that’s probably not what you wanted to hear, but when you know what’s going on with your body, it can really eliminate a lot of really expensive and invasive medical procedures. I would chart for a few months just to see if you can figure out what’s going on before asking a doctor to try and do it for you 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve always heard doctors don’t want to see you until you have been trying a year if you are under 35. Once over 35, they will see you after six months.
Post # 6
It depends on the doctor I think, both hubby and I are in our mid twenties and my doctor’s office usually recommends couples come in after 6 months regardless.
Post # 7
FWIW, I didn’t find charting to be like a ‘science-experiment’ at all. In fact, MrDane didn’t even notice that I was taking my temp. I have the FertilityFriend free app on my phone, so I would get up early to go to the gym, happen to take my temp when I woke up, then plug my temp in my phone while I brushed my teeth. No muss, no fuss, I didn’t pee on any sticks or stick my finger in my hoo-hah to check CM or anything like that.
Anyway, I believe most docs won’t see someone for infertility until about a year, and at that time they will ask you to chart for a few months to see if you even ovulate. If you do that part before you even get to an appointment, it saves you those months later.
Post # 8
I saw my doctor at 5 months but that was largely due to the fact that it was time for my annual exam. I am 34 and my doctor would only start fertility testing if I had been using the ovulation tets for a few months, which I had been. So we started testing at 5 months. I don’t temp, but did use ovulation tests. My dog wakes me up several times a night so it is totally impossible for me to temp. I recommend using ovulation tests for a few months and then seeing your doctor. At least this way you know if you are ovulating or not before you go in.
Post # 9
Ok ladies!! thanks so much 🙂 Im really kind of clueless so this all helps!
Post # 10
@Jenbee: Most will say 1 year unless you have some sort of complication: advanced maternal age (>35), PCOS, anovulation, luteal phase defect, etc. The thing is, you don’t have any clue if you’re not ovulating or if you have a luteal phase defect if you don’t chart. I was very fortunate, I was charting my temperature and using ovulation tests since January. So come September and I wasn’t KU, I had a pretty good idea as to why and I didn’t have to wait a full year to be seen by a doctor – I have an LPD. I HIGHLY recommend charting – if it won’t stress you out! Some doctors will even require you TO chart before they try fertility medications. So like, a girl on here is charting just in case her doctor requires her to, that way she doesn’t have to wait the 12 months, go back home and chart for three more months, then come back to the doctor and START testing at 15 months… So I def think you should chart for at least 3 cycles before seeing a doctor =)