Post # 1
…for you to get accustomed to your new last name?
It sounds silly (but not, I guess!) but I was practicing my new signature yesterday and I hate it!! I don’t like how it looks on paper, it doesn’t feel organic to me, doesn’t roll off the tongue. It’s taken me years to perfect an adorable signature with just my initials and I’m having trouble doing that with my new ones!! I have a very common, Irish last name and own a bunch of paraphanalia (shirts, cups, etc) with that on it, so it’s cool.
The irony is, I can’t WAIT to be a Mrs. to him and share his name; the one our kids will share as well. It just seems so awkward to me right now!! Another reason is like I said, I’m Irish and I love that…his name however, is very strongly another ethnicity. I almost feel like I’m losing a bit of my own heritage, you know?
Anyway, how long did it take before signing your new name became second nature, or you were able to introduce yourself as such without hesitation? Or does that ever happen?
Post # 2
It only took a couple of months for me, but I’ve never felt that strong an affinity for my last name (it’s pretty easy to make fun of).
Post # 3
Two years in and I still don’t answer to my married name 90% of the time. It also affects the weirdest things….like for example, I work in a huge company so when we have events they will break us up by last name, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve instinctually gone to the wrong group.
You get used to it…..but yeah, it takes time.
Post # 4
Couple weeks? My family was calling me Mrs.Lastname before we even got married so I guess I was already acclimated.
Post # 5
Good for you! I almost feel a little badly about it, but it is what it is.
I have a strong attachement to my last name b/c I’m an only child and my father passed away when I was little. I’m considering taking it as a middle name, if that’s not too complicated! I wonder what’s involved in doing so…
Post # 6
BurlapnLace: It took a little bit (maybe a few weeks?), but writing all of our thank you cards and signing them with my new last name was definitely good practice 🙂
Post # 7
Heck, I’ve been married for over a year and I still do a double-take sometimes when remembering I have a new name. Admittedly it is a long and double-barrelled name but my signature isn’t quite spot on yet!
Post # 8
I still don’t like signing it and prefer to just say my maiden last name.
Post # 9
BurlapnLace: I don’t think changing your middle name is any different than changing your last name. It’s all the same paperwork.
Why doesn’t your husband take your family name? I can understand wanting to all share the last name, but if you’re so attached to yours, maybe your new family should use that one!
Post # 10
BurlapnLace: I am almost at the four month mark and I feel like I *almost* have it down. After 27 years of getting used to one name, I figured it’d take a while to grow accustomed to the sudden change. Especially since my first name and maiden name had a nice ring to it and my new one seems a little out of place. I do still accidentally slip up and sign my old name on things a lot. However, it’s gotten better. You have to make a really conscious effort. It’s similar to how people write in the prior year whenever the new year rolls in… Takes some getting used to.
My parents even gave me my wedding gift (a check) with my maiden name. So, I guess old habits die hard? Lol
Post # 11
Steampunkbride: How long is your new last name? I’m debating on hyphenating (other choice is retaining my own altogether) and the combination will go from my current 5 letter last name to 13 letters. The length is daunting.
Post # 12
BurlapnLace: OMG, I haven’t changed it yet! LOL! I wasn’t even sure if I was going to change it, but I decided at the last minute to do it. My current last name is loopy and flowy and my signature is pretty! I’m trying to figure out how to make my new signature loopy and flowy, too. Lol!!!
Post # 13
i’ve been married for 7 months, last week i was filling out a form to enter a contest and put my maiden name, i realised right away. sometimes i still forget but for the most part not.
it is still awkward to sign my name, i guess i should practice. it comes out different every time.
Post # 14
LilRhodyGem: Mine is double-barrelled the less usual way round – HISNAME-MYNAME – because I didn’t want to have to reinvent myself professionally and I still Google up correctly in my new name. However, all in all, it has 13 letters.
Post # 15
I’ve gotten used to saying it and hearing it but I still haven’t gotten used to signing it when though I’ve been signing my new name for a year now. My old name was so pretty in cursive but I’m just bad at capital cursive ‘B’s so my signature now looks terrible.