- 5 years ago
My boyfriend and I will have been together 3 years in September, we set somewhat of a timeline around this time last year that mutually he’d propose by the 5th year we’d been together. However, my boyfriend and I had a serious discussion about the prospect of getting engaged after one of his friends mentioned my wedding album he discovered on pinterest to him this past week. The reality of it, I discovered, is that my boyfriend says that we can’t get engaged until we can afford to move out into our own apartment amongst other financial obligations that he feels must be met.
Although I did not intend to be engaged for very long while living with my parents, I thought that he would propose in the next two years. Now, I feel crushed that because he wants us to not be living with our parents or have an apartment selected it will never happen. Especially with this economy, its just very hard to find a job that pays well enough to live comfortably. It seems like we’re never getting engaged 🙁 He says he’s not afraid of commitment, just financially he feels we’re stuck.
He knows about ‘The list” and when I asked if I should get off of it, he said “No, stay on it, I want to be able to propose within the next year.” Well, this week he angrily said “Things change!” and when I asked why he encouraged me to stay on the waiting list, he told me because he sees that I enjoy it and wanted me to have hope.
I used to look at the timeline like, seeing the horizon, so to speak, the light at the end of the tunnel, something to look forward to. Now I feel like it was all for nothing, I don’t feel any hope anymore…
How long can a girl stay on the waiting list on this site? Is there an unspoken time limit?