Post # 1
And what did you do with the original ring? I only just got married last year so I won’t be upgrading for a while (money) but I know I will eventually (maybe sooner if DH gets a certain job promotion).
Just want to know what everyones opinions are on the matter and I want to half-ass make up my mind of what I am going to do in the future.
Post # 3
I am upgrading/changing my setting from a thin band to a thicker one, and I’m getting two half-eternity bands. I’m reusing my stone (wasn’t an option in the poll) and I’ll be wearing my slightly contoured original wedding band on the thumb of my left hand!
Post # 4
@honie309: I love my ring. FI worked his ass off to get it, so it would be kinda of snotty and a slap in the face to upgrade something he designed all on his own and couldn’t wait to surprise me with it
Post # 5
I dont know for sure if I will upgrade, maybe? If I do, I will make my current diamond into a necklace.
Post # 6
Daizy – I upgraded for the opposite reason. I chose my original ring with NO input from DH and I was never quite satisfied with it. It wasn’t the ring, it was the feeling I had inside… so we went this past weekend TOGETHER and I had HIM choose something and now THAT is my upgrade… and I don’t even have it yet but I’m sooooo much happier with something I will wear that HE thought was perfect for me 🙂 You are lucky you got that right off the bat! It’s beautiful! 🙂
Post # 7
@honie309: @Daizy914: Just for the record, I don’t think it is “snotty and a slap in the face” to upgrade!
Here’s mine! It was my 5 year anniversary gift (this month). My original rings are “put away.”
Post # 8
I don’t think I can. My ring is gorgeous (to me) and although it is not exactly what I wanted (it’s super close though) it has wayy wayyy wayyyyy too much sentimental value for me to replace it and just put this away.
Looking back to the time FH was picking out rings, I remember how stressed he was to find the one. Whenever someone brings up the topic of upgrading, it just feels weird/sad to me (personally).
Post # 9
I don’t mean to offend anyone-I am not upgrading because I feel I would insult my FI by doing that. I wasn’t saying that it is snotty of you guys to upgrade. I would feel snotty if I did that to him.
@MrsMc77 – I think that it is sweet that you found something you both love.
Post # 10
Couldn’t answer…not engaged yet so I haven’t upgraded. I’m not opposed to it, quite open to it but I’d never suggest it. I was being semi-modest when I chose my ring and took into consideration my age, my job, the city where we live etc but when/if those circumstances should change, I’d definitely get an upgrade if he wanted me to have one.
Post # 11
@honie309: I had my ring for 2 years before we upgraded. (married a little less than 1 year) It was my husbands idea, mostly because he didnt like the size of my original ring, and we knew we would eventually upgrade. We had the money, so we did it. I think its a personal preference and if your husband/fiance is ok with it, go for it. We traded my original e-ring in (ShaneCo) and I kept my wedding band.
This is the before and after, side by side
This is my set now…
Post # 12
I have no intention of ever upgrading and I doubt I ever will. I don’t care if someone else does though and I love seeing everyones pretty rings!
Post # 13
I upgraded at 15 years and love it and plan to upgrade the setting in the future. My husband could care less and wanted to give me something big on our 15th so it was his idea to upgrade. To each their own but I love seeing everyones rings all day everyday.
I traded up with my old ring and the store put the value towards my new one.
Post # 14
@honie309: We’ve just upgraded mine, 2.5 years after getting engaged and a year before the wedding. The main reason was the whole replating issue with white gold; I wanted to switch to platinum which doesn’t need replating.
My upgrade is a pretty much exact replica of my original ring, and the total carat weight is exactly the same, so I didn’t go bigger or change the style. But it’s platinum instead of white gold and I went with much higher specs for the diamonds.
Post # 15
I’m not married yet, but I will probably ask for an upgrade for our 1 yr anniversary. I LOVE my ring, but I wish the diamond was a little bigger. I’ve decided that I don’t like the way a wedding band looks with my ring. So I’m hoping FI will agree to put the $4000 he had set aside for a Tacori band towards an upgrade.
Post # 16
I upgraded at 15 years (well, DH suggested it then, but it took until 16 years for us to find the “right” one). It was my DH’s idea, so it wasn’t offensive to him. He/we are in a very different place financially than we were when we were married, and he wanted my ring to reflect that. And, in his words, “This is what I would have bought for you the fist time if I could have.”
I still have the original. We didn’t trade it in or anything, and I have it in a lock box at the bank.
But my advice would be not to think you need to make up your mind now. Wait until finances allow the upgrade and then think about what you want. I know that what I would have chosen 15 years ago would have been very different from what I have now, so tastes change over time. Don’t jump the gun and plan for what isn’t here quite yet.