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I'd say if he proposes by the end of June, a September wedding is possible. End of July for an October wedding.
I don't buy into the whole "needing a year to plan" thing, but I do think you need 2-3 months, especially if you're hiring a caterer, florist, photog, etc.
ETA: But I think you'll need to be open to waiting til next year as well. Many venues may be completely booked already for this fall, and not to mention that your SO might want to wait til next year as well.
We have talked about getting married this year and he's cool with it. I think he doesn't realise that these things take time to organise! Thanks for your post. I'm really interested to hear people's view on this.
@ruby13: If he's cool with this fall then that's great! Are you opposed to looking at venues before the proposal? If you're going to rent a hall or whatever you should really get looking as soon as possible.
I think it depends on what you are expecting to do for your wedding? Large small? More traditional church and reception or court house and restaurant? 30 people or 130?
I you have time to focus on the wedding, I'd say you need 3 months, and really thats to give your guests time to plan to be there and to make sure the vendors you are aren't booked. I could have planned this wedding in 3 months for sure, I've just been pacing myself.
He may just not understand that he needs to get a move on if he really does want to get married this year! I've seen a lot of ladies with that same problem here, they're SO just doesn't think about all that needs to happen. If you sit down with him and work backwards from when you both want to get married he'll quickly get the idea that he needs to get his a** into gear.
If you're going for a garden wedding, I think you can tooootally do it last minute and have it look superb! I have a friend who actually wants to have a 3 month engagement, I gave her the idea of the theme "Shotgun wedding without the baby" and she loved it!
Um, well I'm really hoping we can use his parents garden for a ceremony and possibly reception as well. We haven't talked about it too much as I don't want him to feel pressured about proposing because we have a wedding planned!! There will still be a lot to organise even though we want a 'small' wedding!!
We were engaged 5 months from our wedding date. Two months into planning we ended up changing the wedding location (to a different state) and the type of venue. If you are going with a small garden wedding, I think three months is totally doable. However, I also had incredible luck with my dress which fit perfectfly with no alterations.
Like @CapeBoundBride: mentioned, you may want to take ordering a dress into consideration also. The dress that I'm 99.9% sure I'm ordering tomorrow (yay!!) is going to take 8mo. I have the time though since I still have over a year left before my wedding. If you're looking to buy a dress off the rack, this won't be an issue. And since you're planning on using his parent's garden, you won't have any venue probs. I'd say 3-4mo could possibly work for you.
You might enjoy this wedding story I read last year- it is called "A Surprise Wedding Marisaa + John" on 100 Layer Cake.
Don't want to spoil it for you, so I will just say it is amazing how quickly you can pull together a wedding when you really want to :)
http://www.100layercake.com/blog/2009/06/03/a-surprise-wedding-marisa-john/
Thanks for the tips....I feel a little more relaxed. I just don't see the point of a 12-18 month engagement when we have already been together for so long - 7 years. Funny thing is he still needs to propose!!!! Not sure whether I should approach this or not. I don't want to seem like I'm nagging but I really think its TIME!!!
keep in mind that being engaged IS really fun... I love talking to people I haven't seen in awhile and telling them I'm getting married... And I've been engaged almost 2 months! I would be actually kinda sad if I only had one more month of this "engagement period" of my life. Hey, it only happens once! :-)
@ joy2011
I see your point too. I guess I just need to wait and see what happens and then make plans. His brother got married this year so I'm not sure if I should take that into cinsideration for his family as well. I don't expect them to contribute financially bur if they did want to it may be difficult for them. Like I said, maybe I should wait to cross all these bridges when I get to them. Its just so hard not to get excited when I know he has the ring!!!
I think that it would be hard, but mostly depends on your situation. If a lot of people are coming from out of town it might be late notice... also you would have to be really laid back and open to different venues because most will be booked. I think that bringing up the fact that it does take awhile to plan a wedding is fine... unless you brig it up every week or something. If this is something you guys have already talked about I don't get why bring it up again is weird. I wish you luck! :-)
If you get married quickly, you'll just have to be open to whatever is available. You can't be picky about vendors, you might have to take an off-the-rack dress, you might not get your perfect venue, or the perfect date. You'll just have less options, basically. But if you want casual and simple, then you might be able to do it. I had a Mormon friend get married in 10 weeks!
None of that really worries me too much...I'm a long way from a decent sized town or city so some of those are likely to be problems anyway regardless of if we wait 3 months or 18 months. The closest professional dress maker would be at least 4 hours away so an off the rack dress is on the cards. I guess I'm a little worried about what people would think. I know I shouldn't be but I can't stop it creeping into my head. I don't want people to jump to conclusions if we have a short engagement. I have some training for work I have to go to the city for so maybe I should suggest he comes with me as it would be a good opportunity to look at wedding stuff......subtle enough??!! 
I think a big thing is making sure yu've given guests, even for a small wedding, enough time to arrange to be there - at least a couple months' notice should be okay, unless you're looking at a big travel season, like near Thanksgiving when airlines and hotels will probably cost more.
If it's a small wedding at the parents' house, don't discount the time it'll take to decide and reserve things like a cake, get the dress and have it altered, and find a caterer (or some really nice people who like to cook a lot :P)
Since men haven't been super involved in the wedding planning over the centuries, they kinda just see it as you show up dressed nicely, exchange some vows and rings, and it's done, and they don't realize that it takes a while to put things together.
It's probably be good to find a way to bring it up to him (or have someone else do so, maybe) about how long simple tings for even smaller weddings can take to arrange and reserve. Even getting a photographer can be tricky if you wait too long, so find a way to talk to him about it - but them leave it. Once you've told him, it'll be up to him.
(Reading your topic heading I thought you meant how long dating is too long to ever get married - glad it's more of a how long from engagement to aisle) :)
My BIL and SIL got engaged in mid December and married in late February--just over 2 months.
it really depends on what type of wedding you want. If you try to plan a wedding in 4 months of less you will be more stressed than necessary and you may not have enough time to get all the details you want. You also have to think about finding and buying a dress, some dresses take atleast 3 months to come in and if you want it sooner you have to pay extra. Personally I think 12 months is ideal to plan a wedding.
it really depends on what type of wedding you want. If you try to plan a wedding in 4 months or less you will be more stressed than necessary and you may not have enough time to get all the details you want. You also have to think about finding and buying a dress, some dresses take atleast 3 months to come in and if you want it sooner you have to pay extra. Personally I think 12 months is ideal to plan a wedding.
It took me 5 months to plan my wedding and I wish I had more time. That being said my friends planned a wedding in 3 months as did my Aunt and it worked out ok.
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My SO hasn't proposed yet but I was hoping we could get married this year. (We've been together for a long time.) If he does eventually propose, when will it be too late to organise a wedding for Sept / Oct? We only want something small and garden style.