Post # 1
My fiance has asked for a prenup 37 days before our wedding. I still need to letterpress both our wedding menu’s and programs, create our seating chart, make our table favors, make final decisions on flowers, make a slideshow, finialize our rehersal, write thankyou for the shower i just had, entertain a friend that will be visiting us before the wedding and work. Anyways the thought of having to do a prenup in 37 days with everthing else that needs to get done seems crazy to me. Our wedding is also back where i grew up, so we will be flying in a few days before. How long did it take you to agree on a prenup and have a lawyer write everything up?
Post # 3
It will really depend on the assets you each have and on whether you are in agreement with what the prenup should say/do.
Post # 4
@Mrs.McMac: agreed but I would talk about a postnup…. If you are both on the same page then no biggie. Then again it worries me he would ask for this unless he is trying to protect someone other than himself (like kids). I am in a situation where I am a lot better off that Fiance and we are not getting one because marriage is a lifetime commitment. That said there are no kids involved and if I had them I might ask for a prenup for thier sake not for mine. I would also be sure that he got what was fair but allow my kids to survive too.
Post # 5
why is he asking for a prenup now? seems a bit fishy. if he had assets to protect, one would think he would have brought it up well before (like as soon as you started planning).
Post # 6
i think unless youve talked about prenup before you begin the wedding planning, it can become an awkward last minute thing
IF you or he have current assets i feel you should explore this – no one goes into a marriage planning it to fail but its not a dumb thing to discuss. goodluck!!!
Post # 7
Keep in mind you should each have your own lawyers – even if you think you agree on the terms. Any time people are entering into a contract, the two (or more) parties should each have their own representation.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Prenups can be about debts as well. Make sure you both disclose debts as well as assets.
Post # 9
Odds are he’s not keeping anything from you- we procrastinated on ours for months. i asked for one to protect my parntership interests in a law firm as well as my partner pension should I require that in the future. You both need your own lawyers or the court will throw it out. Its more about protecting future assets than current assets anyway- whatever you have that is currently your property will remain your property once you enter into marriage.
Post # 10
I procrastinated on mine big time. His atty drafted it and so all my Atty had to do was edit and revise it. I was actually surprised at how few edits and revisions we had. But we also have unusual circumstances. For a variety of different reasons we will not have any marital property, ever. Even after we are married, our assets will remain separate and individual and accrue separately, not as marital property. God forbid we were ever to get divorced, we walk away with our own individual assets that we came to the marriage with and acquired during the marriage individually, there would be nothing to divide. Ours is a highly unusual pre nup, it is actually contradictory to state law but it is what we want. Even with it being very unusual, it really didn’t take long at all to draft, finalize and agree. I hope that helps, good luck to you!