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Hi all - I'm new around here and I've been enjoying lurking and reading posts for the past week or so.
Back in January, my BF of 2 years and I were in the Caribbean on a cruise and he unexpectedly pulled me into a couple of jewelry stores. We found a beautiful ring and much to my surprise, he bought it. He was a little disappointed that it wouldn't be a surprise, but he couldn't pass up the beautiful ring (and the great deal). The ring is gorgeous and it and the whole experience truly left me speechless...which is quite unusual for me. :)
That was about 6 weeks ago and I am DYING for him to make it official. I have only told 2 friends - which has been really hard.
My questions are: how long between when your FI/DH purchased the ring and when he proposed? How much planning did you allow yourself to do before if was official?
I'm definitely enjoying the anticipation but I really want to share my excitement and get started with some of the fun stuff.
Welcome to Weddingbee bestforlast!!! So glad you are here.
It was about 8 weeks between when he purchased and when he proposed. But I didn't know he had purchased, so I wasn't really planning.
Don't worry...it will be official soon and you can continue with that "speechless" feeling!
Congrats. He sounds like an amazing guy!
I think we're definintely the exception, but it was about a week between. He got it in the mail on Wednesday and he proposed on Thursday.
my man had the ring for about a month before he proposed. total surprise!
Well, I pretty much figured out that FI was ring shopping, but then got very distracted and didn't think he had actually bought the ring because it looked like he would get laid off. Talk about major stress fest. Short story is that he did not get laid off last Feb and he proposed at the begining of Mech 09 when we were in Vegas. Totally surprised me!
Anyways, I think he chose the ring a month before our trip and actually picked it up/paid for it a week before our trip.
Well... my guy bought the ring (online) in late August, got it in the mail in early Sept, and proposed in late October. BUT, he was waiting for a pre-planned vacation to propose, and he had been looking for rings since may/june. So no matter when he bought it from may-october, I was getting it in October. Do you have any special events coming up?
Hah, I'm with Spaniel on this one. He woke up one morning, went to the jewelry store (actually had to walk around a bit before they opened, so he called both sets of parents to ask their blessing), bought the ring, called me and woke me up, asked if he could come over, and when I grudgingly came downstairs to meet him in my pajamas with my hair all nasty (hey, it was Saturday and I was a college student), he proposed. I think 2 hours, start to finish. :) He thought my mom would spill the beans.
About three weeks. It was burning a whole in his pocket. I thought he would wait to our one year dating anniversary, but no he wanted to do it sooner rather than later and only waited to be able to do it in a nice place. Although it was a terrible day weather wise. I wish my guy had waited a bit longer and had put some more thought into the proposal. Ah well. Done is DOne. He'll did it soon I think, he may be waiting for nice weather if he's planning something outdoors.
I'm sure I'm the exception here but he waited a year! We went to Maui, found a ring, he bought it a week after we got back (I didn't know this though), then waited another year till we went to Maui again and proposed there. He has way too much patience, thank goodness I didn't know I would have been freaking out waiting.
I had to wait almost 10 months before he proposed..I didn't know he had the ring hiding in our house the whole time. But he backed away into a corner quickly before I could deck him when I found out!!
Oh my gosh you guys...10 months? A year? I couldn't take it :)
December, your 2-hour story is also interesting. I guess everyone has a different approach!
I've tried not to talk about the engagement or wedding, but we did briefly discuss that we expect to be married before the end of the year. I'm an encore bride, he's an encore groom.
CorgiTales, I do have a birthday coming up...hmmmm.
Is it common for guys to pop the question on your birthday? For some reason I don't think he is planning that.
Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone. I look forward to sharing my journey with you fine ladies.
I have had friends get proposed to the night before their birthdays so they could celebrate TWO great things with friends and family the next day.
It was only a week between buying and proposing - the best thing was: he dind't tell anybody and chose the ring only by himself.
My fiance wouldn't have been able to wait very long. He was so nervous, he just wanted to get it over with I think. But I didn't know he was going to propose so that adds a little pressure when he isn't 100% sure of your answer. Maybe since he knows the answer, he won't be in a rush. Good luck though, hope its soon!
My FI picked the diamond and setting out over Thanksgiving and when he received it on 12/10th he couldnt wait any longer so he did it that night! hahaha. I had no idea what was coming. What a wonderful surprise!
My guy had the ring in Dec. and was planning to propose on our trip to visit my family in Rome. We never had a moment to ourselves and the time just never felt "right" to him (he wanted to ask my dad for his blessing). So I found out about it in Rome because he was really upset and it was interfering with our vacation, after he told me things got better. Fast forward, he never got the chance to ask my dad, and so we returned how without the question being asked. He finally got the chance to ask my dad at the end of August. Sept 27th he took me on a trip, ending with a hike and finally asked me!! I was so excited. By that point I had figured he was never going to ask, but I am happy that I let him do it in his own time when it felt right to him. Long story short.... he had it for 9 (long) months before he asked. =)
Mine took 3 months after getting the ring to propose. But he did it when we were on vacation, so I suppose that's why it took a while. ;-)
2 days!
He picked up the ring on a Thursday Night and Proposed on Saturday night!
FI bought my ring and proposed the same day.
He planned an elaborate proposal, but said he just got too excited.
We found my ring New Year's Day, but it was just the setting. We got the stone on Jan. 21st and on Jan. 23rd, he proposed.
ETA-- he would have proposed that night, he said, if I had gotten off the couch when he got home from work. Pfft. Whatever, I had a cat on my lap!
Well... we knew we were getting engaged soon. He went in to have it made and it took them almost 2 months (ugh TWO MONTHS) for them to complete the entire design and have it set. (custom made is worth it though, i promise :)
Anyhow... I of course was going nuts wondering when it would be ready and FI tried to keep it all a secret (very difficult). When it was finished he was with me and his sister went to pick it up for him. On our way over to her house he said he had to pick up something for his mom from his sister. I guess they made the exchange when I wasn't looking and literally 20 minutes after we left her house he proposed!
He loves talking about he barely saw the ring before he put it on my finger... he said he couldn't wait any longer!
I am sure that your man is waiting for the right time... he might have something special planned! My proposal was perfect for me (very simple and nothing crazy... not even flowers!) but some guys want to go all out. Perhaps he is just trying to decide on the perfect way to do it. Men like to take their time when figuring this stuff out... just relax and try not to get worked up! In the meantime, it doesn't hurt to sneak a few peeks at wedding blogs for fun :)
It was about 4 months between when he bought it and when he proposed. I had no idea he had it, though, but we had looked at rings. I did no planning at all until we were engaged because while I knew we were going to get married, I didn't know when and didn't want to pressure him.
FI bought the ring in August.. didn't propose until the end of December. I'd known since the weekend he bought it... that long of wait just wasn't fun anymore. Turns out he wanted to propose on our dating anniversary. But really... KILLED me.
Welcome to the hive!! I believe the hubby actually bought the ring a few short weeks before the engagement because the ring came in on the day he proposed. He got a call earlier in the day, saying it was ready for pick-up so while he told me he was working, he went out to pick up the ring... Clever guy I tell ya :)
He bought the ring (online) around Thanksgiving. He got it just a few days after Christmas and proposed a few days later, around New Years Eve. I think he wanted to do it earlier, but FedEx had trouble delivering the ring. Since we're in a LDR, he was determined to propose before he went back home!
I am really enjoying all of the stories. I am just so excited and am embracing developing my patience skills 
.
He is a romantic guy and a traditionalist, so I am sure it is just a matter of time before he plans out what he wants to do. Hopefully it won't be *that* long.
One of the coolest things about this is that we've talked so much about our future together, but I had a bit of anxiety about whether he'd actually get to the engagement thing. He seemed really reluctant to talk about details... For example, at one point we were talking about a friend's ring and we got around to the whole ring shopping thing. Let's just say he didn't react how I had hoped. I didn't have the sense that he wanted to talk about it or anything... And you know how unnerving that can be.
Fast forward a couple of months later to our trip... I had decided that I would not even go near a jewelry store b/c I didn't want to make him uncomfortable. Yet, at one point he said, "let's take a peek in here." We separated and I made an effort not to look at anything. Then when we met up he asked if anything had caught my eye. I said, "no." He said, "how about this one?" He had the salesperson pull this big rock out of the case. I just couldn't speak.
I was really blown away by how calm and sure he was about the whole ring thing. In fact, while at the jewelry store the jeweler offered to set the diamond in the setting and size it for us to see. So we went away for a while and during that time I kind of tried to talk him out of it. He seemed to have zero doubt about anything. Plus, I was so flummoxed and he was really getting a kick out of it. I was blushing and everything seemed so surreal. It was really neat!
Okay, I will be patient and secretly surf the web and enjoy this time.
Oh, and I just noticed that he put a secret date night on the calendar for mid-April. Hmmmm. Don't want to get my hopes up, but who knows...
I found the ring while I was cleaning SEVEN months before he proposed! LOL. It was worth the wait though.
He had the ring for 2.5 months before he asked me to marry him... but he had been planning for months before because the restaurant where we went to has a 2 month waiting list.
We bought the center stone about a year and a half before he proposed. He had the ring made only a few days before he proposed. The wait was killer, but worth it!
welcome!
My FI purchased the ring 18 months before asking me! But he kept it a total secret so I had no idea, which was probably just as well - I'd have gone nuts if I'd KNOWN it was in the house all that time!
Fingers cross your wait won't be too long, but relax and enjoy the moment - when he's ready, he'll ask 
(yes, I know it's easy to say that from this side of the proposal!)
My fiance bought the ring online, and proposed to me the weekend after he got it (just a few days before our 7th anniversary- we live in different towns, and only see each other on weekends, so the day of the anniversary we wouldn't be together). He says he'd been planning that day for a while, and had originally planned on another ring, but was feeling iffy about it (the ring, not the proposal). So he kept searching, and found one that he thought would be perfect at the last minute (like the week before the proposal, or something). I must say I agree with his taste- I've seen both rings and I definitely love the one I've got a lot more!
He had the ring for about 2 weeks before he proposed! And I didnt do any planning at all before we got engaged!! I didnt know he had the ring at the time, but thats what he told me after he proposed! Actually it was about 3 weeks from the time he decided he was going to propose until he did. And then once the ring was on my finger is when we started making plans! I think all my family and friends would have thought I was nuts if I started planning before being engaged....and I never even thought about doing that!
He got the ring at the end of October and I'm still waiting for it. He said it should be soon though, so I'm hoping I'll have it by next month. So if that's the case it will have been 5-6 months.
He couldn't wait at all! He bought my ring on Blue Nile on a Thursday and it was over-nighted to his work the next day. He had already spoken to my parents and gotten their permission and was planning to wait until the following week, but he just couldn't, we went out to dinner that night and came home engaged :)
I had to wait SIX months and it felt like torture... but I got my dream proposal so in the end, it was definitely worth it!
My beau actually bought my e ring on December 23rd and he STILL HASN'T proposed!! It is literally making me crazy and I am getting extremely impatient!
We picked it out in October, he paid in mid February, proposed Feb 25th.
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