Post # 1
I have a question – one of my exes and I got back together in June. I told him that I wasn’t going to wait forever for him to decide this time around and things got very serious right away despite the fact it is long distance and we live in different states.
I thought he was going to propose on a recent trip we had over Labor Day weekend and learned that was the plan, but he ran into difficulties with the logistics of the ring – I had specifications which were proving to be VERY difficult to get in one ring. When he told me that, I was thinking it might be months until he could ask. I found out from my dad that he asked my father for his permission and my dad said yes about a week ago.
Does anyone know how long until your guy asked you to marry him from the point he asked your father? We don’t have any plans to see each other until MAYBE late October due to my work travel schedule. That seems like a really long time after when he asked. I’m not sure if I’m over-thinking it, but I’m wondering if I should plan a trip to see him just so I can make it “easy”.
He does know that I would prefer he have the ring when we get engaged. I was engaged once before and we didn’t have the ring yet, so I never really got that “moment” where I get to spread the news and show off the ring. I’ve been candid and don’t think he would propose before getting the ring. I also don’t think he would propose via any means other than physically being together.
The suspense is killing me here. It would almost be easier if no one had told me so I would still think it’s months away and not be wondering about it constantly.
Post # 2
Consultette: One day, because he knew my dad would NOT be able to keep quiet. He went over there on a Thursday evening (told me he was helping a friend fix his truck), and proposed on a Friday.
Post # 3
My FI asked me the next day! But I had a friend whose husband waited 4 months! Seemed strange to me, but he wanted to not only surprise her, but surprise both sets of parents with the timing.
Post # 4
Personally, I never went through the waiting phase as mine was a complete surprise. BUT I asked him about a million questions after he proposed and one of the first ones was when did he ask my dad. So this is the timeline for our general engagement. Late May he got the ring. Mid july is when he asked my parents. Late july is when he proposed.
My best advice would be to just enjoy every moment and take things one day at a time. It’s going to happen. The love of your life wants to marry you too! That’s awesome. Just try to keep your head in the present so you can fully live in the moment when it does happen.
Post # 5
My FI asked for my dad’s permission when him, my step mom and my brother came to visit for christmas (so december 2012) then he asked me March 2013. He told me he had every intention of doing it sooner but our work schedules kept ruining his plans lol!
Post # 6
He asked my dad sometime in early Septemeber then proposed October 20th.
Post # 7
One week! My parents live almost six hours away and he wanted to propose on my birthday weekend so they made it seem like they were coming down to visit to celebrate a week early. I found it odd because I had to work all day Saturday but no big deal because they could just hang out with him. He took them out to lunch and asked! One week later he popped the question.
Post # 8
Consultette: My FI asked my mom last thanksgiving and proposed in February, so three months 🙂
Post # 9
The next day! He knew my dad would probably tell my stepmother, who would in turn tell my sister. He didn’t want to ruin the surprise.
Post # 10
12 days. That was a long twelve days for my Dad who was instructed not to tell me (obviously lol) or my Mom, which was super tough for him haha.
Post # 11
Consultette: One month and a half. He asked my dad the day he ordered the ring and it took about a month to come in. He then waited another week or so to ask me!
Post # 12
3+ months….and it felt even longer.
Post # 13
Consultette: Lol I thought I’d be the only one, but like quite a few other women, my fiance asked me the very next day! 🙂
Post # 14
He asked my dad around Father’s Day in June. He proposed in late August, so around 2 months.
Post # 15
Less than 24 hours – looks like a trend 🙂