Post # 1
So, we got engaged October 23 and of course the first question everyone asks me is: so when will it be? And so far my answer has been ummmmm I dunno! 🙂 We don’t have one particular day that we are tied to and we’re just so busy! We are planning to buy a house early next year, my brother’s wedding in August, FI’s mom’s wedding in October. We didn’t want to do it too close to people’s weddings or get in the middle of the holiday season, so we were thinking January 2011.
FI came home from work last night and told me that he just realized that he is never allowed to take time off in January. He is a corporate accountant and January is year end– busiest time of the year for them. I don’t know why neither of us thought of that… blame the engagement brain!
So at this point I kind of feel like… if the wedding isn’t going to be until after January 2011… why worry about it now? I kind of feel like we can maybe just chill and focus on the house thing and worry about setting a date in a few months… but is that weird? I feel like other people I know who got engaged had dates like, immediately!
So hive, I ask you: How long was it between getting engaged and setting a date for you? (and how long was your total engagement?)
Post # 3
We got engaged in Feb. I started looking for venues right away because he wanted a hotel & I wanted an Oct wedding and places around us get booked fast. We orig. wanted 10.10.10 but my church gave away the day even though we put a hold on it (grrrr). The manager of the venue we liked best called me & said 9.5.10 was open would we like it so we took it.
All in all we’ll be engaged 19 months (Feb 09-Sept’10).
Edit: Corgi – I don’t see anything wrong with waiting – especially if you guys are buying a house. One of our groomsmen is in that place now – new homeowner & getting married in July. They’re paying for everything themselves & finding it’s pretty hard.
Post # 4
we got engaged december 2008… and still have not set the date. we knew we wanted the wedding in the fall of 2011, but still don’t have exact date. People ask and i say the same thing… ummm fall 2011?? and then they laugh and say “ok???!”
It really depends on if the venue and church we are looking at is available … once we get that squared away i should have a date by January! yay!
Because we knew it was going to be a 2+ yr engagement there was no rush really to set a date. now we are really starting to get in the swing of things. 🙂
Post # 5
Oh, we set our date about two weeks after getting engaged. I’ll be honest, we both knew the venue we wanted and the photographer we wanted, and literally, like two days after the proposal, I was on the phone with our venue securing a date and coordinating that with our photographer as well. It was all done within two weeks.
We’re a little insane like that, though.
Post # 6
My FI and I were engaged on 4/4/09. That evening, we decided to marry around Christmas time and the next day we decided on December 27, 2009… Giving us only 9.5 months to plan! But really, I think it was the perfect amount of time for us 🙂
Post # 7
We got engaged in March and didn’t officially set a date (as in have a signed contract) until October…
If you don’t mind having a “longer” engagement I think it’s fine to just enjoy being engaged for a while before you start any formal planning. We will be engaged ~18 months.
I would make sure you buckle down about 12 months out from whenever you decide you want it to be, though, to ensure you can get your top locations.
Post # 8
We got engaged in June of 2009 , but there is not set date yet. I like June 12 or June 19 of 2011 but we’ll see.
Post # 9
We got engaged in September 2008 and didn’t set a date until June 2009. And our wedding isn’t until June 2010.
Post # 10
Got engaged late June 2009. Had a date picked by mid-July.
Wedding is 2 weeks from now.
I waste no time LOL.
Post # 11
Wow– so many girls with longer engagements… it makes me feel better 🙂 I am a little jealous of you girls who knew where you wanted to get married though! (I’m lookin at you Miss Chapstick!) We just have no clue. We’ve already looked at 4 venues and we have 2 more we’re looking at next weekend but so far nothing has *clicked* (and by clicked I mean… been in our price range and not horrible heh)
Post # 12
I’d been brainstorming venues for months prior to our engagement – and we started looking after we were engaged. Like you, we didn’t have a particular date in mind. We were going to let the venue pick our date – but, we had 6 “ideal” months in mind. It took us about 6 weeks after getting engaged to find the venue and decide on the date. And, are having a 1-year engagement (we wanted it to be earlier, but the venue wasn’t available).
Since you are flexible on the date you want – I think you are fine waiting until early next year to start looking – but, you may start being limited on venue selection if you wait much longer than that.
Post # 13
Hi!!!!!!!!! CorgiTales you were engaged the day before I got married!!!
We got engaged and set the date like a month later =) My total engagement was 8 months.
Post # 14
We got engaged in mid-June when were in an LDR, and due to job circumstances, were originally planning something in Oct 2011. And then I lost my job, moved back to my fiance’s town, and bumped up our date to Sept 2010. Our date became official (meaning we put money down on a venue) in early October.