How long did it take…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It only took a couple of months for me, but I’ve never felt that strong an affinity for my last name (it’s pretty easy to make fun of). 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Two years in and I still don’t answer to my married name 90% of the time. It also affects the weirdest things….like for example, I work in a huge company so when we have events they will break us up by last name, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve instinctually gone to the wrong group.

You get used to it…..but yeah, it takes time.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Couple weeks? My family was calling me Mrs.Lastname before we even got married so I guess I was already acclimated.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

BurlapnLace:  It took a little bit (maybe a few weeks?), but writing all of our thank you cards and signing them with my new last name was definitely good practice 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Heck, I’ve been married for over a year and I still do a double-take sometimes when remembering I have a new name. Admittedly it is a long and double-barrelled name but my signature isn’t quite spot on yet!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I still don’t like signing it and prefer to just say my maiden last name.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

BurlapnLace:  I don’t think changing your middle name is any different than changing your last name. It’s all the same paperwork. 

Why doesn’t your husband take your family name? I can understand wanting to all share the last name, but if you’re so attached to yours, maybe your new family should use that one!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

BurlapnLace: I am almost at the four month mark and I feel like I *almost* have it down. After 27 years of getting used to one name, I figured it’d take a while to grow accustomed to the sudden change. Especially since my first name and maiden name had a nice ring to it and my new one seems a little out of place. I do still accidentally slip up and sign my old name on things a lot. However, it’s gotten better. You have to make a really conscious effort. It’s similar to how people write in the prior year whenever the new year rolls in… Takes some getting used to.

My parents even gave me my wedding gift (a check) with my maiden name. So, I guess old habits die hard? Lol

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Steampunkbride:  How long is your new last name? I’m debating on hyphenating (other choice is retaining my own altogether) and the combination will go from my current 5 letter last name to 13 letters. The length is daunting.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

BurlapnLace:  OMG, I haven’t changed it yet! LOL! I wasn’t even sure if I was going to change it, but I decided at the last minute to do it. My current last name is loopy and flowy and my signature is pretty! I’m trying to figure out how to make my new signature loopy and flowy, too. Lol!!!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’ve been married for 7 months, last week i was filling out a form to enter a contest and put my maiden name, i realised right away.  sometimes i still forget but for the most part not.

it is still awkward to sign my name, i guess i should practice.  it comes out different every time.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

LilRhodyGem:  Mine is double-barrelled the less usual way round – HISNAME-MYNAME – because I didn’t want to have to reinvent myself professionally and I still Google up correctly in my new name. However, all in all, it has 13 letters.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve gotten used to saying it and hearing it but I still haven’t gotten used to signing it when though I’ve been signing my new name for a year now. My old name was so pretty in cursive but I’m just bad at capital cursive ‘B’s so my signature now looks terrible.

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