Post # 1
Hi Wedding Bees,
I was married 16 days ago & we still have not consummated our marriage. My husband seems totally disinterested. We had a beautiful honeymoon in a romantic city & still he showed no interest. My wedding day was the happiest of my life my honeymoon was the saddest period of my life. How long before you consummated your marriage wedding bees?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
Unless you’re saying like ‘first time’, in which case it was minus three years.
Post # 4
@thejucheidea: Many thanks for such a quick reply. My husband & I have been together 12 years before getting married so not our first time. Congratulations on your marriage x
Post # 5
I haven’t gotten married yet, but my FI and I have discussed this.
First off, I’m sorry you had such a disheartening honeymoon. You should have gotten better 🙁
Second of all, my FI made it clear that we aren’t doing anything the night of our wedding but relax and sleep. We know we will both be too tired to do anything but just that.
However, two weeks seems a little too long to be waiting… I’d mention your concerns, you should be able to discuss it with him and ask what’s wrong.
Post # 6
@donnamy: same night we got married, but it was not the first time.
Post # 7
It took us several days as well (we had been dating for 6 yrs prior however).
Wedding night… too exhausted and stayed up at the hotel having wine and cheese and chatting about the day.
It must have happened in the first week of the honeymoon but I can’t remember. Hope this helps.
Post # 8
I was on my pd so probably the second day of our honeymoon. It took a long time to get there so probably day 3 of our marriage. Id be pretty upset if my husband had no desire to have axe with me after getting married, and it’s not like I have a high sex drive. Sorry you’re dealing wth this but congratulations!
Post # 9
@krislynn_sd: Many thanks for you quick reply & kind words. Many congratulations on your engagement, exciting time for you :o)
I understand your fiances view quite wise really as it is terribly exhausting although I think I was riding high on adrenalin on my wedding night :o)
My husband & I had a sporadic sex life before getting married but he promised it would change once we were married & I guess I put so much hope into his words I desperately wanted to believe it, especially as I felt even stronger for him on our wedding day.
I guess I know deep down there is a big problem but just was interested to see if this wasnt as unusual as I think.
Sorry to bring gloom to this fantastic site. Many thanks once again & all the best for your wedding & future together xx
Post # 10
@MsJ2theZ: Many thanks for you kind reply Honey & big congratulations to you xx
Post # 11
@younglady: Many thanks for your reply. That offers some comfort thank you. Im not sure if I am putting to much importance on it but I desperately wanted that connection with my husband, to feel that closeness. It also makes me feel that is has made a mockery of our vows & that we are not as yet officially married without having consummated our marriage. I have been so upset & have told him how I feel I do believe he loves me but just doesnt seem to have any desire for me. I know he is not gay & I get a lot of male attention so I cant be completely undesirable I hope. This is one of the most painful things I have had to deal with xx
Post # 12
@AngelR88: Thats wonderful I so wish I could have had that too. Really happy for you xx
Post # 13
Aww 🙁 This is terrible! What he is doing is totally wrong. As his wife you had expectations due to what he promised prior to marriage. Not to mention a husband and wife consumate their marriage, that should be a given! What’s more the sex is an integral part of intimacy in marriage. It’s appauling, I’m sorry.
I’m not married yet but my fiance and I have discussed it and we will consumate our marriage as soon as we get home after the reception (we are leaving the reception at 10pm, lol, nice and early). We have not previously been intimate and therefore we will not wait any longer than like, 10 min after we get home to have our first time, lol.
Post # 14
@miss_to_mrs: Thank you so much for your reply & I feel so comforted by it. I was beginning to think I was placing too much importance on it but your words have helped me to see clearly again thank you so much.
I am glad to hear of your plans for your wedding night it will be amazing. Wishing you a wonderful day & future together xx
Post # 15
The night of, but also not our first time. We’d been together for 6 years.
Post # 16
I’m not in my 40s, but my new husband is. We did it last night (our wedding night) super lazily lol just to say we did it.