How long did it take you to plan?

posted 3 years ago in May 2015
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@beetee123:  Well, I think you’re reading into it too much. It’s good he wants to wait a little bit. That doesn’t mean you cant start planning ASAP though! There’s nothing wrong with researching things, etc. Once you get engaged, you can go headfirst into the important booking things after all your hard research 🙂

Wish you the best of luck!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

Oh gosh. I planned my wedding in 6 MONTHS! Granted I had kind of planned everything before we got engaged, but didn’t have a date picked out because I didn’t know when he would propose. Just small details. And actually I got most of it done in the first 3 months of engagement. The only thing we really had to wait on were dress alterations. And when we finally got to that, it took a week for each dress. 

  • I already new the venue of ceremony, wasn’t sure for the reception before getting engaged.
  • I had colors picked out, basic theme, and such
  • I had my wedding dress before we got engaged (got it 3 years before engaged…hehe)

That was it. I will say, make sure you pick the date out right away, and jet into finding venues, ordereing cake, finding someone for alterations, etc. There are a lot of people who have waiting lists. Just don’t stress about it. The more you stress, the less about your union with your future husband it will be.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

We’ll be engaged for 22 months by the time our wedding day comes around. In a perfect world I probably would have wanted it to be 13-15 months. We booked our venue and photographer the first week and while the photographer still had many openings, the venue only had one weekend left in May or June 2015 (and this was in September 2013.)

I think, in a vacuum, you could plan a wedding in 6 months. Most of the vendor stuff is done in the first month or two anyway. Your only issue that you run into is getting all of your ‘must have’ vendors free on one day. 

That being said, since you stress when you plan, I’d consider bumping your date out to at least a year to give yourself enough time to enjoy the experience and not stress out.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@beetee123:  Other than the venue, I really didn’t get anything done until about 9 months out and haven’t had a problem booking vendors.  I got the venue about a year out.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@beetee123:  yeah, in my area it seemed like all of the “wedding” venues booked up about a year out for May.  I don’t know if that’s true for your area, but you could look at less typically weddingy venues, because those don’t book as far out.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I got engaged on December 10th and married on May 3th.  So 5.5 months end to end.

While that was a pretty quick turnaround, I suggest planning for a shorter amount of time.  I think 6-9 months is about right.  You know why?  In this big wild wedding world you need to have your choices LIMITED.  There are too many options out there.  When you have a shorter planning horizon you just need to make a decision and move on. 

In the end, the longer you take the plan the longer you will stress yourself out. 

ETA: I should add the caveat, that while I certainly had not done a stitch of actual planning prior to getting engaged, I had done a lot of dreaming/reading about weddings/pinning things.  So when I got engaged i was ready to hit the ground running.  If you don’t know much about weddings prior to getting engaged you should also build in a few months of “ramp up” time.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@beetee123:  Too each their own.  I will say though, that I really believe that by giving themselves too much time people actually create more stress rather than less.

My sister was engaged for 2 years.  For the first year she litterally did nothing except have to answer a lot of “have you set the date yet? Why not?” type questions.  When she finally go started she chose a venue that was ~8 months out and got everythign done in the insuing 8 months.  By the time the wedding came around she could not wait for the whole deal to be over and get on with her life!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

4.5 months. Well, actually it was just 4 because I went away for 2 weeks just before it. I did have a more laidback type of wedding though, there weren’t a lot of details that I was interested in planning.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m in the process of planning our wedding now, and we’ll have been engaged nearly 2 years by the time we get married. We’re already down to almost 16 months now, and we’re not even halfway through.  I think it’s doable but the only worry is that vendors book fast. 

A few weeks before we got engaged, he took me out to this park on the beach with a gorgeous indoor stone pavillion. Ironically, a wedding was going on that weekend, and I knew instantly I wanted that to be our venue.  After we got engaged and came home (we were on vacation), a few weeks later we called the venue, and went down to check it out. We were shocked when they told us our original date (May 16, 2015) was booked already (this was in July 2013)! We took the next choice, May 23, 2015 and the other dates in May were full. 

So that would be my only worry is not getting my venue choice.

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