Post # 1
Just wondering. I just got back into the dating world, and am unsure how this usually works. Obviously it’s different for everyone, but I was curious.
So, how long did you and your SO date before you became official, exclusive, bf/gf, ect.?
How long after that did you say I love you?
Post # 3
A few weeks for dating.
I love you’s were more like a few months 🙂
I don’t have much experience in the dating world but I will say it can be weird and hard to read! Best thing to do is be honest about everything your feeling and your desires/intentions so there aren’t many games or misconceptions to come about.
Post # 4
Seems like the trend these days is to be more casual in the beginning, but i’ve never been able to be that way. I’m all in or not at all! I don’t like the idea of wooing or being wooed by more than one guy at a time (or of them wooing multiple women).
We were a couple after our first date.
Post # 5
I don’t feel like I have a lot to say because bf and I have been together since we weer 13! But we hung out and went out on dates for about 2 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend.
Post # 6
My FI and I got to know each other for a few weeks before making it official. We were in High School so we tended to just go for some long walks and hang out outside of school at first. Our first official “date” was homecoming and we made it official the monday after that. Actually I think I’m the one that asked him about it…
Post # 7
Bf and I were best friends for 2 years before we started dating. We told each other that we liked each other, and talked for 6 weeks before we became official. We just had a lot of insecurities and stuff like that to talk about and sort through before we wanted to be official. We were exclusive from the moment we said we liked each other though.
oh, and the I love you came about a year after we became official. We took our time with it 🙂
Post # 8
We dated for about 2-3 weeks.
Post # 9
@crayfish: I’m with ya.
I never understood the concept of casual dating but maybe that’s because I’ve only ever really had serious boyfriends. Casual dating makes more sense if you’re older but at 19 when FI and I met, we pretty much jumped right into our relationship.
As for saying “I love you”, that happened pretty quickly, too. I’d say a few weeks but I actually think it was shorter than that. Guess we just knew!
Post # 10
I’d say we had the ‘are we official’ conversation about 4 weeks after dating …. and I love you came maybe a couple of weeks after that. Since I was the one who initiated the ‘what are we’ question, I held out for him to say i love you first ! Actually, I wasn’t expecting it so soon… Aww reminiscing 🙂
Post # 11
I’m normally an “all or nothing” person too but after one date with my now-husband, I met someone else and told DH that I wanted to see where the other relationship was going to go and didn’t want to string him along. Thank God he was still there a month later when things had cooled down with “other guy”! And the rest is history.
I guess relationships don’t always progress in a linear way, so it’s best to be open to all possiblities:)
Post # 12
I don’t really get the casual dating thing either. Honestly, I’d just feel weird seeing multiple people at once… even if they knew that I was dating other people, I think I’d still feel like I was sneaking around behind someone’s back, LoL. FI & I dated for almost 3 weeks before we were official. The “I love yous” came a little over a month later, I think.
Post # 13
We were official by our second ‘date’. Our first ‘date’ was supposed to be just coffee as friends, but it was definitely more.
As for “I love you”s, I can’t remember the exact date/time, but it was pretty shortly after we got together. We had been saying it as friends for a few months, so it was natural.
Post # 14
My FI and I were hanging out as friends for probably about a month before dating, we made it official on the first date haha.
I love you came between 3 and 4 months. Though I felt it earlier than that :).
Post # 15
My fiance and I were originally sort of in a friends-with-benefits arrangement. A few months into it I’d stopped trying to sleep with other people, and we were having a fight about making pie crust when he asked if we could be official. I was thrown, but agreed.
Post # 16
It was around a month or so that we decided that we wanted to officially be a couple. but we werent seeing anyone else before that anyways. lol