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Out of curiosity, I'm wondering how long it took you to realize he was the one.
I've heard of people who said they knew on their first date, or in the first month. I've also heard friends say they woke up one day a year into the relationship and realized they couldn't live without their SO.
How long before you realized?
I knew in our first conversation but it was years before we were able to finaly get together and he tells me that I held on like a pitbull ever since.
I knew immediately before we were even dating. I even told a friend this was going to be the man that I would marry. We dated for years before he proposed and I'll never forget that feeling of knowing!
This is going to sound absurd but I knew the minute he walked into the college classroom of the class we took together.
I knew when we first met that he was different than every other guy I knew, but it took 4 months of dating to know that he was my forever. It took him another 4 months after that to come to the same conclusion.
The reason I ask - I am dating someone who is absolutely AMAZING - totally different than anyone I've ever been with - but I don't know if he's "the one". I don't know if that's because my last relationship was awful (see my old posts... I broke up with him shortly after) and this is the first one I've been in since. I might just be a little gun shy. We're taking our time though :)
I knew very early on. Everything just clicked. I know thats corny but there was never that feeling of awkward nervousness or feeling like I need to impress him or hide things about myself that others find awkward or weird (because lets face it I'm a strange person).
My mother actually told me to hide things about myself (like my insane love of all things christmas and/or disney or my quirky personality saying I should act more "normal" if I wanted to keep him).
I never had to do any of that. He just let me be me and loved me more for it.
The first month of our relationship was a little dry and I was started to think he wasnt for me but we decided to go to the mountains for a weekend and stay in a nice hotel and we had such an amazing time and there was one morning where I woke up before him and I just knew that he was the one. The funny part of this story is that a month later I found out I was pregnant and my son was concieved during that weekend away. We have been together ever since.
I can't say I knew for sure he was the "one" I was going to marry right away, but with him it definitely was different from the beginning. The first night we met we were in a really public place, but somehow his eyes kept finding mine and I would see him staring at me from across the room. Normally that would creep me out, but I was attracted to him like a magnet. There was some real electricty between us. That same weekend we went on our first date and when he drove me home he said something like, "Wow, I can't believe how addicted to you I am already." I know that sounds cheesy, but at the time it was exactly how I felt too. I couldn't bare to be apart from him after only a day or two. Within a month we said "I love you" and after only 2 months of dating we moved in together. I truly think it was one of those "love at first sight" things because we met and have been together ever since with no doubt of whether or not we should be. We're lucky in that respect.
I knew he was the one on the second date.
But... I toyfully even say it was before we met.
We met online and talked for hours every day for about a week before meeting. We just clicked in every single way, so now, if the chemistry was there in person, it was perfect.
WEll our first date there was chemistry that was off the charts, but the date was awkward and not really good at all, but we immediately called each other after separating and made another date. Still not sure why. He met me at work for lunch the next day and the rest was history.
Good luck with your new man! Keep your head but give your heart
It was pretty obvious for both of us right from the start. We are both very level-headed and try to think about things logically, but when we got together things started moving faster than either of us would have ever imagined. By month 6 we were living together, which is so not like either of us! But it felt right, and (come to find out) was right!
We were both young (and are still young in my opinion) and we were not ready to take on the commitment of marriage right away. We talked about marriage for years though. We were together just 2 months shy of our 3 year anniversary when he popped the question... and after a nearly 4 month engagement we will be married this July!
3 years.
I don't care if that seems like too long to know, or like I should have known sooner, but I was 19 when we started dating and didn't really take the relationship seriously until I graduated. A few months after graduation I sat down and really thought about why I was with him and what I wanted our future to be.
I think I would have known sooner, but I was so concerned with school and was so happy with the way things were at that moment in time that I just never stopped to really think about it.
Actually, I think I didnt respond right... I didnt know he was the one I was going to marry until he actually ASKED ME :) but I was seriously hoping he would be from very early on. Im just a really rational person, don't like to think too far ahead about things I can't control.
There are girls who have been dating someone 1 month and know for certain he is "the one" but it doesn't work out, then what? haha
SO I didnt know until we were engaged and now about to be married, but I definitly had that feeling that I could see him in my future. He has such a good heart and we have the same values and plans, so I knew I would be very lucky if it all worked out. And Wa-la. Here I am on weddingbee:)
While it took us about 3 months to vocalize it, I think we knew really VERY early on. From the moment we first laid eyes on eachother it was so different. I felt like I was literally in a fairy tale for the first 6 months. Like I was in a dream, or constantly on a high. I would get light headed at the very sight of him. He quickly was voicing "I've never been this comfortable around anyone before" within the first few weeks. He even absent mindedly told me he loved me after we had been dating 2 weeks.
I told my friends after he walked away "I just met my future husband!", but I was totally joking. I think...well, apparently I wasn't.
My experience was like @lovekiss:. I knew on our first date something special was happening (I was physicnally nauseous at the thought of another man touching me and we hadn't even kissed yet). But after our first date, he said he didn't feel that way about me. But we kept talking and a month later we went out again. I knew I loved him after weeks and was pretty sure if I was going to marry anyone it would be him. But it took him 7 more months to fall in love with me.
It sounds stupid, but the moment I saw him I knew. Something clicked and when I saw him I just had a feeling. Turns out, I was right :)
Definitely within the first month. I had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and was absolutely resisting...but I couldn't help it. He was the first guy in my life who did all the right things...called when he said, didn't break plans last minute, was there for me. He was everything I'd ever wanted!
I think it was around the 3 month mark when I told my mom "im going to marry this kid" - then my sister proceeded to tell him what I said the next time she saw him! i was so embarrassed - we hadnt talked about marriage, we were barely boyfriend and girlfriend.
@MrsCoachBtoBee: It doesn't sound absurd to me. I fell in love with my husband the second I saw him. Even though we're approaching our first wedding anniversary, he doesn't believe me, but it's true. I knew right then.
I voted for one month, but I had this feeling about him before we even started going out...he was a coworker of my brother's.
@vabride2011: that is so funny! i met my husband while i was still in my 3 year relatiosnhip - he worked with my sister - after my ex broke up with me (*breakup had nothing to do with my husband - just saying - given that i met him while i was in the relationship kinda sounds like something started before it should, it didnt) anyway after the breakup I started hanging out with him after work and on the weekends almost immediately - i wasnt looking for a boyfriend but he was everything i was looking for and more in a partner - i couldnt help myself and the rest is history. i never thought i would find a boyfriend so soon much less my future husband, i didnt think i was ready, but my husband just fell right into my lap. i felt so lucky.
@helpthisbee: Hmm then maybe he's not the one.
Prior to dating DH I was in a crazy insane relationship. Very abusive. I still about a month in new DH was the one. I was just a little more cautious.
About 2 years.
When we first started dating, I wasn't looking for anything serious; I saw him as a guy that I loved hanging out with b/c we had soooo much in common. Even when we became an official couple, I was just living in the moment and enjoying getting to know him and just growing closer as a couple. I didn't have that moment of "hey I think this may be the guy I'm going to marry one day" until about the 2 year mark, which was when I realized how much I really was in love with him.
But even then, I wasn't ready to get married/ engaged, it was only at that moment when I considerd the fact that I prob would marry him one day down the road.
In the first month I knew he was like no other, and that this would be a big relationship that would absolutely crush me if/when it ended. I could see it lasting a long time. We said we loved each other after 6 months, he proposed after 2 1/2 years.
I think somewhere in the 1st to the 6th month. My feelings got progressively stronger. But I picked '6 months' answer.
@helpthisbee: Please don't let people make you think you should have a huge rush of feelings right away (I actually have several single friends who worry when they don't feel all this emotion and know right away.)
As my post above says, I was with my husband (then BF) for 2 years before I truly felt that I was in love with him. I never questioned our relationship b/c I enjoy being in a relationship that grows with time. I am one of those people who feels love develops over time, and you very well may be the same.
I thought it before we even met... but KNEW the instant he got out of his car in my driveway to pick me up for our first date :)
The first date.
We met online, and talked for months before we met IRL, but the night we first got together, it just clicked. Conversation was so easy, the chemistry was there, etc. He gave me butterflies, and he still does almost 10 1/2 years later.
We both knew before we ever "dated"... We were friends for 2 yes prior to dating... Proposal came 1 mth & 1 week into dating. Lol
Almost from the get-go I had a feeling but probably officially 3 weeks in. From the 3rd date we were seeing each other everyday.
I have never had long relationships. After a few months in I knew I couldn't marry them and so it was over. With my DH, I knew it was different. It was the first person I knew I wanted to be with everyday. And I was just shy of 26 when we met so I felt confident there wasn't anyone else.
I knew he was someone special in my life the moment we met face to face (we met online so we were already MSN Messenger friends), but it took 2 more months to realize just how special and to assure myself that I wasn't just wishful thinking. lol Then it took another 8 months for him to pop the question (even though he started talking marriage with me after just those 2 months. :P)
I had a feeling there was something different about him from the night we met...an instant comfortable familiarity that took me by surprise...I'm very shy by nature (until I get to know you) and it usually takes me much longer to get so comfortable with someone. But we were both nursing old wounds from bad breakups, and it took us a while (him longer than me) to recognize that this was the person I wanted to spend my life with.
I didn't realize it until about 2 years in, when we split up for 6 months. We both went on dates with other people, and I had a bad drunken night with The Ex, and I remember waking up the next morning and not being able to look myself in the eye. That was really the turning point for me...I think until then, I hadn't accepted that DH was the guy I wanted to spend my life with, because there was always a teeny tiny part of me that thought I was supposed to end up with The Ex. As bad as I felt the next morning, it gave me closure on the whole thing, because the reality of him didn't meet what my hazy recollections had built him up to be. All I could think about was DH, and wondering if I had completely closed the door on us (obviously, I hadn't).
We both knew within the first month. We felt so comfortable around each other and had a connection from the beginning. He told me he had a crush on me for years before my bff intoduced us. We were 17 at the time and it was kinda scary to have such strong feelings for someone so fast, but we always knew it was the real deal. We got married when I was 24 and he was 25.
We were friends for nearly 3 years before we started dating...when he told me he wanted a relationship, I took a month before giving him a solid answer. But...within 3 months of actually dating, we both knew that this was IT.
With me it was literally in the first 30 seconds. I saw him across the room and a little thought popped into my head that yes, I could love this man. And here we are 9 years later about to get hitched...
Think I knew after about 1 year and 6 months but to be honest, I still question it at times, luckily, I'm not being asked to decide (we're just dating, no engagement planned as of yet)
I knew before officially dating him that he was someone special and that if I were to date him, something serious would come out of it. I knew within the first 6 months that he'd be the one I'd marry; but we were taking things slow as I had just gotten out of a 6 years relationship and I was nowhere near ready to let him know that I knew he was the one. Also, I'm very intuitive, and DH is a lot more analytical. It took him a bit longer to come to the same conclusion. But in the end, we were both ready to talk about it all at the same time.
Our 1st date was amazing even though it was nothing spectacular! I had never felt so at ease with anyone, the conversation was so natural, we had so much in common and just the way he made me feel made me sure that he was the one for me! I'm still so sure and love him so much!
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