Post # 1
How long is the time between when you are mailing your invites and your RSVP date? Our RSVP date is over a month before the wedding, because of the way the hotel blocks are done. I didn’t want people to think they had longer to make a decision when if they waited they’d have no where to stay. Anyways, I’ve got a shower in a couple weeks and FMIL suggested that we wait and send the invites out after the shower because not everyone in attendence will be invited. (She has a HUGE family, so it won’t be considered rude. They will totally understand.) If I do that, then there will be 3 weeks between when we mail and the RSVP date. Is that acceptable?
Post # 3
I had a couple days short of 4 weeks from the time they received the invites and when they were to be returned.
Post # 4
I think I was a couple of days short of 4 weeks too, I meant to have them out a full 4 weeks but I was a little late sending them.
Post # 5
I did 3 weeks, because I had separate rsvp cards for my B-list, and I needed time for those as well. Plus, people had gotten STDs and did not need more than 2.5 weeks to reply (I think too much time lets people set it aside and forget about it). We had a pretty good return rate, and we did have to chase down a few people, but not too many.
Post # 7
@beth183: If everyone invited to the shower will understand about not being invited to the wedding, then why delay sending the invites out? That doesn’t make much sense. Are you sure people will be alright with this? In most circles, this would be a pretty big snub.
Post # 8
@ProfessorGirl: Good point. We also did STDs so that probably helps.
@MidwestBride2012: There is no way we could invite them all. FMIL has 41 first cousins, all adults with their own families. No that’s not a typo—fourty one!! =). We’d go way over the guest list just on her side, if we did! They’ll understand, but since everyone won’t know our guest list we want to avoid awkward conversations for them.
Post # 9
6 weeks for me. I can’t wait to send these invites out!
Post # 10
I gave 9 weeks, I’m not sure what I was thinking.