(Closed) How long did it take for you to agree on a prenup?

posted 6 years ago in Legal
  • poll: My fiance just told me last night he wanted a prenup? What do you think?
    agree and do the prenup with the wedding in 37 days : (6 votes)
    27 %
    do a postnup instead : (2 votes)
    9 %
    do not do the prenup at all : (5 votes)
    23 %
    tell him he's crazy for bring this up last minute! lol : (9 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It will really depend on the assets you each have and on whether you are in agreement with what the prenup should say/do.

    Post # 4
    990 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Mrs.McMac:  agreed but I would talk about a postnup…. If you are both on the same page then no biggie. Then again it worries me he would ask for this unless he is trying to protect someone other than himself (like kids). I am in a situation where I am a lot better off that Fiance and we are not getting one because marriage is a lifetime commitment. That said there are no kids involved and if I had them I might ask for a prenup for thier sake not for mine. I would also be sure that he got what was fair but allow my kids to survive too.

    Post # 5
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    why is he asking for a prenup now? seems a bit fishy. if he had assets to protect, one would think he would have brought it up well before (like as soon as you started planning).

    Post # 6
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i think unless youve talked about prenup before you begin the wedding planning, it can become an awkward last minute thing

    IF you or he have current assets i feel you should explore this – no one goes into a marriage planning it to fail but its not a dumb thing to discuss.  goodluck!!!

    Post # 7
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Keep in mind you should each have your own lawyers – even if you think you agree on the terms. Any time people are entering into a contract, the two (or more) parties should each have their own representation.

    Post # 8
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Prenups can be about debts as well.  Make sure you both disclose debts as well as assets.

    Post # 9
    954 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Odds are he’s not keeping anything from you- we procrastinated on ours for months.  i asked for one to protect my parntership interests in a law firm as well as my partner pension should I require that in the future.  You both need your own lawyers or the court will throw it out.  Its more about protecting future assets than current assets anyway- whatever you have that is currently your property will remain your property once you enter into marriage.

    Post # 10
    857 posts
    Busy bee

    I procrastinated on mine big time. His atty drafted it and so all my Atty had to do was edit and revise it. I was actually surprised at how few edits and revisions we had.  But we also have unusual circumstances.  For a variety of different reasons we will not have any marital property, ever. Even after we are married, our assets will remain separate and individual and accrue separately, not as marital property. God forbid we were ever to get divorced, we walk away with our own individual assets that we came to the marriage with and acquired during the marriage individually, there would be nothing to divide.  Ours is a highly unusual pre nup, it is actually contradictory to state law but it is what we want.  Even with it being very unusual, it really didn’t take long at all to draft, finalize and agree.  I hope that helps, good luck to you!

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