Post # 1
I am not pregnant or even TTC yet, but I am interested in knowing what the norm is. We are getting close to wanting to TTC and this will help a lot. I am thinking to tell immediate family ASAP, but others after the 3 month mark. What did you/will you do? And why?
Post # 3
My husband and I told our parents when we were about 8 weeks along (we found out at only 3 weeks). We didn’t tell our friends until about 3 months.
Post # 4
We told our parents and our best friends at about 5 weeks. My boss also guessed at about 6 weeks. We didn’t tell anyone else until the second trimester, but it was really just because it was kinda awkward to tell all our co-workers and others. One co-worker ended up guessing around 13 weeks, I think, and we just let her spread the news around the office. 🙂 Easy on us!
Post # 5
I would wait to tell my family until after the first trimester. I’m weird & the risk of miscarrying is greater in that first trimester. I haven’t been pregnant before, but I had a friend who told everyone as soon as she knew & then miscarried & then everybody you know has to say sorry & all that…she told me that literally every time someone said sorry or asked if she was okay, it like just reopened the wound. ya know what I mean? I would rather grieve with my husband alone & get through it together rather than ya know everybody…
Post # 6
I told my SIL right away, since she and I are really close and she knew we were trying. We told my parents a few days after we found out (I was 5ish weeks) and we told DH’s family the following weekend. We told a couple close people right away as well, but waited until after the first ultrasound (11 weeks) to tell extended family and friends. I told work at about 12 weeks along with everyone else.
Post # 7
We are kinda planning a staggered approach.
4 weeks – We found out via missed period and positive HPT
7 weeks – Told parents after seeing an ultrasound
8 weeks – Told IL’s after seeing the heartbeat
10-12 weeks – Told close friends and some extended family (still in progress)
Mid second trimester – Will tell work and others
End of second trimester – formally announce on facebook
Post # 8
You should make you poll so that people can answer more than one – that way they can address when they told each category of people.
Darling Husband and I aren’t TTC yet but when we are pregnant, I suspect we’ll tell our immeadiate families pretty quickly. Most everyone else, I suspect we’ll try to wait until as close to the 12 week mark as I could physically keep myself quiet for. (That is unless morning sickness made me have to tell work earlier).
Post # 9
I don’t really want to tell anyone about Wombat due to our circumstance, but we also wanted to tell people who would have to travel far to meet Wombat.
~8 weeks (after 1st doctor appointment) – we told his family at Christmas when we saw them, told my siblings and his far away siblings on the phone
~9weeks – really close friends as they were available
~10 weeks – told my dad and then my mom
I’m 13 weeks today and we still haven’t told most of my family. They were very rude when we announced Moose, so I really don’t even want to.
As for Facebook, that’ll happen when I deliver a living baby, not before.
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: Good looking out. I forgot to select that. Thanks
@TheFutureMcBride: Are you calling the baby Wombat?
I was thinking of telling Hubby when the test turns positive, of course. The telling our immediate families when it’s confirmed by the Dr. (either positive test or ultrasound) and waiting to begin to tell everyone else after the first tri-mester. I might slip some close friends in there sooner than the others.
Post # 11
@PrncssDva: Yes, our baby’s nickname is Wombat because, like Moose, we’re not finding out the gender. Plus, wombats are feisty and we need a feisty baby ready to fight for his/her life.
Post # 12
We didn’t tell anyone until I was 3 mos.
Post # 13
I plan on telling a very few close friends and family a few days after we find out. At the beginning of the second trimester we’ll tell the rest of our family and friends, and we’ll announce at the end of the second.
Post # 14
We told my our parents and close friends at 9 weeks and then announced to extended familly at 11 weeks. Announced to co-workers after the first ultrasound and hearing the heart at 12 weeks
Post # 15
We didn’t tell ANYONE, which was family and friends until close to 4 months, around 3 1/2 months. We just found out the sex not too long ago and we are at 5 months. I will do a quick announcement on facebook as well for anyone that already don’t know. I haven’t been on it ages and go on every few months so I’m sure most of the people on my page don’t know I’m pregnant. I’m pretty superstitious so wanted to make sure EVERYTHING was fine before posting it on the internet and stuff. I’m sure I have extended family that don’t know yet lol.
Post # 16
@TheFutureMcBride: I hope that you have a healthy pregnancy. Ohhhhhhh now u have brought up another question. I guess I’ll post about whether to find the gender out or not later lol