Post # 1
I know guests (and non guests) have up to a year to give a wedding gift.
FI I and I were invited to two weddings in October. We were extremely tight on money. I mean, not a penny left over after all bills were paid. We couldn’t afford to attend the weddings (we live 4 hours away from our hometown where they were held), let alone give gifts. I wrote them both facebook messages and apologized for not being able to make it.
I feel extremely terrible about not being able to attend the weddings or even send a card with some cash. I thought about sending a card sans cash, but I just didn’t want to be “that person” who sends an empty card. We aren’t extremely close with these couples, FI went to college with both of the guys, but we will be inviting them to our wedding.
FI has been working more hours and we have some extra money to play with. I’ve been thinking more and more about sending each couple a card with some cash as a belated gift.
Do you think they would appreciate this and have a “better late than never” attitude? Or do you think they would consider us lazy and/or forgetful?
Post # 3
@MichiganGirl24: I mailed a check for a wedding in October in December. I have yet to mail a check for a wedding in November. That one I’m still trying to decide the amount because I did not attend and I’m not really sure what our friendship is anymore. Plus, I kind of figure whatever I give I’ll probably get right back in March, so I should probably stop overthinking the amount!
Sorry for putting you inside my brain for a second there. My response is, sending a gift a few months late is totally acceptable and preferred by most (I would guess) than no gift at all.
Post # 4
We just received them for a few weeks after, but most gifts were received prior or on the day of the wedding. I’m sure they would appreciate whatever you chose to gift them, though!
Post # 5
Thanks for your replies!
And I decided to add a poll!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I put 3-4 months… BUT, we have friends who have said repeatedly “We have to bring over your wedding gift” a year and a half later. If we do eventually receive this, we will be delighted to receive it.
I think your friends would be very appreciative.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
We got married on 10/19 and my grandmother gave us a gift on Christmas that was meant as a wedding present.
Post # 8
I didn’t vote because we received everything prior to or at the wedding.