Post # 1
Did it take you to pick a date?? I recently got engaged (just last week) and everyone is asking me the date.. Am I really supposed to know that this soon?? I know weddings take a long time to plan and need to be done in advance but is it normal to pick the date a few days after the proposal? Please share your personal experiences, how long you waited after the proposal before setting a date, and how long away that date was set for. Thanks
Post # 3
We set the date almost a year after we got engaged. Then we set if for the following year.
Post # 4
FI & I seem to take longer to do everything, but we didn’t book a date until after a smidge over 4 months of being engaged! Everyone kept asking and we were like “Oh, we didn’t get to look yet”-we were planning an engagement party right after getting engaged, so the actual wedding date was put on the back burner. Don’t feel pressured by anyone!! Be prepared if you’re having a long engagement, too. Ours will be exactly 2 1/2 years and practically no one understands why. We first decided on the venue we wanted, and then looked at what was available and worked for us. If we went to a place with a date in mind, we’d most likely have to choose the place or the date since most places fill up very quickly. Good luck and relax! Bask in the engagement glow 🙂
ETA- for an exact timeline, we were engaged April 6, 2012, set a date mid August 2012, and our wedding is Sept 26, 2014.
Post # 5
We knew that we wanted to get married in the summer, but we did not set the date until we found our venue and they told us which summer dates we could choose from. It was about 8 months after our engagement that we chose our date. We had a 2 year engagement, though. I would imagine people with shorter engagements would not wait that long.
Post # 6
The day after we announced our engagement people were asking for the date. We picked one two weeks later. In the end ours was out of necessity. I had applied for a nursing program and the wedding is the Saturday before spring break so that we can honeymoon. Just figure out what seasonal vibe you want, how long it will take you to get the money together if you don’t have it now, and pick a venue You love, then find out when they are available in your ballpark range.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
I think it depends on the person: while a date isn’t neccessary right away, it is usually defines all of your other decisions (venue, colors–fall wedding, spring wedding, etc, photographer), so I think once you start seriously planning, you’re going to need a date. But there’s absolutely no problem with enjoying your engagement, just celebrating being engaged for a while, and searching for inspiration before picking a hardcore date. I actually picked our date right away (it worked best with our family, school schedules, etc.), but what worked for us isn’t neccesarily a must for everyone!!
Post # 8
Two months for us to nail it down. Yep people asked a lot until then!
Post # 9
It took us about 3 months to nail down the date.
Post # 10
My husband and I didn’t take long to pick our initial date, but we had to change it several times for various reasons:
1. MOH anniversary
2. weather considerations
3. Grandparent’s anniversary (Grandma was not supportive of the wedding)
4. cousin’s graduation (ruled out 2 weekends that we were considering)
5. Aunt Flo
It took us a couple months to finally nail our date down. Luckily we were still able to start planning some things without actually knowing a date or venue. It worked out great anyway! I never thought I wanted to be a June bride, but June 2nd 2012 was beautiful in Southern Indiana, plenty cool (some people were wearing jackets. IN JUNE!), there was a nive breeze, which made for very pretty pictures, it was cool enough our cake didn’t melt. LOVELY!