(Closed) how long after????

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It really depends on what kind of training he does and what schools he gets into. It varies, particularly when it comes to schools, based on where he gets placed and there will probably be a little time in between each because schools don’t just start up each month….a friend of mine was in marine aviation school and it was not short. You might have luck with specific questions on a marine-based board.

ETA: if you pick a holiday weekend you’re probably safe.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i just asked my brother he said he left for bootcamp in June and was done with MCT and MOS training by december. He is Motor T if that helps at all…though your FI wont know his MO until he has finished training.

that is just a ballpark – hope it helps!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@cyndistar3: ooo military police! very nice.

When i got engaged i was planning my wedding around my brothers deployment (we are very close) so i understand how tough it is! The thing about the military is they like to be secret about dates haha, and change things around. First he was scheduled to deploy in november, then january, then march till he could finally confirm it would be late february/march sometime. but i was in between dates : first we were like crap if he is leaving in january then FI and I can get married Dec. 2010 or we would have to wait until September 2011.

When we finally got a date from my brother i was able to choose a date. i was almost exactly 5 months away from my wedding date when we decided. so far so good!

i would say late sept/ early oct would be safe. hopefully after bootcamp he can get a more firm grasp on a date.

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If you are going to his BMT graduation you can get married then! I was in the Air Force, and a lot of people did this. Shocking, but whatever works for you! 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@cyndistar3: yes it does! Before I started dating FI i would go visit my brother on the weekends with a few girlfriends. More eye-candy than you could ever imagine!

Good Luck with everything! i think saving some cash would be ideal – even though i think we are all in a rush to the alter, saving pennies is a great idea. you guys have forever together 🙂 whats a few weeks or one more month ya know?

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Check on the rent/school thing–if you are married, he will receive a stipend to cover you while he’s in school or be placed in housing that allows for a spouse (separate barracks, something else on base, etc).  Military dudes get paid more when they’re married because it is not as common for women to work. Same for kids.  I never heard of anybody having to pay rent, married!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@cyndistar3: I am going to have to say that ejs4y8 is correct. It doesn’t matter if he is at boot camp, his MOS school, or at a duty station, if he is married he will receive what is called BAH (basic allowance for housing). If he is at a school, such as bootcamp where a spouse is not allowed to join (an unaccompanied school) he will still get BAH but will not get BAS (basic allowance for subsistence aka, food money). If he is at a base/school where he can live with you, then he will get BAH and BAS.

Basically, if he is single he pretty much is required to live in barracks until a certain rank (usually dependent on the base) when he then has the option to live on or off base. If he is living on base then he does not get BAH or BAS.

If he is married he will get BAH no matter where he is currently living. It will also be higher than the BAH for someone of the same rank that is single, hence ejs4y8’s comment about more money for getting married. The ONLY time a married military member does not ‘get’ BAH is when he is living in base housing with his wife. At that point, the ‘rent’ for base housing is equal to his BAH and so they don’t give it to the military member…technically I think they put it on the paycheck (LES, leave and earning statement) but then automatically deduct the amount as an ‘allottment’. I could be wrong about how they go about doing it, but I know that if you as a couple live in base housing, you never actually see any of the BAH.

The amount of BAH will be dependent on where he is ‘living’. If he gets married before boot camp then the BAH will be from his home of record zip code. When he moves to an accompanied school and/or his first base, the BAH will be based on the zip code of that location.

If you have any specific questions regarding how this all works, drop me a PM!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@cyndistar3: My FH and I are doing a small family-only ceremony on his 10-day and then planning our big wedding for when he gets his orders.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Have you considered getting legally married before he leaves?  You’ll get married pay, plus BAH, and you would be automatically on his duty orders once he completes school.

If you get married after he starts, it can be a pain to add you on to all his paperwork.  My sister’s husband is in the Marines too, and it took a few months for all the paperwork to be processed.

My FI is leaving for Navy basic in July and we’re getting married in March.  But, we had considered getting married legally before he left because it is very important to me that I’m his primary emergency contact.

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