Post # 1
My friend and I have both been waiting together for several months. She would tell me all the time that her and her (no FI) never talked about getting engaged etc etc. well they got engaged recently and within 4 days she had a venue booked! It’s been about a month now and they already have EVERYTHING! A caterer, photographer, venue, bridesmaids dresses, the guest lists, shes already ordered STDs and invites, wedding bands, a florist….everything except the dress! It’s just so crazy to me that she’s already booked ALL of it and they’re not even getting married until October 2014 when they JUST got engaged. How long did it take you to get everything together?!
Post # 3
@Ninteenthchance: I got engaged at the very end of July, and I have all of my vendors booked. BUT, my wedding isn’t a year away, it’s 6 months away!
We looked at venues the week after we got engaged and put a deposit on one 2 days after we looked. But it’s a crazy busy wedding time where I live, so we were freaking out that we might not find a place available!
My bride style is to not overthink everything. If I like something and get a good feeling about the people, I book it. I try not to second guess everything. I’ve seen too many brides that have totally lost the fun or happiness about this time, and I’m doing everything I can not to do that. For what it’s worth, my fiance and I have not gotten into a single argument about wedding planning, or really about anything since we got engaged. Yay!
Post # 4
@Ninteenthchance: I got everything together in about 5ish months. Got engaged on Christmas Eve, began planning late January, married in June. It can definitely be done!
I’ll add that while we invited about 130 ppl, it wasn’t a super fancy wedding – our ceremony venue was a church that basically needed no decorations, and our reception was in a hotel for which we just did a package deal. Photographer, dj, flowers and cake were the only other things to line up, which didn’t take long.
Also, neither I nor DH is a picky person – we didn’t “interview” photogs or see a million different venues. I think that helps keep the planning period shorter and less stressful.
Post # 5
Married 2 weeks today.
Photographer: booked in january
DJ: won his services in January
Ceremony venue: booked last november
Reception venue: booked last september
Officiant: found him at the start of August
Decorator: end of July
Florist: 1 month before the wedding, though spoke to him last November
Cake: 2 weeks before the wedding
Invites: found and ordered 7 weeks before the wedding, received and mailed 5 weeks before the wedding
Dress: septeber 2013
Veils: 2 weeks before (I don’t recommend this, i lucked out they had what I wanted in stock, but usually they have to order)
MUA/Hair: 3 weeks before the wedding
I had started to do most of this in February, but we had a whole lot of bad crap happen to us starting Feb 27, so it all got put on the back burner until mid-July.
One should be careful about doing too much, too soon. Some things like venues have to be secured early, however life happens, vendors go out of business, etc and you can very easily find yourself having to scramble to do things you thought you had already done. It was stressful doing so much in such a short period of time (but a good stress, to be honest), however I would prefer that to having to re-do stuff I thought I had done.
Post # 6
Within about 5-6 months we had all the major stuff ready. But we had picked a date 2 years away so there was no rush.
Post # 7
I got engaged in December, didn’t start a lick of planning until the end of May, and we were married mid-November. I wouldn’t say I ever felt stressed or crunched for time.
Post # 8
We had the majority of things decided within 6 months – dress, venue, DJ, food, etc. After that it is all details, plus a few other bigger items, like cake and invitations.
I’m really happy I have a year total though. I’d be stressed if I had less time.
Post # 9
Engaged in August of 2011
Booked venue in September, 2011
Gown purchased in January, 2012
All vendors were booked by June, 2013
All wedding related items including BM/GM gifts ordered and received by August, 2013
Wedding, October 2013
I started VERY early because I wanted to take it slow and make sure I stayed on top of everything because I know that I don’t have the best performance when I start to get overbooked and anxious.