Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
FI and I have been in our new house almost 2 months and a couple times a week we’ll say how the house doesn’t feel like ours yet. We feel like we are guests house sitting. We still aren’t completely settled, still have boxes out in the garage. Nothing is put up on our walls in our bedroom yet and can’t find ANYTHING lol but I know that comes with time.
So Bees, how long did it take for you to feel like it was home? In other places I’ve lived it felt like home almost immediately, within 3 weeks typically.
Post # 3
The best thing you can do is to finish getting unpacked. You need a certain amount of clutter to feel home. 🙂
If I were you, I’d start in my bedroom then my kitchen. Get everything comfortable. Get things completely unpacked with a place for everything and everything in it’s place. After that, devote yourselves to one room per weekend until your home feels right to you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@Asia: That’s a good idea. I think part of the reason is June is always busy. Our 3 younger kids do baseball, softball and swim team. So for the month of June Monday-Thursday are either a baseball, softball game or swim meet and Saturdays are swim meet days too. So its hard to devote time this month to organization and unpacking. I’m making it a goal though to devote one day a week to getting settled in to the new house.
Post # 5
I think as soon as you have your stuff up on the walls it will feel more like home.
Post # 6
It has taken me over a year to feel at home, there’s still stuff that doesn’t have a place and loads of jobs to improve our home, but those are on the back burner for now because we want to get married.
Post # 7
We got all our stuff unpacked and put out by Easter (3 weeks prior to Easter is when we moved). After Easter, we felt we had officially lived there. We do agree it is terribly quiet right now, so we are getting a dog, but it only took a month before we felt like the home was ours.
Post # 8
@NurseMandie: It took us a week from moving in to feel at home haha. We closed escrow 5/3 and did a bunch of reno stuff before we officially moved in on 5/24. Our kitchen appliances were delivered on 5/24 so we figured we could spend our first night there since we could finally cook and store food! Unfortunately, we had to spend a week on the pull-out couch because our mattress wouldn’t be delivered until the following week. Our mattress was delivered on 5/31 and THAT was when it truly felt like home. 🙂
We also bought a pretty small condo so it was easy to unpack everything. Only took 2 days! I can’t imagine having a huge house and a garage full of stuff to unpack. Oh and THREE young kids! Yeesh, you are a busy lady!
Post # 9
It took us a couple of weeks but once the bulk of things were unpacked and put away, it felt like home.
Post # 10
We’ve been in ours for 8 months and still doesn’t feel like that. I think mostly because we aren’t done painting, renovating, decorating, etc. But as I’ve been told, there will always be something to do. Maybe once we are married, it’ll settle in.
Post # 11
I don’t know if I ever will and next month we will have been here 2 years. Oh it’s a nice enough home, with three lovely acres that include lots of trees, and a stream in the backyard. I was used to living in total isolation in the woods with daily deer, bear, and turkey sightings and NO PEOPLE. If I could get away with offing my neighbors, I would. I hate having neighbors I can see and being able to hear cars!
Post # 12
I think a lot depends on how often you have moved yourself. I have lived in many locations. Not including dorm rooms, I have lived in 10 places in my life, most in the last 10 years. So I am used to moving and making a place “home”
I have been in my new house one week and we only just started unpacking and it is already home to me. Mostly because home to me is where my own kitchen is, animals and husband. 🙂
Post # 13
Our house felt like home immediately, in fact, before we actually bought it. We spent months looking for our first house, so when we finally found it, it just felt right.
Post # 14
Great thread! I’ll be wondering this myself. We are supposed to close on Thursday, but it’s not happened the first time we were supposed to close, so I’m not getting my hopes up. I’ve been thinking a lot about when it will feel like “mine.” I’m hoping soon considering I grew up in my parents house & moved into the apartment my husband has already been renting so we could not have the wedding & house hunting all at once.
Post # 15
It took us like a week, but I feel at home everywhere. I can stay in a hotel for two days and refer to it as “going home.” But I agree with PP that unpacking and getting stuff on the walls will help.
Post # 16
Commenting to follow, because I don’t really have a good answer!