Post # 1
My response date is May 18 for my June 6 wedding. When should I send out my invitations?
My FI wants to go ahead and do it now, I think because he is dying to know who is coming to our wedding. I am too but I’m wondering if this is too early.
We didn’t send a save the date because we really want to have between 130 and 140 people and we are inviting 172.
So, should I wait a little longer or go ahead and send them now?
Post # 3
i think it depends on whether most of your guests are local or traveling. if there are a lot of travelers, they might need a heads up a little sooner so they can start working on travel plans, especially since you didnt send STDs. if most everyone is local, i’d wait until the 4 week mark (april 20th-ish).
you could always have two waves of invites – for those who are traveling send now, and for those who are local send in 2 or 3 weeks.
Post # 4
I don’t see any reason to wait, especially if you’ve already got the invitations ready to go. I like being able to plan in advance, especially during summer weekends when there is already so much stuff going on. As a guest, I’d rather get an invitation early and be able to pencil off that date, instead of ending up with a scheduling conflict down the road.
Post # 5
Most of what I’ve heard says 6-8 weeks before the wedding, but your response time is only about 6.5 weeks away. So I think you would be fine sending them out now. The longest I would wait would be until next weekend.
Post # 6
Okay – here’s my question. I sent a STD to someone (a cousin I used to be close to), and have gotten absolutely NO POSITIVE FEEDBACK whatsoever! No "so happy for you" or "congrats" or anything positive. In fact, she already mentioned that she has vacation coming up and that she hopes she’s in town. She didn’t even hint that she’d try to plan around my wedding Can I simply forget to mail her an invitation and if questioned later simply state it must have gotten lost in the mail? Argh…
Post # 7
Teachbride, I wouldn’t wait much longer to send – I agree with Mrs. Spring. My wedding is August 15 and I’m planning to send mine out later this month because we are doing the dreaded two waves of invites…
CinJim, I would send the invite anyway. The worst that happens? She doesn’t come but you did the right thing etiquette-wise.
Post # 8
HIVE FYI: General etiquette says to send the invitations out 6-8 weeks in advance with a response date of 3 weeks after the invitations are sent.
Post # 9
We’re planning on sending ours out in August for an early November wedding (the first weekend in August), so that if, perhaps, there are a lot of no’s (which could very well be the case in this economy), we would kick in with the "B" list. This would ensure that the "B" listers don’t feel like they’re second choice, because I wouldn’t want anyone to feel that way. I realize what etiquette says, but I tend to think that etiquette changes a bit when we’re having a really bad economy with a lot of people out of jobs or barely making ends meet, and we have to have at least 150 people at our wedding.
I say to just do what feels right for you. If you have a lot of people coming in from out of town, send them out sooner than later.