How long did it take before there was a bun in the oven

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That’s between you and your SO.  I decided I wanted kids as soon as going out to the bar didn’t sound like a good time anymore.  Haha.  We were married 3 years when we decided we were ready, but we were living abroad at the time so we had to wait until we were back in the States.  So that makes about 4 years of alone time.  It was plenty for us!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We got pregnant three months after the wedding (together for 2 years at that point). It was a few months sooner then expected. DH is older though and didn’t want to wait too long. everyone is different though, only you two can decide that: of DH was also in his mid 20s we probably would have waited at least a year.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we’ve been trying since 3 days after the wedding. AF decided to make an appearance at the wedding.

 

Post # 6
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446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went off the pill the month of the wedding. We’re on our third cycle of actively trying. 

Honestly though, it doesn’t matter! Some people get knocked up on the wedding night. Others aren’t able to conceive for years or never do at all. The irony is that you don’t know where you’ll fall until you start trying. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We waited four months after we were married to start trying/get pregnant. We would have started trying earlier but wanted to wait until after our official honeymoon which wasnt until 4 months after our wedding. We always knew we wanted kids right away.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are waiting till we can afford them. We are paying for our weddings ourselves and that’s expensive along with normal stuff like rent.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We waited a year after the wedding. We got pregnant the first cycle really trying!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

we were together for 9 years before getting married (We were college sweethearts). waited a year after the wedding to enjoy newlywed life and started trying after that. realised that it wasnt easy getting knocked up cos i had pcos. had to use clomid for 3 cycles before getting pregnant with our first DD.

As for the second one, i wanted a 3 yr age gap so only decided to try after DD turned 2. took also 3 cycles with clomid to get preggy.

 

Sorry for the long story!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We made tons of international travel plans in the first year, so we waited until we were done traveling to start trying. That was about 15 months after the wedding. While I would have loved to start trying a bit earlier, we both really appreciated the time we took to just be married and carefree.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@terpalum10:  Honestly though, it doesn’t matter! Some people get knocked up on the wedding night. Others aren’t able to conceive for years or never do at all. “The irony is that you don’t know where you’ll fall until you start trying.” 

 

this is my biggest fear!

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

We want to be married 3-5 years before trying. Both of us are still on the fence if we even want kids, so that will give us time to explore the world together as a married couple and figure out what we both want in life.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@otto2008:  That’s totally dependent on how YOU guys feel as a couple. For us, we knew we wanted to wait a year after getting married to be able to own a home and a dog. Once we had both of those things, we planned to start fall of 2013, but realized we had no idea what we were waiting for anymore, so we started trying in summer. We were successfully pregnant a year after getting married and a couple months of trying. He’s 28, and I am 25.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It depends on your specific situation.  We were together 5 years by the time we got married and waited another 2 years.  I brought a DD into the relationship so we wanted time for the two of them to acclimate to living together.  Plus we wanted to buy a house.  Then age became a factor as I turned 32 and DH turned 31.  We knew we wanted more than 1 more so the time was right to start trying.  We got pregnant on our 2nd cycle of trying.  

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DH and I were together 11 years and married for about 1 year when we decided to come off birth control (In July). Being together so long, we didn’t feel like we needed to get “settled” into our marriage for much longer. We had also just bought a house in June which was the last thing I really wanted to have accomplished before TTC. We were open to having a baby in an apartment if we didn’t find the right house, but I really prefered otherwise. Our first cycle we were NTNP and when we didn’t have success I used OPKs the next month and we were successful. We are now almost 17 weeks in 🙂

 

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