How long can a baby be left unattended?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That’s a tough question since I am not a mom, but I would think as little as possible. Obviously if you have to run to the restroom or take a quick shower, you got to do what you go to do. I would think the best ansewer would be as a little as possible though, perhaps it would be best if you went to check the mail when your son/daughter was asleep. If you are taking your dog out, you could take your baby with you in a stroller and take a jaunt around the block all three of you, maybe if it might be a problem consider getting a mother’s helper who can assist you in tasks you might be able to do while caring for your child.

Post # 3
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Honey bee

idoalterations:  I think it really depends on how old the child is. If she is a new mother (first child), she could be very on edge and hypervigilant. If the child is less than 6 months, I can understand her not wanting to be too far away from the child for long.

I would think that if she really needs to take a shower, she could place the child in the car seat and set it in the bathroom (with the door open so it doesn’t get too steamy). I only take 2-4 minutes showers, so when I have a child, that’s what I would do. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I am not planning on staring him down all day, but I would never go far enough away that I couldn’t hear him…I feel the same way about the shower right now, that might change the first time my SO is away for work and suddenly I am not showering for 3 days 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

idoalterations:  Put them in a bouncer seat, carseat or playpen within eyeshot of the shower and get clean.  I think a lot of moms put too much pressure on themselves to be around 24/7 and while babies can get into a lot of trouble if left alone for more than a minute or two, it is possible to use the bathroom or shower safely.  She may not like for the baby to cry during those few minutes but it’s not going to kill them to cry so long as there isn’t anything they can choke on while there.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

It totally depends on the mobility of the child. When dd was just weeks old, I never left her unattended and absolutely waited for dh to be home for me to shower. A couple I times I took our dog for a quick potty during nap time. By two months. I would let her play on our bed whlie I took a speed shower. By four months, she’s happy to chill for twenty minutes total on her own. She plays tummy time while I shower, clean the kitchen, etc. however, I wouldn’t leave the house with her in it for more than a few minutes, for any reason. 

But, now when we go for walks, baby comes too. She was born in the dead of winter which is why I snuck out for three or four minutes to take the dog. If I get the mail, she comes, too. When they’re little, they like to be held a lot, so while she won’t burn the house down, she’ll likely cry if she’s alone and too little to self soothe. 

For things other than showering, try wearing the baby. I wear dd around the house and vacuum and other stuff. Keeps us both safe and happy. I also use a bumbo. She sits in it while I shower. She has a bouncy chair she chills in while I cook or eat. 

You just figure out how to make these things work.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You plan on walking the dog while leaving your kid in the house? A baby? , hopefully nothing ever happens to your child but I doubt child services would look upon your plan very favorably

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh man – I’d never get anything done if I were her! I put DS in his bouncy seat in the bathroom when I need to take a shower, or to play with some of his stuffed animals in his crib for 10 mins. There is a monitor I could turn on if I wanted, but I don’t. If I run to get the mail, or needed to take the dog out I’d be fine leaving him in his pack and play, or if he was napping – leave him napping! Of course as long as he was safe and was in no risk of falling/choking on something etc. I’d say 5 ish mins is about how long I’d feel comfortable leaving him solo in the house though – long enough to get the mail, put the garbage out or grab stuff from my car. 

When he was a newborn, hed sleep in his swing and I’d grab a shower upstairs without even thinking about it. 90% of the time I’d be finished and he’d sleep another hour. The times he woke up… oh well, he cried for a few minutes while I got a much needed shower! Crying for a few mins won’t hurt them LOL. Also if we knew he was fed, changed, fine etc at night when we were trying to eat or make dinner – he got to cry in his P&P while we ate. No big deal… life still had to happen and he is no worse off for any of it! 😉

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

bluefrog33:  Pretty sure she meant letting the dog out, not a walk around the block. Mighty quick to judge, aren’t we?

Post # 12
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Helper bee

musician32992:  I am actually because I know how quickly an accident can happen with a baby because you know it can’t take care of itself. Call it what you want but I think she is quick to judge considering she has never had a child. She thinks it is odd that her friend or whoever feels that the father has to take care of the kid while she showers. okay let’s see where are all her plans go once she actually has a kid.She ‘fully intends’ to just leave a baby unattended so she can attend to her own personal affairs at her leisure . Yea, I am scoffing at her and unapologetically so. It’s a baby not a toy

Post # 14
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Helper bee

musician32992:  I am actually because I know how quickly an accident can happen with a baby because you know it can’t take care of itself. Call it what you want but I think she is quick to judge considering she has never had a child. She thinks it is odd that her friend or whoever feels that the father has to take care of the kid while she showers. okay let’s see where are all her plans go once she actually has a kid.She ‘fully intends’ to just leave a baby unattended so she can attend to her own personal affairs at her leisure . Yea, I am scoffing at her and unapologetically so. It’s a baby not a toy

idoalterations:  I was wondering who could have said thank you to her comment and realized oh, it’s only you, the person who is not yet a mom and judging actual moms. In case you are wondering, I am one

 

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Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

bluefrog33:  Accidents can happen even when parents are two feet away from the child. I see absolutely nothing wrong with stepping out for three minutes when the child is SLEEPING in a crib. 

She didn’t leave the baby on the counter next to a boiling pot of water, for fuck’s sake. 

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